Confidence.

[PaulMacC]

I lack confidence, in every sense. Like sometimes I wont even pick up the house phone because I'm too afraid to tell a telemarketer to **** off. Yeah it's pathetic but how do I gain confidence?

[Spuds]

Get a job in a bar.
Wear nice things.
Tan.
Get nice hair.

Bar work would help you so much

[Adam]

Get a job in a bar.
Wear nice things.
Tan.
Get nice hair.

Bar work would help you so much

Sounds gay if you ask me.

Live your life though. I mean, you have a job but it doesn't get you out of the house meeting people which could be problematic if you're not a confident person anyway.

[Spuds]

Sounds gay if you ask me.

Live your life though. I mean, you have a job but it doesn't get you out of the house meeting people which could be problematic if you're not a confident person anyway.

Gays the new straight!

[Nemo]

Fake it til you make it.

[Casanova]

the best way to gain confidence is actually to fake it. If you actively change your body language and your thoughts to positive it reinforces your actions and does make you more confident.

Simple stuff like walking with your head up straight, your hands swinging at your side inclining in towards your front. Looking people in the eye whilst talking, then a small look away.

Looking in the mirror and thinking smile. smile. you'll laugh! then you'll be happy, smiling and feel silly for the mirror thing. but you'll then have a smile and feel at ease.

Change your mindset, alter your movement and you'll get there.

[The Don]

Force yourself to do these things and eventually you will get use to it.

If not, drinking helps.

[Casanova]

drinking really does. I don't think it sets you up for general life though.
Top tip from terry tibbs, get wrecked before social situations.


being irish shall help.

[wixard]

matt how does bar work help your confidence
cos i've always had great confidence and bar work just pissed me off
and made me hate people

[RyRy]

matt how does bar work help your confidence
cos i've always had great confidence and bar work just pissed me off
and made me hate people

Probably because it's your job to talk to people, and when you get friendly with people you tend to feel more confident in yourself because you've made friends. Gonna sound cheesy Paul, but best way to do it is to be yourself, be outgoing & just try and not be a total muppet?