Serious help only pls

[Jssy]

I'm not attention seeking but things are really bad at home and I really need some advice. I'm 15 and my sister is 12 but she has learning difficulties but my mum says she's disabled with the mental age of like a 10 year old. She gets disability benefits for her and I have a tv and xbox in my room suddenly my mum gets sattelite fitted due to her disability benefit and bam I'm not allowed to even touch the tv or watch what the heck I want to because my mum said it's not mine and it's my sisters from her money. Hello? It's my tv and my xbox. All we do is argue, my mum was the same as my sister when she was young and I just feel like me and my mum don't bond at all. I get on really well with my dad but can't live with him because he's married to someone who's a risk to children. I have behaviourl problems and can't cope whenever my mum starts shouting at me so I just snap and usually throw things then the police get called. My mum blames everything on me so it's like my mum starts shouting, my sister gets upset then my mum puts the blame on me saying its my fault. I can't cope then my mums like on 23rd march (my 16th) you no longer live here. It's like she's not my mum at all. I hate her and I can't do with it anymore. I've got all my exams etc. I went to live with my nana for ages last year and my nana rang social services and they said it was ok then my mum went raging and claimed my nana had kidnapped me when she obv hadn't and I couldn't do with the stress so I moved back. Then when I say I'm off to live with my dad etc my mum goes on about how he doesn't give any maintenance or money towards my keep. It's like all she cares about is money and not me. She's always moaning about me and never pays any attention to me at all. I got attacked the other day and she just shrugged but when my sister got her scooter stolen off her by a gang she called the police. I actually don't know what to do anymore. Anyone got any advice for me? :/

[Mathew]

I think you should be visiting a school health counselor as soon as possible. I'm sorry to hear about all this although I don't think we're able to help you here; you need to speak to someone who is trained in the field.

Best of luck!

[dbgtz]

I think you were spot on saying your mum only cares about money, she keeps your sister sweet so she can keep the benefits coming in for her use (I'm assuming your mum uses the TV). Personally I would just get out in anyway I could (probably stay with a relative) and she really had no right claiming kidnap and you should have just told her to go away or call the police on her if she didn't. However, I'd say follow Mathews advice and only move out as a last resort.

[Andeeh]

Its tricky one because at the end of the day she is your mum. You have to talk to someone such as a school councellor as previously mentioned and then try and discuss it to your mum or if you can't write a letter or something explaining this and if she still doesn't get the message then try and stay with a relative. My mate lives in YMCA after being kicked out by his parents, he was a bit agressive but living on your own isn't rediculously easy as I found out through him.

[scottish]

didnt read what anyone said

but as she said, at 16 your out the house, go live with your nan?

Aslong as she can afford it etc

[beth]

you say you get on really well, but can't stay with him because of his partner? i would perhaps ring yr dad/email him however you talk to him and ask him to put you first because obviously you need to get out of (what sounds like) a volatile situation. living with a sibling with a disability can be hard, i look after my disabled 10 year old sister and it really puts a strain on all of us. i would talk to yr school, as a last resort i would talk to the school about perhaps going into voluntary foster care if yr dad can't step up.