Do you dislike one of your parents? [FOR PEOPLE WITH SPLIT/DIVORCED PARENTS]

[dirrty]

i've always lived with my mum, and rarely see my dad (usually a couple of times a month) so our relationship isn't exactly amazing. at this moment in time i only see him as a bank. my mums always says "have you called your dad recently?" and i just say no because it's not payday, and plus he hasn't called me so why should i.

but no, i don't dislike my dad, but i don't love him like i love my mother either. never have, never will. i just believe it's too late, and i'm too old to get past that stage.

[chantellehugs]

My mum and dad split when I was 8, but they'd sort of been on and off before that. It all ended in a huge argument between my mum, my dad the woman he'd been seeing. I think he had a restraining order put on him after that, and since then I've not seen or heard of him.
I guess I could say it's his fault that I am the way I am, because I think if I'd of had a 'stable family unit' when I was growing up I'd be more confident in myself and just more sure of things. I remember when I was younger and my parents were going through a rough patch I'd start stuttering and then it would stop when things became more calm. I still have the stutter now but I think it's because I'm not, as I said before, confident in myself.
The fact that I have no father figure doesn't really stress me out, but I feel like sometimes I just don't know how to talk to guys, and I don't understand them, if I'd of had a Dad I don't think I would have this problem.
To sum up: No I don't dislike my dad, I find it hard to dislike a person I don't know, based on what others have told me about them. If he decided he wanted to contact me I'd agree because life's too short to hold grudges over things that happened long ago. What happened is between him and my mum, I don't have anything to do with it.

I love my mum, a lot

[Stephen]

My dad can go die for all I care

oop I sound evil

[Nicola]

My mum and dad split up about 3 years ago now and it was one of the worst things I ever went through. My mum said she hadn't loved my dad for a long time now but she stayed to try and make it work for me and my brother but it got to the point where she couldn't do it anymore. I don't blame her for leaving him and I would rather she was happy than just staying with my dad for the sake of me and my brother.

My dad was an absolute **** about the divorce, I don't think he liked the thought of being alone and one day he just broke down infront of me which made me think he genuinely cared about what had happened to their relationship. For a good year whilst the divorce was being sorted my mum and dad both still lived in the same house. My mum stayed in their room whilst my dad moved into the back room, as you can imagine it was a horrible situation to live in. They hated eachother, absolutely hated eachother and me and my brother were stuck in the middle and we had no way to get out. I had to constantly hear them argue everyday for a year and hear them ***** about eachother to me. My dad was the worst for this and eventually my mum got the locks changed and kicked him out. This obviously infuriated him as it was his house too and he started doing all sorts of stupid things and it did make me hate him. After he had completely moved all of his stuff out I very rarely saw him. He was horrible to me and my brother and kept trying to make me feel guilty living in the house when he was stuck back at his mother's. I loved my dad and hated the fact it had to end up that way but he constantly took it out on me and it came to the point where I didn't want anything to do with him anymore.

3 years on and all money issues have now been dealt with and my dad seems to be completely staying out of my mum's life. He's calmed himself down and is making an effort again with me and my brother. I think I did genuinely hate my dad at one point, he made our lives a misery and I was drepressed for a very long time because of it. At the end of the day he's still my dad and I'm willing to forgive him, he wasn't right in the head in my opinion but I can't imagine what he was going through with the divorce, 20 years of marriage and then being told it is over is a pretty hard thing to cope with.

[,elaboratedolls]

Parents haven't split, but they're on the verge to.
I pretty much started hating my mum when I was about 8-ish, it was the first time I saw her drunk (she's an alcholic by the way and smokes so much), and now I always curse her and bury my face out of her sight and smell whenever she walks into the room. She's probably the reason why I have all this suicidal depression..

[Metric1]

No but she has a friend who left her husband for a woman, and she has a few other divorced friends she's become close to now so I think they probably weren't a good influence about her leaving my dad!



I hope they get back together a lot, it seems so both sided. They will talk, and the other day my dad was with me and my sister and my mom came and watched a movie with all of us and things seem even normal to me but then when my dad talks to me he tells me he doesn't think they're going to, that she just talks to this other guy on the phone for hours a night now that she's asking him not to come around because she wants more distance between them. It feels like it can go either way it really does. When I argued with my mom she pointed out that no matter what she'll always want to look out for my dad and that they were seeing therapists but she said to me they weren't seeing marriage therapists. I'm only afraid that she's stringing him along because she doesn't know how he would handle anything more rash, but I really don't know what they'll do at this point.

