First kiss

[vicious]

so basically, i'm 13 and i'm in year 8, soon to go into year 9. and i've not had a boyfriend since infant school, year 1/2. all my friends are getting recent boyfriends and it gets me really down because i haven't. i feel really pressured into getting one. also i've never 'got off' with a boy or anything like that before, and me and one of my other good friends are the only one in our group that hasn't. nearly everyone i know has and it gets me really upset and makes me think that something is wrong with me, even though i know there isn't. i'm not going to lie and say i'm ugly, because i know i'm not. i'm a decent looking 13 year old girl, and i'm really nice, so why can't i get a boyfriend?

i've spoke to my mum about it before, and she keeps telling me that if i'm worried about having my first kiss then i can't be ready, and that she didn't have her first kiss until she was 16 and she didn't have a her first boyfriend until she was 17. and although i know she's telling the truth and some people don't have boyfriends until they're older, it just doesn't make me feel much better because of my peers that have. i know of a couple of guys that have liked me, but i've never done anything about it.

on friday four of my friends went out to the skate park and got drunk and got off with loads of guys from our school, and because they know i'm not exactly happy about not having a boyfriend, they're telling me to go get drunk with them and then go get off with guys and stuff. and my other friend that hasn't kissed anyone before and one of my other friends, they're going to club place and apparently everyone there asks you to get off with them, and i said i'd go, but that's not how i want to get my first kiss over and done with. i want it to be special and with someone that i actually like, but i just don't think i can keep waiting while all my friends are out getting boyfriends.

i know it sounds pretty immature, but i really need advice.
and if you just read all that, thank you so much.

[Leetzgirl]

Rmemeber that they only getting the guys becasue they are easier to get use as .

[myke]

You're still young, being single isn't all that bad, don't worry about it, just do one thing, don't follow the trend.

[vicious]

Rmemeber that they only getting the guys becasue they are easier to get use as .

it's kind of more like they use them sometimes. they'll go out with them for a day and they'll barely know each other anyway. sometimes i think they just want to get off with them.

You're still young, being single isn't all that bad, don't worry about it, just do one thing, don't follow the trend.

i know, and i'm going to try not to. it's just hard and it gets me really down, especially since i'm like overly sensitive about this kind of stuff. but thanks, i'll try anyway.

+rep to both, thanks for replying.

[myke]

If you need someone to talk to, you know how to PM me

[brandon]

You're quite mature for your age. Saying that, I was too. :8
I know it's hard to take if you're in the minority but the only thing you can do is to bide your time and ignore what anyone says.

[vicious]

You're quite mature for your age. Saying that, I was too. :8
I know it's hard to take if you're in the minority but the only thing you can do is to bide your time and ignore what anyone says.

thankfully no-one says anything. it's just me myself that gets bothered about it.

[Georgia]

wait till the time comes and don't just get off with someone for the sake of it unless you really want too. if you want it to be special wait till you find the right one =]
dw about what anyone thinks

[brandon]

thankfully no-one says anything. it's just me myself that gets bothered about it.

I see. And if other people are like mentioning who they kissed around you etc I can understand why that would make you feel uncomfortable. I'm not sure if that happened to you or not. But if not then in that case it's only you who is making yourself worry about it when you shouldn't really care.

[Camy]

I would just wait until you meet someone it'll be special with.
I wouldn't waste it on a stranger, you want it to be a moment you remember for the rest of your life.
Mines was very memorable, and I'm glad it was with someone I really liked.