Would you ever be able to cope with a disabled child?

**dbgtz** · 20-07-2013, 12:33 AM

Originally Posted by lucaskf390

@dbgtz
So, Only because the kid is limited. Doesn't have the right to live? Should abort all disabled kids?

It's not my right to tell other people if they should abort their foetus.

"I couldn't cope with any disabilities which would make me take care of them for longer than a parent should."
When you have an parent-son experience, time won't matter... Life will flow.

You could literally say that about anything.

I feel egoism in your speech.

Perhaps, but nobody becomes a parent to be a carer for the rest of their life. They expect their kids to grow up and get their own lives and whilst they may still worry and interfere in their life decisions, are ultimately free from responsibility and have passed down the torch. They don't expect to find themselves at 70 years old, clearing up the crap of a 40 year old grown man who decided to smother poo all over the wall. My point here is that it's simply not fair on the parent to be expected to do this until their death. Really, I'd go as far as saying nobody has any obligation to take care of them.

"It's not solely about the comfort of a parent, the child could be so disabled that their life is one of horrible quality."
Parents must help their children to have a good life.

Why?

I believe God create and people choose their choices. Poor quality life depends on what conditions it's created and educated.

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I'm confused at what you're saying here.

cornbix · 22-07-2013, 01:02 PM

I'd abort it or put it up for adoption.. I would never have any form of disabled child. I wish you could find out if children are dyslexic before they're born so they can be aborted too.

KatieDuckie. · 22-07-2013, 01:06 PM

It would be hard at first but it just takes time I guess. No way I'd let a child die just cause they are disabled. so harsh.

Catchy · 22-07-2013, 01:23 PM

Personally I honestly don't know and I don't think anybody knows for sure until it happens to them. It's not an easy decision as at the end of the day it's still your child. I was in the pub a few days ago and there was a kid there who wasn't with it (not sure what was wrong with him) but his parents just had to pretend his random outbursts weren't happening and carried on with their conversation. It looked so difficult and personally I don't THINK I'd be able to cope but like I said, it's so different when people are actually in that situation. Emotions take over and I guess once you're a parent, everything is different and you'd do absolutely anything for that child out of unconditional love. Each to their own though and nobody should be judged for choosing not to raise a disabled child, it's hard.

Sharon · 22-07-2013, 04:34 PM

Originally Posted by CornbixID

I'd abort it or put it up for adoption.. I would never have any form of disabled child. I wish you could find out if children are dyslexic before they're born so they can be aborted too.

Plenty of people are dyslexic and have gone on to be perfectly fine?