Popping the cherry: Is virginity something to be proud of or ashamed of?

[Chippiewill]

So your parents should be ashamed because they are not virgins? And they have no respect?

I know they worded it poorly but playing dumb to what they obviously meant makes you an ********.

[Inseriousity.]

So your parents should be ashamed because they are not virgins? And they have no respect?

Bit harsh, it's clear the question is about losing your virginity at a young age (Unless she's said elsewhere that her parents had her early in which case ignore me)!

[Absently]

I lost my virginity at 17 almost 18 years old and I do not regret that I done it. I am still with the same guy today and I am proud. Although for what I can see especially our generations that if you don't get laid you don't fit in the cool group.......really and there is no such thing as being a cool person when you lose your virginity.

You do it when you are ready even if you are in the late 20's, 30's or 40's, if you think you are not ready don't rush it. Sex is something you should enjoy and not regret that you did it. Don't listen to those who say aweful things about your sexual life, I would simply say my sexual life is my personal opinion and choice. This is you and this is me.

Around here from what I'm used to, losing your virginity didn't make you 'cool' you lost it and that was that, it was no ones business to know and didn't matter too much. Of course people are generally intrigued but that's as far as it goes


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[Demi]

Definitely something to be proud of, I think in todays society too many people lose their virginity for the sake of it. I think having virginity shows you have respect for yourself.

I have to agree to a certain level to this.
Though at a dis-agreement everyone will have sex when they choose to, whether at X (younger age) or Y (older age) it is just a shame that people think that if you haven't had sex you aren't worth of Z (whatever they think you're not worth of).
At the same time, just because you haven't lost your virginity doesn't mean you have respect for yourself - I have lost mine a long time ago, doesn't mean I don't have respect for myself.

[MKR&*42]

Can I just say neither. I think there's a bit of stigma amongst older teens/young adults to lose your virginity, but for me it's just one of those things that I find "meh". Wouldn't ever judge anyone over it and nor should anyone feel ashamed for ever losing it as its their own decision (excluding rape cases obviously)

[jorsian]

Each and every one of us lives a unique lifestyle and has personal goals. There are certain groups within Western society (notably white college students) who rush to lose their virginity. There are others, such as highly pious individuals, who would rather wait until matrimony. There is no correct answer.

If you want my personal opinion, I understand the fuss over losing virginity. It's looked upon as a status symbol among young adults--something that has a certain pride to it. Courting a mate is an achievement, and like any achievement, it is meant to be shown off. It baffles me, though, because it's insanely easy for one to bluff about virginity loss, even if it's not the case. I'm sure a lot of people lie about it just to gain admiration from their peers.

[Kardan]

Bit harsh, it's clear the question is about losing your virginity at a young age (Unless she's said elsewhere that her parents had her early in which case ignore me)!

Her reply didn't state anything about a young age which was my point really... It all depends on age. If you're 14, then having your virginity probably does show some respect for yourself. If you're 28, perhaps not so much.

[-:Undertaker:-]

I remember in around Year 8 people would go around asking and like EVERYONE would reply, in their squeaky voices, yeah.

[GoldenMerc]

I think it matters, yes

[Kyle]

It's never really been a huge topic of conversation within my friend groups and as we grow older I guess we either just assume that everybody's done it or don't actually care. To attach stigma to such a basic act is silly, people are so obsessed withthe lives and actions of others today that they are ignoring the important things in their own lives. I know a few people that haven't lost their virginity yet (aged 18-25) and most are indifferent about the whole thing, it's not exactly a defining characteristic.