Abuse: Parents smacking children.

[!x!dude!x!2]

wha......the same could happen if you smack them too?

i said a tap . but you would obv teach your kid not to hit others.. ya you can remove toys but then all its going to cause is a fit.

[Phil]

but see everyone has different ways of disciplining their child . do whats yours
removing toys? you're just going make them sit there on the floor for 2 hours crying over and over

Everyone has their own way yeah but no kid likes to be hit, no matter how hard. You say that they could cry for two hours for taking away a toy? Some time you could get so frustrated and hit them to hard and will be scarred for life. They're going to cry no matter how you discipline them, might as well do it the way you're not hitting them?

[Lewis]

but see everyone has different ways of disciplining their child . do whats yours
removing toys? you're just going make them sit there on the floor for 2 hours crying over and over

And hitting them won't? Yeah, you're right, everyone has different ways of disciplining their child. Hitting should not be one of them. If it is, that parent clearly isn't a fit parent in today's time.

[Phil]

i said a tap . but you would obv teach your kid not to hit others.. ya you can remove toys but then all its going to cause is a fit.

You'll try explain to a child that they're not allowed to hit others while you're hitting them...ok

[!x!dude!x!2]

Everyone has their own way yeah but no kid likes to be hit, no matter how hard. You say that they could cry for two hours for taking away a toy? Some time you could get so frustrated and hit them to hard and will be scarred for life. They're going to cry no matter how you discipline them, might as well do it the way you're not hitting them?

And hitting them won't? Yeah, you're right, everyone has different ways of disciplining their child. Hitting should not be one of them. If it is, that parent clearly isn't a fit parent in today's time.

You'll try explain to a child that they're not allowed to hit others while you're hitting them...ok

im still waiting on you 2 to explain to me how you would do it ..
but like i said. the views are different look at this

• 94% of 3- and 4-year-olds have been spanked at least once during the past year, according to one study.

• 74% of mothers believe spanking is acceptable for kids ages 1 to 3, says another study.

• 61% of parents condone spanking as a "regular form of punishment" for young children, according to a different study.

[Phil]

im still waiting on you 2 to explain to me how you would do it ..
but like i said. the views are different look at this

I'd use the time out and I have done for the past three years of working in childcare.

What's the source you quoted that from?

[!x!dude!x!2]

I'd use the time out and I have done for the past three years of working in childcare.

What's the source you quoted that from?

http://www.parenting.com/article/is-it-okay-to-spank

ya but see in child care you're not allowed to hit some one else's kid that's Assault . but when its your own kid it's different

[Lewis]

im still waiting on you 2 to explain to me how you would do it ..
but like i said. the views are different look at this

I'm sorry but what do percentages have ANYTHING to do with this? . This is about right and wrong - not the percentage of people that do the wrong.

Ages 6 or less:
Naughty corner. First time will be hard, they may continue for over an hour of tantrums and constantly running away. Just keep putting them back until they've served their 20 minutes, even if it takes three hours. Tell them nicely what they've done just once until they serve their time.

Ages 7-13:
Take away their consoles, stuff you've bought them. No tv, no contact with friends other than at school. Take it away until a sincere apology and for a set time alongside that. Even if it takes a month, they'll eventually regret it and be sincere with an apology.

Ages 14 plus:
Same as above, but be a lot more tough with them. No physical abuse though, nor physical threats. If they themselves become such troubling, you are allowed to contact the police to have a word with them.


Of course there's a lot more to it than that, but all children can be raised correctly without hitting. It's whether or not the parent has the patience for the beginning steps to it.

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ya but see in child care you're not allowed to hit some one else's kid that's Assault . but when its your own kid it's different

Clearly his way works in childcare, ultimately meaning that violence to children is bad parenting and completely unnecessary?

[!x!dude!x!2]

I'm sorry but what do percentages have ANYTHING to do with this? . This is about right and wrong - not the percentage of people that do the wrong.

Ages 6 or less:
Naughty corner. First time will be hard, they may continue for over an hour of tantrums and constantly running away. Just keep putting them back until they've served their 20 minutes, even if it takes three hours. Tell them nicely what they've done just once until they serve their time.

Ages 7-13:
Take away their consoles, stuff you've bought them. No tv, no contact with friends other than at school. Take it away until a sincere apology and for a set time alongside that. Even if it takes a month, they'll eventually regret it and be sincere with an apology.

Ages 14 plus:
Same as above, but be a lot more tough with them. No physical abuse though, nor physical threats. If they themselves become such troubling, you are allowed to contact the police to have a word with them.


Of course there's a lot more to it than that, but all children can be raised correctly without hitting. It's whether or not the parent has the patience for the beginning steps to it.

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Clearly his way works in childcare, ultimately meaning that violence to children is bad parenting and completely unnecessary?

Take away their consoles, stuff you've bought them. No tv, no contact with friends other than at school. Take it away until a sincere apology and for a set time alongside that. Even if it takes a month, they'll eventually regret it and be sincere with an apology.

so what you're saying here is that as long as your kid says sorry they will get it back . that doesn't teach anything. you're going to take away a toy and your kid will just say sorry and you will give it back. and your kid will keep doing the same thing over and over.
And yes i have to admit you have some very good ideas there.

[Phil]

ya but see in child care you're not allowed to hit some one else's kid that's Assault . but when its your own kid it's different

I haven't time to read that right now but I will tomorrow and talk about it then but I had a quick glimpse at the comments underneath and most disagreed with the article. Who cares if it's in a childcare setting? It still works? I'm not going to use time out technique in work and go home to my kids and beat them around the place because they're mine and I can do whatever