Acting like.... This ? +rep

[gangstaagent1]

Ok so here's the thing,

i feel lonely all the time.. when im around my friends.. i dont understand why.. its just if no one talking to me i emidiatly assume that im being ignored and i wont talk very much or ill just end up leaving because when im alone im better when i feel like that. its a stupid reaction but im so used to being ignored so i assume what they are doing is something bad because thats basicly all ive ever dealt with. i was never really put intoa a real school until grade 5 (homeschooler) and in that school people used to make fun of me and be hurtful , ignore me run away from me when i got near, change day to day being my friend or not wanting to be my friend. it got to the point where i would make myself physically sick i was so upset. so i got out of that environment, almost 2 years ago now, and started brand new, ive been doing much better and ive made many new friends but im still feeling the same aprehension i had before about people who i think are my friends. im just so scared that ill get stuck in the same situation i had before i dont know how to react to the things people do. Im being pathetic being like this around people but i dont know who to trust anymore.. my friend explained to me this and ill admit it hurt a little but i dont want to do this anymore.. ive never really put this into detail for anyone about this subject because no ones wanted to hear it. so what can i do about this?

[Stryderman]

If you feel like your on a downer when you feel people are ignoring you then go see if you can be put on anti-depressants. They help but it also numbs you.
Try speaking to the people who do this to you?

[Lindsey]

Matt,

I would talk to someone you trust, maybe talk to your friends about it, maybe start conversation with them . once you get into the habit of talking to them more you will feel comfortable speaking up ;D .. hope it helps (A) [probably didn't but yeah i fail] TTYL XOXO. Lindsey

[ChickenFaces]

You shouldn't feel like people don't like you, people love you, even if you don't realize it. Maybe the people who are ignoring you don't realize that it's bothering you because you haven't spoken up [people can be quite oblivious at times,] and if people are making fun of you and you don't like it, speak up because it's basically the same thing that I just mentioned, they might just think you don't mind and so they keep doing it.

[Hollie]

yeah, they might not realise that it bothers you. talk to your friends about it and try and make conversation, then gradually, you should feel more comfortable with it all. but talk to someone you trust about it.
hope this helps.

[Catzsy]

I think it is just a confidence thing that we all go through sometimes during our teens. In your case you were also home schooled so you have not had so much experience in maintaining relationships at school. Maybe you need to take some sort of course to help build your confidence & self esteem such as Karate or some other form of martial arts. This is well known to enhance how you feel about yourself.

[Stephen]

If you feel like your on a downer when you feel people are ignoring you then go see if you can be put on anti-depressants. They help but it also numbs you.
Try speaking to the people who do this to you?

Yo I think people are ignoring me.. DOCTOR PUT ME ON MEDICATION NOW



Edited by danzooo (Forum Moderator): Please do not post pointlessly.

[Richie]

If you feel like your on a downer when you feel people are ignoring you then go see if you can be put on anti-depressants. They help but it also numbs you.
Try speaking to the people who do this to you?

this made me laf

Matt,

I would talk to someone you trust, maybe talk to your friends about it, maybe start conversation with them . once you get into the habit of talking to them more you will feel comfortable speaking up ;D .. hope it helps (A) [probably didn't but yeah i fail] TTYL XOXO. Lindsey

why would he speak to his friends about it if he thinks they are ignoring him? surely IF THEY WERE (which they probably arent) ignoring him then they obviously don't like him and would take the piss

[danzooo]

By the looks of things, you seem to have a very low self-esteem, which is probably the main reason behind your feelings. However, it's normal that alot of people prefer to be alone - I'd rather spend after-school revision classes alone, that's fine!

However, what you need to try to convince yourself is that not everyone is ignoring you. It may feel like that sometimes - but I bet you 100% if you sat down next to your friends and contributed to the conversation they were having that they would respond to you. At lunchtime, if you catch one of your friends alone, talk to them! Start off a conversation about a mutual interest, you'll be amazed how much bonding you can do with your friends this way.

The key to this is the fact that you said "you've started afresh and made loads of new friends"; if these new friends are genuinely nice people, and actual "friends", then the above should be no bother whatsoever.

Good luck, man