Cousin Coming Over ~ 4 YEARS!

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Think how he's feeling, leaving his parents and going to a place he can't even speak the language of and with people he hasn't seen for years. He's probably going to feel like a total outcast, you've got your friends and your parents, he's going to be coming over with nothing and for 4 years and I'm guessing after that he'll be staying in England if he's here to get into a uni? So it's going to be even harder on him. Set some ground rules when he gets there (if he can understand), like certain chores, remember he's in your care and he can't exactly turn down anything you say because he has to live in your house, otherwise tell him he can go straight back.

If your mums struggling with looking after your house then why don't you help and tell him too aswell, this time it could be more people the better in terms of getting stuff done so it might not be that bad. Infact, he's 17, old enough for a job, when his english gets better I'm sure he can get a job and pay for rent or something, get his own house :S Why on earth are your parents paying for his uni? That's ridiculous, you should definitely get that sorted and sorry but that's not how money and family work unfortunately, I can't see why he'd need to stay for 4 years and the fact they're putting him into your care to help him should mean something to you?? If you don't like it and your parents don't like it then surely they could just say NO, especially until the money for his uni etc is sorted out.

[kuzkasate]

Think how he's feeling, leaving his parents and going to a place he can't even speak the language of and with people he hasn't seen for years. He's probably going to feel like a total outcast, you've got your friends and your parents, he's going to be coming over with nothing and for 4 years and I'm guessing after that he'll be staying in England if he's here to get into a uni? So it's going to be even harder on him. Set some ground rules when he gets there (if he can understand), like certain chores, remember he's in your care and he can't exactly turn down anything you say because he has to live in your house, otherwise tell him he can go straight back.

If your mums struggling with looking after your house then why don't you help and tell him too aswell, this time it could be more people the better in terms of getting stuff done so it might not be that bad. Infact, he's 17, old enough for a job, when his english gets better I'm sure he can get a job and pay for rent or something, get his own house :S Why on earth are your parents paying for his uni? That's ridiculous, you should definitely get that sorted and sorry but that's not how money and family work unfortunately, I can't see why he'd need to stay for 4 years and the fact they're putting him into your care to help him should mean something to you?? If you don't like it and your parents don't like it then surely they could just say NO, especially until the money for his uni etc is sorted out.

We have thought of a little chore list and I do help my mum and when I can. Like I said, a job isnt for him he would use his excuse of not knowing english when he has lived here before and does not it quite well. When he comes I'll tell him what I expect so he doesnt hogg my bedroom and stuff and if he doesnt like it well, i'd be happy to buy him a ticket back to russia oh and the money and that has already been paid for uni hes coming on 8th August

[Invent]

I think your parents are probably old enough to make intelligent decisions. If they couldn't cope having the guy they wouldn't..

[Catchy]

Family are family, you help them out they will help you out. yes it may seem a bit unfair at the moment although maybe in a few years you will do the same thing, thats what family are for, helping each other.

I beg to differ, sure that's what we all want but does it happen? In lots of cases, no.

[Dan2nd]

Surely if it was really that bad for your parents they could have just said no and not agreed to take him in?

If your Aunt and uncle are as rich as your saying what was stopping them from buying their son a place of his own to stay in?

[Technologic]

lock him out

[kuzkasate]

I think your parents are probably old enough to make intelligent decisions. If they couldn't cope having the guy they wouldn't..

My parents probably will cope, they cant exactly say no anyway. They're not like that

I beg to differ, sure that's what we all want but does it happen? In lots of cases, no.

Very true indeed

Surely if it was really that bad for your parents they could have just said no and not agreed to take him in?

If your Aunt and uncle are as rich as your saying what was stopping them from buying their son a place of his own to stay in?

I already mentioned this. If he lives on his own, he will slack and not do any uni work and probably skip lectures. We are also here to surpervise his learning

lock him out

I'll try

[Caution]

I think they're being really selfish from what you've said, but surely your parents could ask for some money from them seeing as they've got plenty? They are doing him a favour. It seems like they're just using you considering they haven't been over in years, I would have thought you would have just said no.

[kuzkasate]

I think they're being really selfish from what you've said, but surely your parents could ask for some money from them seeing as they've got plenty? They are doing him a favour. It seems like they're just using you considering they haven't been over in years, I would have thought you would have just said no.

Yh my parents are abit soft hearted. I'll persuade them to ask for money! It may seem bit sick but to me its right.

[5,5]

Well having read through this thread it seems to me like any optimistic thinking anyone has offered you have replied with making him out to be the worst person in the world. You have to deal with him for 4 years. Get used to it and it wont be that big of a deal.