Internet 'love'

[Favourtism]

I was kind of wondering how to reply to this, but I know how .
Yeah but if you really love someone it doesn't give them a reason to love you, as I said the trust barrier isn't there, relationships have to be built on trust, no trust = no relationship in all honesty.



I wasn't intending to twist your words, that's what i thought you ment. What do you mean by finish 'it' - once i understand ill show my views.

Youve gotta have trust in any relationship, offline or online? :s

[,Lexiilu]

I mean that it's very very hard for most people to stop loving someone until their heart is 100% ready. And I think that if you've started an e-relationship, quite obviously you know that you can trust the person unless you're a *****. (not you personally, anyone )

[Middlesbrough]

Youve gotta have trust in any relationship, offline or online? :s

Thats what i was trying to point out?
Just because you trust a person, they have the chance to do anything they want and you can't supervise them.

I mean that it's very very hard for most people to stop loving someone until their heart is 100% ready. And I think that if you've started an e-relationship, quite obviously you know that you can trust the person unless you're a *****.

Just because you trust a person, they have the chance to do anything they want and you can't supervise them, at the end of the day i don't see why you would want an e-relationship in the majorities opinion its just not right, one of the reasons for this is because just because you put your trust in someone it doesn't mean they can be trusted, long range they can't.

By the way, what im saying isn't ment to offend its just my view.

[Favourtism]

The way I see it, there are liers and cheats everwhere. You either trust someone or you dont. You gamble whether to be lonely or be broken hearted/a great relationship and this applies to irl and e-dating. You say supervise like when someone looks after a child and supervises them?

[Middlesbrough]

The way I see it, there are liers and cheats everwhere. You either trust someone or you dont. You gamble whether to be lonely or be broken hearted/a great relationship and this applies to irl and e-dating. You say supervise like when someone looks after a child and supervises them?

I'm saying supervise more in the way that you don't let them go out and get laid.
I have to agree with you there Tom, but i still don't see the point in e-dating, its not helping you in any way, and in a way its a bit of a confidence dropper.

[Lee.Norman]

In all honesty, you don't choose to fall in love with someone online. It would be much easier in real life, but the heart wants what it wants. If theres a connection, and its too strong to fight, you just go with it.

As for trust... All relationships do need trust. But do you have to meet someone before you can trust them? Of course not. As I said at the start of the thread, love isnt physical, its emotional. So is a physical meeting required?

As for saying they aren't real, and they end faster. I've only ever had one online relationship, and it lasted for 5 months. And after 4 years, we still talk on the phone and online. Even though the relationship is over, I still care about her... And sometimes its horrible as she lives so far away, and I wish I could turn these feelings off. But I cant. And believe me, Ive tried.

So don't say its not real, because once you've experienced it, you know exactly how real it is.

[leah]

I agree with the above. I don't think people chose to fall in love over the internet, it's probably awkward, complicated and painful ... but I guess it's possible.

[buttons]

Agreed with Leah and Lee.Norman. You can't control who your heart loves, even if they are over the internet. It is real, so I don't think you should knock it until you try it either

yeah i've tried. years ago. for like a week. & it felt so silly and stupid i wondered why i did it :S wait till you grow up

i thought we had something.... DAMN YOU JEN

sorry

how can pixel love be real?
Its like saying 'Yeah i have a dog on the internet and its real!'

lmao

You don't need a body to fill the space.

yes, you do. If you've experienced love in real life you'd understand.

I don't see why it wouldn't be entirely possible for one projected persona to develop strong feelings for another projected persona, regardless of embodiment or proximity.

ye, wot he said

Look, if you're saying that e-daters don't have lives, you just dissed quite a few people on habbox staff or ex habbox staff. I think it's rude that you're telling people who can't control their feelings that they have no lives. Besides, have you ever fallen in love or liked someone over the internet?

i think you mean habboxlive staff. I reckon they don't have lives neither, obviously if they look for love on the internet. Okay, so maybe you didn't look for it but the fact you find it on the internet is distrubing enough ^_^ sure, there's never anyone decent irl i know, but how are you gonna live your life if you start it by dating someone on the internet?!?!?!

You wouldn't know whether I do or don't tbh unless I told you. And I have. e-Relationships do last, I have a friend whose been dating her boyfriend for over 4 months already and they're quite happy. It's one of my very few r.l friends that actually understands e-dating, but she does and I've watched her and I can assure you that there's nothing wrong with what she's doing or what I'm doing for that matter. You make it sound like it's so easy not to fall in love with someone, when in reality, it isn't. Most people can't let themselves part from the person they love. I was in love with my ex for awhile until I finally got over him and the person I like now is an e-friend. So, it's not that easy.

e-relationships don't last. I remember having a few and i looked back and was like "oh my god, WHY"

In all honesty, you don't choose to fall in love with someone online. It would be much easier in real life, but the heart wants what it wants. If theres a connection, and its too strong to fight, you just go with it.

As for trust... All relationships do need trust. But do you have to meet someone before you can trust them? Of course not. As I said at the start of the thread, love isnt physical, its emotional. So is a physical meeting required?

As for saying they aren't real, and they end faster. I've only ever had one online relationship, and it lasted for 5 months. And after 4 years, we still talk on the phone and online. Even though the relationship is over, I still care about her... And sometimes its horrible as she lives so far away, and I wish I could turn these feelings off. But I cant. And believe me, Ive tried.

So don't say its not real, because once you've experienced it, you know exactly how real it is.

you need affection & care for love. How are you gonna get that online? nah i don't think edaters need to meet up, it wouldn't be worth it, you aint gonna stay together no matter what you think and it's a waste of time. it's not real, i've thought i liked people but god i was wrong

[leah]

Jen remember when you liked harry?

[buttons]

Jen remember when you liked harry?

i also think i like people, neva eva do!
anyway, i know why these guys are getting defensive, they are the edaters.. I thought e-dating itself was bad, but when i find out the ages of them..:rolleyes: you can't say you're not desperate if you're a 16 year old guy edating a .. 13? year old girl