Do you believe in love?

[lawrawrrr]

This is such a serious thread omg but yeah

IDK I've been thinking about it and I just find it such a strange abstract concept!! I'm quite a logical person so when I think about something like that it just kinda weirds me out.

I've totally believed I've been "in love" before but then I look back and think, erm, god no. I clearly just liked that person. It's so easy to confuse a crush or lust for love but it seems like when you're together for a while it's EXPECTED to say it and its just UGH. Pressures. I just feel like if you say it too early or before you're sure then if it does happen, you've lost that moment really, and if you realise afterwards you were never in love with that person you can't take that back.

I mean there's nothing technically WRONG with saying "I love you" too early or looking back and realising its not true because end of the day, that's how the person made you feel at the time, right???


SECOND TOPIC: Do you get offended/upset if someone doesn't say "I love you" back?

I don't, because people fall in love at different rates and it's not right to feel pressured to say it back. Although it can be weird when someone says they love you and you DONT KNOW HOW TO REPLY because "thank you" just seems like the worst thing in the world and "awww I like you too" is just awkward... but maybe that's just me!!

[buttons]

yes of course. didn't for a long while because "love is scientific and chemical".... doesn't mean it's not real! i don't think love that finishes wasn't real and i don't think there's a one true love for you, you can fall in love with almost anyone at any time imo. i used to find that notion so depressing and think "if i can fall in love with anyone, how is it special?". but ive come to realize that sometimes loving someone is CHOOSING to love them and be with them & i think that's more special than being with someone because of 'destiny' or whatever.

no i wouldn't be offended and yes i would be upset they don't say it back but i would rather they say it when they're ready and when they want to, not because they feel pressurised.

[Empired]

Of course love exists. I know this isn't what you're asking about but I look at my mum and know that I love her and actually I look at my dog and know that I love her too.

I just think a lot of people don't really get what love is because the media (films especially) have painted it to be long walks and beach houses in the rain. To me, love is caring about someone enough to get really really angry at them but still want to be with them afterwards.

[Inseriousity.]

I believe there is someone out there for everyone. Not to be confused with soulmates because I find that ridiculous but mainly because human behaviour is not as unique as people would like to believe. There are 7 billion people on the planet and you are bound to meet at least one person who likes your quirks whether that's someone who's logical or someone who wears their heart on their sleeve or someone who rushes into things. Regardless of whether they're an exact replica of you or the polar opposite, you will be loved for who you are.

Yes I'd be upset because it'd suck to know you're the person who's further forward in the relationship. Not offended as I know that it happens but it'd still suck. LOL yes saying "thank you" or "I love me too" is the totally wrong thing to say.

I am voting option 2 because that's how my head read this thread title

[lawrawrrr]

Of course love exists. I know this isn't what you're asking about but I look at my mum and know that I love her and actually I look at my dog and know that I love her too.

I just think a lot of people don't really get what love is because the media (films especially) have painted it to be long walks and beach houses in the rain. To me, love is caring about someone enough to get really really angry at them but still want to be with them afterwards.

I did mean romantic love in this thread rather than familial!!!

[Lewis]

I don't think there's any difference in the love you feel for family, friends or someone in a relationship (assuming you're close to your family etc). Everything else in a relationship is just lust and attraction.

I don't know what I'd put for the poll because, for example, I don't see the love felt for a boyfriend/girlfriend any different to the love felt for a family member.

[Empired]

I did mean romantic love in this thread rather than familial!!!

I know but I don't think there's a difference. Love is love but it just manifests in slightly different ways and presents itself differently the longer it's been about. I don't really see any difference between so-called "romantic" and "familial" love but I really am no expert on this kind of thing.

[FlyingJesus]

I believe in a thing called love JUST LISTEN TO THE RHYTHM OF MY HEART

[Yupt]

most definitely. although i understand now why so many people don't, kinda have to experience it first.

[Samantha]

I think love definitely exists, but it can exist in so many ways the word 'love' could be so vague!

I believe I loved my first proper boyfriend, I believe I loved my second proper boyfriend and I believe I love my current boyfriend. However, each way I've 'loved' them is different and the reasons surrounding them can also be different.

In the first two relationships, we both said I love you at the same period of time, it just felt like the right thing to say and although I don't regret saying it immediately, the second relationship might have been worth waiting - nearer the end of it I didn't get told I was loved apart from when they signed when I said it and forcefully said it back. I don't like that, I would rather it be said properly or not at all. However, I believe I loved them both, but I think when you love someone you also let them go when you know they're not right or no longer right for you or what you need. If you loved them and they were the one then they will potentially come back if you are indeed made for each other.

My current relationship was a bit different, it has been different to all my other relationships before and it's really nice seeing a different side to love and how you feel about a person. In this relationship, the person told me they loved me before we were properly going out (which I didn't mind, and he understood why I didn't say it back). The day after I said I love you to him too and it was a great thing, we really never get tired of hearing the other one say they love the other, and we say it in front of people - something that never came that quick any other time in a relationship. I think love is when you just think the person is the best for you, worth a fight or the effort if it's a bit harder to do things or see each other (something I am going through now) and although you could potentially break up and be miserable for a different reason, you don't want to be, you fight through it and make every time you spend together magical.

I definitely believe love exists, but I believe it's different to everyone and there is not a single definition of the word and the feelings, it's what you make it. I believe you can be in love with someone, I believe you can stop loving someone or fall out of loving someone, but it doesn't necessarily mean you never loved them, it was just a different kind of love!