CUT OFF

[Metric1]

So, I have 2 brothers and a step-sister who I consider my real sister. I have other step-sibilings but I'm not nearly as close to them as I am to Ashley. Anyway, they have never worked. They have always gotten money from either my mom, step-dad or both. Me on the other hand have been working for my mom since I was 16. My bothers have gotten cars, money, clothes basically what they wanted, they got. I worked, paid for my own cars and I have money in the bank.

At new years they decided to cut us off, make us have jobs or live off the money we have. I'm fine, I have a bunch of money and my mom emailed me and she was like this isn't aimed at you, we're trying to teach the rest of them a lesson but I can't cut them off and not you. I respect that, I have more than enough money to do me through the summer and I'll also be working a ton over the summer so I have money for next year.

My brothers and sister aren't doing so well. They won't get jobs, they have a communal vehicle yet they would rather spend their money on drinking, going out and smoking cigarettes and weed. My mom filled their car up when she was here, it's currently on empty sitting in the driveway and they expect to use my car THAT I PAID FOR and not put gas in it. I lied to them and told them I had no money left so they would **** off but they are like ASH BUY ME A PACK OF SMOKES, ASH PUT SOME GAS IN THE VAN - my brother even went to far as to park the van behind my car while it was empty because he figured I would take it to school and put gas in it. I moved the van, got my car out and put the van where it has been sitting ever since.

They are dying without money, I am fine but they all expect that mom will cave and things will go back to the way they used to.

Have any of your parents cut you off? How did you manage?

[beth]

my parents cut me off after i left college, and i haven't had any kind of regular money from them since. i don't expect to either, as an adult i should be earning my own money (and if that's not possible: claiming my own benefits, or finding a way to stay above water).

yr siblings (no disrespect) sound like spongey little brats, and i'm sure they'll learn that they have to live by themselves. you just gotta be strong too. but maybe, yr parents haven't helped by giving them so much money etc. perhaps you could be helpful towards them by showing them job vacancies or maybe even giving them a work ethic by idk if they clean yr car or yr house or do something for you, maybe they can earn something in return.

perhaps because they've never learnt to work they're struggling to get into the mindset.

[FlyingJesus]

My parents provide food and shelter for me (which admittedly is more than I deserve) but otherwise I do my own thing. They're both fairly generous and offer to buy me clothes/shoes/extra food when I'm out with them or something but I hate using their money so I only accept if it's something I really need rather than want or if it's my birthday where I will make full use of "BUT IT'S MY BIRRRRRRRRRRRTHDAY" if I see something shiny

[Shar]

same here ^^
I don't fully rely on my parents financially anyway

[Cerys]

From what my parents have told me, when I get my own house they will assist me a little bit if I really really do fail, but apart from that they will cut me off, but that's only when I get my own house.

[Samantha]

My parents have been urging me to get a job as my £20 ema i get doesn't even cover the diesel in my parents car. They would never cut me off, but then again, I don't ask for much at all. For my birthday I don't ask for anything but regardless they give me money and if I need some they will give me some (as they get my ema anyway) but I give them it back as I am not a spender so most will be returned on the same day. In the future I'm sure they will help if I have a lack of money (if they have some) as they help our family anyway, but I agree with [@]@Publicised[/@] if they hadnt got so much in the past they wouldnt need as much in the future etc. However, your brothers get cars and stuff yet you choose to pay your own way but when your mum cuts them off, you're cut off too? On one side that's fair but on the other it isnt if you get me.

[Metric1]

We aren't really like "cut off" meaning we're on our own - the house is paid for, van is paid for, all bills are paid for we just can't call up our parents and ask them for money for booze and going out. Its our extras that we have to pay for on our own!

[Vause]

I don't work at the moment, I never really got money off her anyway.. she pays for our house by herself and I give her money when I can afford too. She always buys me things though without me asking. Such as cigarettes, hairspray, clothes, nice food that I normally can't afford.. I'm so grateful and I expect nothing from my mum apart from a nice warm bed and a loving relationship (cheesy.com), but me and my mum are really really close and that's how it's always been

[beth]

We aren't really like "cut off" meaning we're on our own - the house is paid for, van is paid for, all bills are paid for we just can't call up our parents and ask them for money for booze and going out. Its our extras that we have to pay for on our own!

all the bills are paid for and yr rent is sorted. well that's hardly being cut off.

[Vause]

all the bills are paid for and yr rent is sorted. well that's hardly being cut off.

Exactly Beth. My mum worked hard to pay bills and rent but I try my best to give her board out of my JSA becuase I hate knowing she works 40 hours a week to watch me sit around doing nothing. I earn my right to have nice things, i.e i clean up, i sort washing, iron everything, change the bedding twice a month, clean the windows... just stuff that i feel i owe to my mum for giving me a roof over my head. if your parents are paying for you to live and paying for food without asking for anything back off you, you're very lucky.