My Boyfriend and i.

[Nikki]

I have been dating my boyfriend for like 3 weeks, or sommet like that.
but he goes so weird with me when i speak to other boys and he admits meaning a jealous person. but i have loads of friends who are boys, my bestfriend is a boy...

I feel akward around him now :S

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[Megan.]

OMG nikki that happened to my friend just tell him thats what she did ily xxxxxxx

[Starburst..x]

I think you need to talk to him and seriously say that your upset at how he treats you when you talk to other boys, and that you are perfectly within your right to chat with, go out with (as a friend) and hang around with boys. This is in the same that I bet he has plenty of girl friends and doesn't think twice about chatting to them or being friends with them, you need to point out that this is no different. Obviously I know that there is going to be twinges or jealously when you both hang around with people of the opposite sex, thats normal! But when he starts to get all posessive over you - and in what seems in quite a strong way, particularly as he acts funny with you, then you need to tell him he has to sort it out or it is and will continue to cause tension between you both.

[Immenseman]

you have to tell him you have friends of both sex and just because you're talking to a boy doesn't mean you like them any more as a friend. you're still quite young so i guess your partner is and such things are common. i know they happen in adult relationships too but not as much.

also, if he can't trust you to talk to other boys then it doesn't sound like a great relationship that'll last anyway.

[Alkaz]

You're three weeks into a relationship, if you think its going to be such a problem then just confront him about it.

[Suspective]

he sounds wayy to overprotective

[Bevvie]

Yeah there needs to be trust in the relationship.
You need to tell him that they are only guy friends and he needs to stop being too overprotective otherwise its going to be hard. If he doesn't listen, then whats the point. Friends are important too.

[Browney]

I have been dating my boyfriend for like 3 weeks, or sommet like that.
but he goes so weird with me when i speak to other boys and he admits meaning a jealous person. but i have loads of friends who are boys, my bestfriend is a boy...

I feel akward around him now :S

Having been this boy myself, I'll testify as to how poisonous it can be to the relationship. If he can't trust you, either he's insecure, so you should assure him or you're doing things to make him jealous. I've been on the giving and receiving end of this treatment. My current girlfriend gets annoyed when I talk to an "old flame" of mine even though I haven't liked her since year 7. But then you take a couple of steps backwards and look in on how they might see it. I went on a walk to the park with my dog with a pretty girl who I'm very close to, whilst my girlfriend was on holiday. I'm just saying, everyone seems to be adamant it's all the guy's fault, and maybe he has a reason to be jealous?

also, if he can't trust you to talk to other boys then it doesn't sound like a great relationship that'll last anyway.

I beg to differ. That relationship I was in where I was being made jealous lasted 8 months. O_O

[Swinkid]

I Used to be protective over my girlfriend for a few weeks, this is because i loved her so much (I still do, loads!) but as i got to know her friends who we're boys, i started to become friends with them, and i could trust my girlfriend and the boys she was around with. Im fine with her talking to boys now, and i feel our relationship has become stronger because of it.

But even then, you have got to think on how he feels, you could even be getting jealous yourself from him talking to other girls, therefore if you do, you should know how he feels. I think he loves you alot and dosent want to loose you, thats why he may feel abit insecure. You may just have to give him time to come around abit, youve only been going out for 3 weeks!

I suggest you either talk to him, or introduce him to your friends, and try and get them to become friends. If all fails, and he still dosen't trust you with boys, i think you should let him go, it wont last because the main thing you need in a relationship is trust. So, i think you will need a goodluck. Goodluck.

Thanks, Alex.
(Swinkid as many people know me as on this forum.)

[iAdam]

Most guys are very protective, he obviously values you alot. Don't take advantage of that, just remember he gets jealous easy and reassure him alot.

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