Confidence boost and boy troubles.

[beth]

Bethie are you serious?
When I was in year eight, it was the year of two fingers, as in everyone was getting fingered and everyone was making out with everyone haha.

LOL. well same, but.. it is good to wait these days. we are old & wise.

[Mentor]

bah, people worry to much. if you just focused on trying to get a boyfriend your most likely gona fail. Just be socable, makes friends, get to know people etc, dont set out with an aim, target or plan or you'l probs freeze up over thinking everything "/ But thats juts my philopshy, im a very go with the flow kind of person.

Secondly the msn ones kinda expected, i mean, if a random contact says "hello" to you, you often say "hi" or whatever back, true, but then useualy youd expect who ever greeted you to ask or say somthing, or it just seems as they wanted to say hell etc. The big problem with conversations like that is useless small talk, how are you, stuff like that, it doesnt really go anyware. talk about somthing interesting, ask somthing more open ended, something if someone wants the can open up in to a proper converation about..

or if your really in to trying to become more socable, id have to say some of the stuff on http://www.lifehack.org/ makes for a very interesting read and can open your eyes to stuff u wouldnt normaly consider.

[lAdmire]

You shouldn't be ashamed. It doesn't matter if you've had a boyfriend or not. It's best to find the right guy who you know you'll be with forever instead of dating one then moving on to another.

Well, I think you should go out & do something special for yourself. Get your hair done, go on a little shopping spree, treat yourself. Go to the spa. Whatever. Come back to school feeling nice & maybe this will give you a boost of confidence & then when you go back to school, you'll feel refreshed. Try & start conversations like:
Hi
How are you
What year are you in?
What classes do you take?

Get to know him & stuff.

[Ashley 12344]

oh, i feel so stupid making a thread about this but..
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i'm really shy, i'm in year 8, going to year 9
i've liked quite a few boys in my year recently, but none enough to like, that i could ever possibily go out with. and ones that i do like enough, i know wouldn't like me back. either that or they don't know who i am.

i currently like a boy in a different house, but he's in the same year.
he probably doesn't know my name. but i know his & stuff.
i have him on messenger, i spoke to him the other say & said hey,
he replied with "hi" and that was it, end of conversation.

so, the problem is. i need an approach for boys better.
i need something to boost my confidence, but not too high, just high enough to get me more sociable around people, especially boys.
i'm really shy, like i said before so it might take alot of advice.

and i've never had a boyfriend... it really knocks my confidence.
^ thats the point i really didnt want to tell you.
it's so embarrassing. i had a like, "boyfriend" in year 1, 2. THAT IS IT.
i feel so stupid. is it right that ive not had a boyfriend yet?
i feel embarrassed.


thanks so much, please help.

+reps will be provided

Alcohol. Seriously. If you can get them in a 'party'/socialising situation, alcohol helps people (not loads though).

Wouldn't fret too much though.

[Luayminator]

Everyone's "not had a bf before" at some point in their life. Youre gonna be in a relationship someday because it happens to everyone, the confidence is gonna come on its own.. when the time is right.

[lew!]

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/com...dos-donts.html

any use?

[lDuckFunk]

Just Start talking to Him on Msn More, Then as You Pass Him in School Smile and Say Hi or something. Then You will be able to Have Face - Face Conversations with Him, and Don't Worry If it Doesn't work, There's Plenty more Fish in the Sea (And Even more in my Fishtank) And Remember some People Die a Virgin, Not me though

[Earthquake]

My advice would not to go out with anyone, nd if you fancy someone, allow your feelings to grow before going out with them as you will become bored easy.

[Tristan]

oh, i feel so stupid making a thread about this but..
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i'm really shy, i'm in year 8, going to year 9
i've liked quite a few boys in my year recently, but none enough to like, that i could ever possibily go out with. and ones that i do like enough, i know wouldn't like me back. either that or they don't know who i am.

i currently like a boy in a different house, but he's in the same year.
he probably doesn't know my name. but i know his & stuff.
i have him on messenger, i spoke to him the other say & said hey,
he replied with "hi" and that was it, end of conversation.

so, the problem is. i need an approach for boys better.
i need something to boost my confidence, but not too high, just high enough to get me more sociable around people, especially boys.
i'm really shy, like i said before so it might take alot of advice.

and i've never had a boyfriend... it really knocks my confidence.
^ thats the point i really didnt want to tell you.
it's so embarrassing. i had a like, "boyfriend" in year 1, 2. THAT IS IT.
i feel so stupid. is it right that ive not had a boyfriend yet?
i feel embarrassed.


thanks so much, please help.

+reps will be provided

Only read to the third paragraph.
The worst thing to do imo is just talk to him on messenger. I would always get annoyed when some people that I wouldn't even talk to that much randomly contact me with "hey, howz u?".
Try and actually talk to him at school and stuff. Talk to his friends too. That's what I would do.

EDIT: Read all of it.
Hell, I'd be more embarressed if I had a girlfriend rather than not. I don't now and haven't had since Year 6 (now going into 11). I'm fine and dandy without one at the moment, although I'd rather have someone to go to the May Ball with next year (which oddly occurs in June...). Boyfriends and Girlfriends aren't really important at your age imo, and not really at my age either. I find it pointless as it always ends somewhen. When people grow up into the late teens and early twenties, that's when it's actually important.

EDIT: Having read entor's post, I guess that mine is quite like his.