What can I do to help her?

[sarey]

Hi everyone.

Well, lately my friend has been looking extremely ill lately.
She has lost A LOT of weight, and her clothes are bagging off of her, she looks quite pale, and she is getting some bold patches too, her eyes are quite lifeless, and they look very sore... (red, veiny)
I recognized these sort of things because another friend of mine struggles with an eating disorder.

Well, today, I had a word with her, told her I'm very worried about her and if there is anything going on, that she can tell me. After a lot of 'I'm here for you' and 'you can tell me anythings', she told me that she had been making herself sick. I asked her how many times a day. She told me whenever she eats, she makes herself sick. She told me also that she doesn't eat for a few days too. This obviously shocked me and it made me cry for quite a while... I asked her why she does this, she said 'I need to do it, I feel in control so much when I do it, I have to do it'
She kept repeating herself.

She made me promise I wouldn't tell anybody, but this is so worrying and it's dangerous, she looks like ... just... horrid... she looks like death and it hurts me so much because I want to help her...

but how?


And please, only serious posts.

[cocaine]

talk to someone such as a teacher or councillor in school, they'll be able to help more than you will just on your own

[Redacted]

talk to her parents maybe, if not confront her, and tell her that she needs to buck up her ideas.

[sarey]

By the looks of it, she's being doing this for a while, and with my other friend, telling them to 'buck up their ideas'... didn't do a lot... I just don't want her to be mad at me for telling someone... Damn I wish I didn't promise her now...

[:Edzy]

You have to tell someone for things to change, theres nothing you can really do alone. But you also have to empathise for her because there are reasons why people do this. It could be stress or plenty of other reasons.

[Bef]

Its seriously scary how young girls can make themselves soo ill and there parents dont notice. One of my best mates has been batteling with an eating disorder since she was 13. Its a serious issue and she needs help. My friend was on the brink of death at one point. Luckily shes getting alot better now.
I suggest you ask a teacher or her parent if theyve noticed anything. She needs help, and she will thank you for it one day. it may be that her parent has noticed something but is in denial.

[Pazza]

Tell her that your their, and if she's willing to try and stop, your going to help her.

And, try and get her parents to talk to her, because if you can't get through to her her parents should.

[luce]

Hi everyone.

Well, lately my friend has been looking extremely ill lately.
She has lost A LOT of weight, and her clothes are bagging off of her, she looks quite pale, and she is getting some bold patches too, her eyes are quite lifeless, and they look very sore... (red, veiny)
I recognized these sort of things because another friend of mine struggles with an eating disorder.

Well, today, I had a word with her, told her I'm very worried about her and if there is anything going on, that she can tell me. After a lot of 'I'm here for you' and 'you can tell me anythings', she told me that she had been making herself sick. I asked her how many times a day. She told me whenever she eats, she makes herself sick. She told me also that she doesn't eat for a few days too. This obviously shocked me and it made me cry for quite a while... I asked her why she does this, she said 'I need to do it, I feel in control so much when I do it, I have to do it'
She kept repeating herself.

She made me promise I wouldn't tell anybody, but this is so worrying and it's dangerous, she looks like ... just... horrid... she looks like death and it hurts me so much because I want to help her...

but how?


And please, only serious posts.

We are doing this in PHSCE and i think you should talk to her about getting help. The thing is while your making yourself sick you don't get extreemly thin becuase your body has already absorbed the fat ect your just sicking up all the good aka nutriants.

But honestly shes needs help althought the may not be faital atm she is doing great damage to her throat straining to be sick and her teeth are deaedful becuase of the acid in the sick all the enamal will be gone

[Jordy]

I can't really help but encase you want to find out more about it and try find help for her, the eating disorder she most probably has is called Bulimia.

[PaintYourTarget]

Let her do it. I know it's hard to watch but it's her choice. She'll have a wake up call one day and decide to stop on her own. It's harsh, sorry, but it generally works.