My dad just asked to talk to me just now and he said she left her computer on in the garage and on her facebook (she wont add any of us to it) it has messages to the guy (hes away for 20 days for work or something) and she said things like I love you and miss you so much and 20 days can't go by soon enough.



That's really sweet (especially the part about you being 4 and offering her your chocolates - that's adorable!) and you dad's really lucky to call you his daughter when you're being so understanding and open about everything!

As sad as it sounds, I would be deeply offended if one of my parents didn't accept my friend request, that would CRUSH me. My mom sent me a friend request and I just put her on limited profile so she can't comment on statuses because she loved doing that. It sounds like your mom is in some sort of midlife crisis.. When my parents split my dad wasn't a **** about it at all (thank-god), my parents were already in financial trouble so the new Suburban my mom key'd was going to be repossessed anyway and my dad wasn't like you get out this is my house, he just took his stuff and left. You're lucky your mom isn't being a complete **** about it and kicking your dad out or taking his car or taking stuff out of the house.. my aunt went through the messiest divorce I've seen, her husband didn't want her to get anything and he froze all her bank accounts so she had no money and had to come live with us.

[bkps]

I remember it all as if it was yesterday

My mum was in Durham, and she was only gunna get back on saturday, but she came home earlier in the week. It was 12th of January, and I was just getting ready for sleep when my mum walks in. She looked like she had been crying. She came up the stairs, I helped her with her bags, she sat me down and explained to me. She told me what my dad had done. I was sickened. He didn't cheat on my mum exactly, but what he done was just unbelievably disgusting. I couldn't eat or sleep that night. I waited until my dad got home. Nothing happened, but he gave me something. A badge. It had a smiley face on it. It was strange, because ever since I was little, my dad neglected me. All he cared about was my sister (His step daughter) and he never talked to me, he never spent time with me, and he never EVER told me he loved me. But with my sister, he would always call her 'Beautiful', 'Honey', 'Princess' but me, nah. He never done anything for me. He'd buy my sister brand new expensive presents, and I'd get stuff he found on the floor on the way down the road. He always wanted either a beautiful daughter, or a boy. He always gave me boys toys hoping it would change me. But it didn't. I was the younger daughter, and my sister(His step daughter) was 4 and a half years older. He'd been with my mum ever since my sister was 2. My dad is 15 years older than my mum... So anyway, back to that night. I couldn't sleep after my mum told me what my dad done. All I could do was to try to make sure everything was ok with my sister and my mum. The next day I didn't hear a peep from my dad. And the day after, he called he house phone. He was living in his car with all his stuff. My mum let me see him, and when I did, his car stunk of whisky. He looked dirty and disgusting and I was protecting him for a while. But as the months went past, I realise how dumb I had been. Why would I protect him? He destroyed my family. Yeah, I hate him. But you only get one dad each lifetime. I look at him and I get disgusted.

[rokgal]

my mum and dad split when i was 7 hard times.
i dont hate my dad i love him even tho his family caused the split i hated my dads brother, his mum and my auntie

[HotelUser]

As sad as it sounds, I would be deeply offended if one of my parents didn't accept my friend request, that would CRUSH me. My mom sent me a friend request and I just put her on limited profile so she can't comment on statuses because she loved doing that. It sounds like your mom is in some sort of midlife crisis.. When my parents split my dad wasn't a **** about it at all (thank-god), my parents were already in financial trouble so the new Suburban my mom key'd was going to be repossessed anyway and my dad wasn't like you get out this is my house, he just took his stuff and left. You're lucky your mom isn't being a complete **** about it and kicking your dad out or taking his car or taking stuff out of the house.. my aunt went through the messiest divorce I've seen, her husband didn't want her to get anything and he froze all her bank accounts so she had no money and had to come live with us.

Well it's no wonder we can't see her profile though, otherwise we would see the messages her and the guy leave for eachother on Facebook, there were a few more too but I don't want to repeat them! The disgusting part in that is she's doing it where all her friends can see it, and a lot of them know my dad and how upset this has all made him but of course they could care less that he or any of my moms kids don't know.

My mom isn't being awful about it in terms of fighting over objects and things. She just pushes for more and more space, my dad did say if the other guy ever sets one foot in our house that he's putting up the for sale sign himself though.

The only thing I'd really admit to being really worried about is that everyone is going to end up hating each other in the end or something.

[Ajthedragon]

I prefer my mother to my father, simply because I get along with her better. And he can be a ****.