Do you think men and women can just be 'friends'?

[Mathew]

Silly question lol, of course they can. Not everyone has sex and relationships on their brain 24/7! One of my closest friends is a female and I wouldn't dream of it going any further.

[FlyingJesus]

Even if they're hot how does finding someone attractive mean that you can't be friends with them? It's a stupid question that men often say "no" to in order to look manly and sexual

[wixard]

you guys are being naive
have you never heard of the ladder theory?

http://www.laddertheory.com/

[FlyingJesus]

Yeah dialogues from comedy films are totes reliable sources of complex psychology

[luce]

Certainly, though I don't think I agree with your last bit. Stereotypically, males and females are different, but gender is just a social construct, nothing more, nothing less. And if you can look beyond that, there shouldn't be any reason for a friendship to be 'different' because of gender, as it's as you say; it doesn't make any difference unless you make it a difference. It's completely natural for a man and a woman to be friends, just as it is to be friends with your own gender.

to some extent it's a social construct but there isextensiveresearch being done that shows that the male and female brains arefundamentally, biologically,different. There is strong links with levels of prenatal testosterone but without going into it I believe it forms enough of a difference to make it a problem. Also there are example of someone I know who is the only boy in a family of 9 children and a mum and he still knew how to behave ie not liking shopping etc without being told he "shouldn't".

[wixard]

Yeah dialogues from comedy films are totes reliable sources of complex psychology

it's hardly a source, its to add humour to the website and poke fun at people with a mindset like you before he begins with the theory

[J0SH]

Friends with benefits of course.

[FlyingJesus]

Ladder theory is all based on a massively wrong preconception from the very off (nice charts), and also assumes that attraction between friends will always damage the relationship without ever actually explaining why. My best friend is totes fit and yeah if she wanted to of course I'd get with her, but that changes nothing about the friendship as I know we're not like that and I don't think sex would change things anyway if it did happen everas it's entirely possible to be friends with people you've had physical relations with previously.

[wixard]

Ladder theory is all based on a massively wrong preconception from the very off (nice charts), and also assumes that attraction between friends will always damage the relationship without ever actually explaining why. My best friend is totes fit and yeah if she wanted to of course I'd get with her, but that changes nothing about the friendship as I know we're not like that and I don't think sex would change things anyway if it did happen everas it's entirely possible to be friends with people you've had physical relations with previously.

haven't you got with her before?
also she has a boyfriend, who's your friend

[FlyingJesus]

Nope not that I remember but yeah what's having a bf got to do with it I thought your theory meant that regardless of all things I as a male can't control my urges and will always attempt to get with her and because girls don't like sex as much (lol good joke) it will destroy the friendship