Do you care if your kids are gay?

[-:Undertaker:-]

You are seriously behind the times - gay adoption has been allowed for years.

Are you suggesting that gay couples adopt children as a 'token'? They adopt because like any other childless couples they want children. There is really nothing to suggest that their welfare suffers and if they get teased about this then it is no different to be teased about being fat, wearing glasses or any other ism you would like to mention. Adoption is a very serious matter and couples are vetted very closely to make sure they are suitable.

And your point is? - just because something doesnt fit in with your view or has been allowed for a few years does not mean 'I am behind with the times'.

On the issue of token, where have I said or even hinted that I think that? - the fact is that I have not. I have said very clearly that the rights of children should come before the banner of equality and thats how it should be. Kids get bullied for being fat yes, but in many cases with kids that isnt preventable whereas bullying over having two dads or two mums is preventable. I'm pretty sure aswell that a kid would get a hell of a lot more stick for having gay parents than being fat or wearing glasses because lets be honest here; having two dads or two mums isnt exactly ordinary and most kids wont even of heard of that before.

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Who Said Im hving Kids

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Who Said Im hving Kids

who said you have an option?

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I don't like gay as a 'sexuality' as there should only be one. We can't live if men are bumming men and women and doing women with plastic. We wouldn't be here if that was the case thus homosexuality is not natural and that's that.

If my son was gay, fair enough, but don't be gay in my face. That's all I ask of all gays.

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call me old fashioned but i have to agree the meaning of life is to have children, don't see gay people contributing to that

Wouldn't care at all.and would support them all the way because I've been through the gay/bi bullying so know what it's like. It's their decision and I'd stand by my kids any day.

If it was a boy or a girl, I'd love the all the same if they were gay. It's their choice.

i wouldn't care at all, it's your kids choice, not yours. you can't control there full life.

you can always have 2 kids.

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If my children were homosexual or bisexual i wouldn't mind, because its there life and there choice, . Also I am strongly against homo phobics.

well i'm against homosexuality (not the people as they can't help it but just homosexuality) because imho it is wrong that they're not following what we're here for but because they act the victim it's led everyone to believe that the "homophobes" are the wrong ones whereas the homosexuals aren't when its actually neither...

No, I'm just suggested people would be 'forced' to be straight if it was illegal, and they wouldn't be able to be themselves if they were gay.

If I offended, sorry.

left-handed people were forced to write with their right hand as it was seen as wrong and even evil to be left handed, don't see any of them tryna take revenge or not being themselves ;l ;l argue that my point is irrelevant all you want you'll just be biased it's ok i understand x x

My opinion: If the child is old enough to understand homosexuality and is fine with it then why shouldn't he or she be adopted. After all gay people are just that, people. Theres nothing different about them.

if they aren't different then why do they act as though they are...

Because its not fair on the kid. No matter what you say, they will be bullied like it or not. I dont think its fair on the child and hence why I wouldnt adopt in the climate at the moment, if attitudes generally changed given a few decades then yes I would support it and adopt myself. But for now, I do not agree because it is putting yourself before the child, and a child and its welfare should always come first.

I do like the way i've been made out to be homophobic when its got nothing to do with the issue at hand, 'are homosexuals not equal' & 'homosexuals are people!!' etc etc - well i'm sorry but the fact of life is that two guys cannot have kids together and I haven't said or suggested once that gay people are inferior/less equal than somebody else. So to answer that part; no homosexuals are not less equal than anybody else but that doesnt provide an excuse for potentially harming the welfare of a child under the banner of equality.

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Children will get bullied more for being in care and not having "nice things" than having homosexual parents.

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it's what you have, not what you don't have. you have 2 dads, that's longer term than not having the nice new shoes everyone has:S obviously gonna get more bullied for the first...



if i have a gay child i will put he/she up for adoption for the gay people to have

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screams at how many people have said 'i dont mind its their choice ' in this thread, yeah a choice...


anyway i would probably be a bit like not upset not disappointed i cant find the word but i would feel my idea of my "ideal" family would have gone a bit but im sure id come round to the idea and accept them really quick for it

[HotelUser]

And your point is? - just because something doesnt fit in with your view or has been allowed for a few years does not mean 'I am behind with the times'.

