HELP ME! +rep

[xxMATTGxx]

'You cannot really fix trust issues with a stand alone act, trust is hard to recover it takes time.'

Although if you cut the smoking (like you said on msn) then I'm sure he will accept it and move onto the next step .

[Catzsy]

Well I think you really have to sit down and reflect why you made 'mistakes' in the first place. Patterns of behaviour can repeat themselves and is it the loss you are suffering rather than a real desire to reconcile yourself with the person? It can take a long time to get over a person and sometimes the with the pain & guilt it seems that it would be much easier to resume a relationship. Having had problems in my family I can tell you that things are never the same again but if you can accept that it will be different and this time decide what sort of relationship you want that can be agreed with the person it would save a lot of misunderstandings. You cannot prove your self in five minutes - trust takes a long time to build up again and during this time
the other person is going to feel very insecure. It can work though as long as there is complete honesty,empathy and & understanding on both sides, I think.

[Meanies]

Buy him some roses and sing him a song

[FlyingJesus]

Well I think you really have to sit down and reflect why you made 'mistakes' in the first place.

He was drunk and hard tbh

[LuketheDuke]

sure you havent got fixated on focusing on all the good but not bad parts of your relationship man?

happens to a lot of us so its good to really think about that before doing anything youd regret.

[Catzsy]

He was drunk and hard tbh

Well I know perhaps you were joking here but, if you are right, unless he becomes a monk the same situation will probably occur which is okay provided that the other person accepts it which by the sound of it is not the case.

[luce]

I really think all you can do is talk, they do say actions speak louder then words but i don't see what you can do but open up to him and really just tell him everything that may effect your relationship. When he knows it all and he sees how much you are willing to tell him and all that then i don't see why he wouldn't want to get back with you, i'm pretty sure he already wants you because he wouldn't have given you this oppertunity if not.

That's just how i see it. It really does depend what you did aswell