General rudeness and lack of empathy.

[VelvetClover]

I was on my way into town on the bus today. On one side of the bus are flip up seats so buggies and wheelchairs etc can have easier access. A young woman had her huge buggy in this area and she was sitting across from it on on the front of the bus seats which are marked as being for the elderly, disabled or those otherwise unable to stand/walk far or whatever.

The bus wasn't too packed at first so it was okay, but then more people and also loads of old people started getting on, who needed seats obviously. The woman stands up for a moment to check something on the buggy or her child or something and an elderly man takes her seat on the crowded bus. She complains - "jump in my grave!" I just couldn't believe anyone could be so rude or selfish - she would have quite happily remained sitting there while a frail old man had to stand up on a moving bus for his journey. Whatever happened to common courtesy and empathy for others?

On the way back on the bus, it was crowded again. A rather large young woman and her friend who both had buggies boarded the bus. Instead of waiting patiently for a moment while the people seated in the flip up seat area got up to make way for her, or politely asking them to move so she could wheel her buggy into place, she simply shouts out "YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO MOVE!"

Of course, she has every right to use the allocated places for her buggy, of course she does but why did she have to shout so rudely at a load of passengers who would have happily moved for her anyway?
The two women also had two young toddlers with them, who proceeded to sit behind me and my mum. A few minutes later, we both felt a spray of wet on our backs and I looked round to see the little boy with his hands covered in spit and throwing his bit of chewing gum out of the window and smearing the window in his saliva. Nice.

I moved because I felt sick and watched as the little girl played about with the window next to my mums head and snapped it closed. Kids will be kids I know but surely these women should have controlled their children and prevented them from spraying people with spit and fiddling with the windows. The little girl could have easily trapped her fingers in the window which would have been awful.
I'm not a mother, but I'm sure it's difficult having kids but still, it looked as though the women knew this was going on and did nothing to prevent it.

Am I being grumpy and stuck up here or is my annoyance justified?

[Blue]

I know what you mean, especially with buses not being the most comfortable of public transport, it never helps when some people basically act selfish/so regardless of others, so yes, I think your annoyance is justified

Edit: Strangely enough, I used Brighton in my english exam today, what a coininkydink

[PaulMacC]

Hm, it's all true though. People are too rude nowdays.

[Catzsy]

I just hate bad manners and its people of all ages now. I am always getting mowed down in Asda by people on those invalid scooters. Still those of us who care can still be polite and help where we can.

[dirrty]

people have no respect for anything or anyone nowadays. its a pity.

[Mint]

I have been getting the bus for 4 school years every single day. Things like this happen quite often. One morning I got on the bus, all the seats where took apart from one. There was a man who looked around 40 who was sat in the seat next to it so I said "excuse me please" and he said "your legs are younger than mine, you can stand" All I wanted him to do was move up :S so I explained that I wanted to sit in the seat next to him rather than me taking his seat and he just looked at me and said "you heard me". I just gave him a confused look and walked to the front of the bus where I stood for most of the journey until someone got off the bus. You have to remember that a bus is a form of public transport, there are many odd people in the public.

[Immenseman]

I don't see why people don't say things. Like on the bus if someone is playing tinny music on their phone I will ask them to use headfones or turn it off because it's a public space (depending on their size ) like at the cinema when someone is kicking your seat. I ask them to stop because I'm trying to enjoy the film.

Take control of your situation!

[Mint]

I don't see why people don't say things. Like on the bus if someone is playing tinny music on their phone I will ask them to use headfones or turn it off because it's a public space (depending on their size ) like at the cinema when someone is kicking your seat. I ask them to stop because I'm trying to enjoy the film.

Take control of your situation!

I agree but it isn't always the right thing to do, some people that you may encounter won't retaliate in a normal manner no matter how you express yourself. It may be because of their background or mental problems. For example; If you asked a group of scallys sat at the back of the bus to turn off their music, do you really think they would do? Not to mention how they would react to you. Same with people who are a bit loopy or just plain ignorant, they won't listen to you and will just go on with themselves. Best of just leaving it sometimes.

[Andeeh]

if it was a whitehawk number 1 bus then it says it all.

i gave up my seat once for a pregnant lady

[Corporal]

If i was in any of those situations i would of told them to **** off.

Like the old dude, someone ones saying about. I would of just barged past and sat down. His own fault