On the issue of token, where have I said or even hinted that I think that? - the fact is that I have not. I have said very clearly that the rights of children should come before the banner of equality and thats how it should be. Kids get bullied for being fat yes, but in many cases with kids that isnt preventable whereas bullying over having two dads or two mums is preventable. I'm pretty sure aswell that a kid would get a hell of a lot more stick for having gay parents than being fat or wearing glasses because lets be honest here; having two dads or two mums isnt exactly ordinary and most kids wont even of heard of that before.

I can guarantee you that those kids would much rather be living in a home with two loving parents to take care for them, as opposed to being back in that orphanage without anyone they can associate with the word parents with.

There's a hell of a lot of reasons why kids get picked on anyways. Should we not allow kids with disabilities, scronney or obese children to be adopted?

Danny I can see what you're trying to justify, but depriving children from a loving and satisfactory family because the occasional moron is going to make a controversial shot about it is lame.

[Catzsy]

And your point is? - just because something doesnt fit in with your view or has been allowed for a few years does not mean 'I am behind with the times'.

On the issue of token, where have I said or even hinted that I think that? - the fact is that I have not. I have said very clearly that the rights of children should come before the banner of equality and thats how it should be. Kids get bullied for being fat yes, but in many cases with kids that isnt preventable whereas bullying over having two dads or two mums is preventable. I'm pretty sure aswell that a kid would get a hell of a lot more stick for having gay parents than being fat or wearing glasses because lets be honest here; having two dads or two mums isnt exactly ordinary and most kids wont even of heard of that before.

Sorry my view is that you are not in tune with the attitudes of children or teenagers today at all. That taboo went years ago and most are more enlightened than you seem to suggest. What is still taboo? Probably having a transexual mother or father.

[-:Undertaker:-]

I can guarantee you that those kids would much rather be living in a home with two loving parents to take care for them, as opposed to being back in that orphanage without anyone they can associate with the word parents with.

There's a hell of a lot of reasons why kids get picked on anyways. Should we not allow kids with disabilities, scronney or obese children to be adopted?

Danny I can see what you're trying to justify, but depriving children from a loving and satisfactory family because the occasional moron is going to make a controversial shot about it is lame.

Yes, but I do not feel that endangering the welfare and well-being of a child is correct. You can say they would have a loving family which in most cases they would and I accept that fully, but at the end of the day they are going to get stick over it no matter what occurs and I simply dont find that now is the right time to expose children to that. As I have said earlier on, maybe in a decade or few decades more but certainly not now.

Sorry my view is that you are not in tune with the attitudes of children or teenagers today at all. That taboo went years ago and most are more enlightened than you seem to suggest. What is still taboo? Probably having a transexual mother or father.

The attitudes of most teenagers is to agree with it yes, so infact I am very much in tune because I do not dispute that. What you dont seem to be able to accept is that they will get stick - now you can give as many other examples as you want about fat kids, poor kids, kids that smell, kids that pee themselves or whatever else you could produce to me but the fact remains, they would get stick if anyone found out about their two dads/two mums which in most cases with kids, they would at a very young age because kids cannot keep secrets.

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but you say that not now but maybe in a few decades but the way you are going to get to where it is socially acceptable and bullying doesnt happen is if you let it happen and people become more familiar with it and its seen as "normal" the issue is never going to improve if you just keep saying no to it, the only way to progress is to accept it

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but you say that not now but maybe in a few decades but the way you are going to get to where it is socially acceptable and bullying doesnt happen is if you let it happen and people become more familiar with it and its seen as "normal" the issue is never going to improve if you just keep saying no to it, the only way to progress is to accept it

Exposing kids to harms way to 'quicken' that social process is not acceptable.