My friend is so bossy

[Catzsy]

Didnt wanna tell anyone cos im kinda embarassed about it....i know i shouldnt hav even let it get this far but now i have i feel ashamed to let anyone know. my parents arent the most down to earth kinda people and might not understand

I really think they will but if they don't at least somebody knows. If not you can post here and I am sure lots of members will reply to you. FlyingJesus has made an excellent post above and he is someone most definitely to take notice of.

[N!ck]

Better to have "no" friends than be around that idiot.

[Narnat,]

Yeah I agree. Hes a jerk! I would rather have no one than him if I'm honest just keep sticking your ground. Good luck!

[Joey1]

Guys, he has just been texting me, saying hes really sorry and he cant believe what an ass he has been, he says he wants it to go back like it was before and he thought I didn't mind cos i never complained.

What do I do? It sounds so genuine, and as I say, he has been my best friend for so long I dont wanna just lose him as a friend if he will be okay about it...

but he might be lying, but what if he isnt, i dont want him to be, i wanna believe him, such hard decisions

[FlyingJesus]

Simple - if he's lying and nothing changes, you've proved now (not just to him, but to yourself) that you're able to stand up to him and tell him how it is, so you've at least gained the power to walk away properly if you do decide to give him another chance and he messes that up

[Mathew]

Didnt wanna tell anyone cos im kinda embarassed about it....i know i shouldnt hav even let it get this far but now i have i feel ashamed to let anyone know. my parents arent the most down to earth kinda people and might not understand

They're your parents. They stand by you whatever happens through life... they aren't like friends which you can ignore

Guys, he has just been texting me, saying hes really sorry and he cant believe what an ass he has been, he says he wants it to go back like it was before and he thought I didn't mind cos i never complained.

What do I do? It sounds so genuine, and as I say, he has been my best friend for so long I dont wanna just lose him as a friend if he will be okay about it...

but he might be lying, but what if he isnt, i dont want him to be, i wanna believe him, such hard decisions

The question is whether he'll start it all up again in a couple of months, slowly (maybe unconciously) taking advantage. It's obvious you don't want to stop being his friend, so just reply saying you aren't going to take any more **** from him..

[The Don]

I was shocked reading this thread, He tried making you call him sir? I'd rather be a loner sat in a corner on my own than have someone treat me like that. He really isn't a 'Real' Friend. Now he's appoligising as he's realised he's crossed the line, but how far will he push you to the boundries. I bet over a period of time he will start to do it again, as someone above has posted. If I were you I'd reply saying "Ok, I still wan't to be friends with you but just remember im not your slave so don't treat me like one." That should be alright. But i seriously wouldn't wan't to be friends with some one like you. It sounds like he's just using you for your car, I know it sounds harsh, but that's my opinion. Hope it works out for you anyway.

[Joey1]

Dammit....he just rang my mobile, we argued a bit about it but I suck at arguing and hes so clever its like he has a answer for everything, i got confused and kept losing my trail of thought in the arguments....in the end i was the one who ended up apologising for being such an ass even though its all him, he just twisted my words over and over, does anyone hav any tips on how to hold your own in an argument? i totally suck at it

[-Nick]

Wow... That must of takin a lot of time writin that speacilly readin it but ... I think 'what kind of friend is that'

[Jordy]

Dammit....he just rang my mobile, we argued a bit about it but I suck at arguing and hes so clever its like he has a answer for everything, i got confused and kept losing my trail of thought in the arguments....in the end i was the one who ended up apologising for being such an ass even though its all him, he just twisted my words over and over, does anyone hav any tips on how to hold your own in an argument? i totally suck at it

Could always think of a way to insult him beforehand, think of embarrassing things etc beforehand although this really isn't the way forward.

Just go along with how he is and see if he changes, if he doesn't, start standing up for yourself. What you really need to do though is make other friends so you can ditch him at some point as he's never going to be a "genuine" friend.

I personally cannot stand people like this, a good mate of mine recently realised how he could control other people and began using it to his advantage. Then he tried it on me and I told him straight away I won't be spoken to that way and you can **** off if you're going to do it again, other than a grovelling drunken apology from him, I haven't heard from him since seeing as he's so stubborn