Age gaps & help!

Conservative, · 20-03-2011, 09:26 PM

Okay, 2 things.

Firstly, what age gaps for relationships do you think are acceptable? I think threads have asked this before but I kinda need opinions on this:

This girl I like is 16 1/2, and I was 15 last month. We see each other twice a week, and I guess we're good friends but I haven't been talking to her for that long. I only got her number last week (although we've been texting basically 24/7 since).
The only thing stopping me asking her out is the age difference. She's in 6th form I'm in year 10 - but different schools - so it wouldn't be as bad as going to the same school but I still think it would be quite awkward.

So you think it could work? :/ advice etc?

And what you think are the maximum age gaps?

thanks

Nemo · 20-03-2011, 09:41 PM

depends on the age, for exmaple a 40 yr old going out with a 30 yr old is totally alright, but a 16 year old going out with a 6 year old well.... yeah.

But yeh i probably wouldnt. As a guy i probably wouldnt go out with a year 10 girl, nevermind a girl going out with a year 10 guy. But i mean i wouldnt say absolutely no.

Also some girl in my year went out with a year 9 guy, but then he was apparently like a man already (taller than me, voice broken, has a beard n all that) so i guess people wouldnt have noticed.

Either way i'd say i wouldnt with you, simply because its a girl who's older and whilst i dont mind if a girl is older, most are.

Conservative, · 20-03-2011, 09:45 PM

Originally Posted by NaughtyNemo

depends on the age, for exmaple a 40 yr old going out with a 30 yr old is totally alright, but a 16 year old going out with a 6 year old well.... yeah.

But yeh i probably wouldnt. As a guy i probably wouldnt go out with a year 10 girl, nevermind a girl going out with a year 10 guy. But i mean i wouldnt say absolutely no.

Also some girl in my year went out with a year 9 guy, but then he was apparently like a man already (taller than me, voice broken, has a beard n all that) so i guess people wouldnt have noticed.

Either way i'd say i wouldnt with you, simply because its a girl who's older and whilst i dont mind if a girl is older, most are.

I'm kinda confused by your post? But I'm taller than her and stuff...if that's what you're saying?

benjamin · 20-03-2011, 09:45 PM

it's not a massive gap - so go for it, why not? nothing's stopping you. only thing is, girls don't often tend to go for younger guys at that age.

Conservative, · 20-03-2011, 09:46 PM

Originally Posted by benjamin

it's not a massive gap - so go for it, why not? nothing's stopping you. only thing is, girls don't often tend to go for younger guys at that age.

That's what I thought. Plus it's 2 years at school, which at our age is quite big...idk... :/

Deak · 20-03-2011, 09:46 PM

I reckon that it doesnt matter about any age gap (apart from the example above 16yr old with a 6 yr old) and it just really depends on how well they get on.

matt$ · 20-03-2011, 09:49 PM

Theres a few girls @ my college that go our with guys at a similar age, so yea might aswell go for it although if she says no it'll be an awkward friendship.