Online Dating

[Brad]

yh tbf im like a saint irl and im nice to everyone whereas on here im a little cow

Boo, you're no cow.

I think it can be done, but it has to be taken seriously for both sides.

[Becca]

Boo, you're no cow.

I think it can be done, but it has to be taken seriously for both sides.

i'll be your lil cow

[Logandyer45]

I have had my share of long distance and online relationships.

None of them worked out, but to be completely honest, I probably could not date anyone from a different country, but I could date someone from inside the states or even Canada.

If you both put effort into the relationship, then it could possibly work out.

My rebuttle to someone that would disagree and say how would you ever see them would be, you could A) Skype them or B) FaceTime (Same Country Only for me as my plan doesn't include country to country calls) or C) Meet up with them in real life. (Providing its not 3 thousand miles).

Just my take.


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[RyRy]

Done it plenty of times, enough to say it's not for me anymore. Online dating is fine if that's what you wanna do, I wouldn't judge anybody for it anymore (might have a joke but never seriously). It's not for everybody it has to be said though, you have to put the time & commitment into making it work and then on top of that you have to truly trust the person you're dating for a variety of reasons.

First reason being are they who they say they are? Second reason being are they leading me on and having a joke around at my expense? (stares at a certain hx member) and lastly, do you truly trust them not to be doing the dirty with somebody else that you've no idea exists?

It's easy to run into these kinds of relationships but when you want to take them seriously, there's so much to consider that makes them much harder than just a casual relationship over the Internet. Like if you're considering a lifetime with them, you're looking at moving to be close to them and living with them, integrating them into your life & sacrificing the life you're leaving behind just to be with this one person.

If it wasn't obvious I've dealt with all these issues before, made a couple of good and bad decisions but it's all a learning curve.

tl;dr Do it if it makes you happy, but don't expect it to be the rest of your life as things change. You'd only set yourself up for heartbreak in doing so.

[Becca]

Done it plenty of times, enough to say it's not for me anymore. Online dating is fine if that's what you wanna do, I wouldn't judge anybody for it anymore (might have a joke but never seriously). It's not for everybody it has to be said though, you have to put the time & commitment into making it work and then on top of that you have to truly trust the person you're dating for a variety of reasons.

First reason being are they who they say they are? Second reason being are they leading me on and having a joke around at my expense? (stares at a certain hx member) and lastly, do you truly trust them not to be doing the dirty with somebody else that you've no idea exists?

It's easy to run into these kinds of relationships but when you want to take them seriously, there's so much to consider that makes them much harder than just a casual relationship over the Internet. Like if you're considering a lifetime with them, you're looking at moving to be close to them and living with them, integrating them into your life & sacrificing the life you're leaving behind just to be with this one person.

If it wasn't obvious I've dealt with all these issues before, made a couple of good and bad decisions but it's all a learning curve.

tl;dr Do it if it makes you happy, but don't expect it to be the rest of your life as things change. You'd only set yourself up for heartbreak in doing so.

at your tldr bit, would you say that things could be the same though? like do you believe that some online relationships actually work?

[Leinaa]

I was in a long distance relationship and honestly it worked out pretty well & the reason we broke up definitely wasn't anything related to distance. It's all about trust & honesty. You really have to put it a lot of effort into the relationship and you have to trust the person as well. I don't know if I'll ever e-date anymore though. It was good with the person I was with, but I'm really just trying to focus on my career right now.

[wixard]

it's a lot easier for people to exaggerate their feelings towards another person and confuse lust for love and that can ultimately be the downfall in some of the relationships

it's gonna be a problem if one person likes the other a lot more, and is led to believe the other feels the same way when in fact they actually don't

i think everyone going into an online relationship/long distance needs to think twice about what they say to each other and if they're actually being honest and not just exaggerating strong feelings for the hell of it or because the other person has expressed similar feelings. we're basically the first batch of people growing up from teens to adults online so it's new for everyone, we've seen how dumb people can be from catfish BUT we've also seen how easy it can be to be fooled by others at the same time (plenty of examples on the forum) i think as time progresses people will learn how to deal with it better, there will be less stigma, and hopefully more people will be aware of what they're saying to a potential bf/gf online and not just leading them on or mirroring them because if it all goes sour you can just erase them from all social media and be done with them forever, which you obviously can't do in real life

[Becca]

it's a lot easier for people to exaggerate their feelings towards another person and confuse lust for love and that can ultimately be the downfall in some of the relationships

it's gonna be a problem if one person likes the other a lot more, and is led to believe the other feels the same way when in fact they actually don't

i think everyone going into an online relationship/long distance needs to think twice about what they say to each other and if they're actually being honest and not just exaggerating strong feelings for the hell of it or because the other person has expressed similar feelings. we're basically the first batch of people growing up from teens to adults online so it's new for everyone, we've seen how dumb people can be from catfish BUT we've also seen how easy it can be to be fooled by others at the same time (plenty of examples on the forum) i think as time progresses people will learn how to deal with it better, there will be less stigma, and hopefully more people will be aware of what they're saying to a potential bf/gf online and not just leading them on or mirroring them because if it all goes sour you can just erase them from all social media and be done with them forever, which you obviously can't do in real life

this is a bril reply r u drunk tara
yeah i think it's stupid when people rush straight into it like ye i love u xxxxxxx
no you don't you hardly know each other but if you get to know someone a lot and it's clear they arent a catfish then i believe you should go for it, as long as you are both mature enough in the end to accept whether you are both going to put effort in

I was in a long distance relationship and honestly it worked out pretty well & the reason we broke up definitely wasn't anything related to distance. It's all about trust & honesty. You really have to put it a lot of effort into the relationship and you have to trust the person as well. I don't know if I'll ever e-date anymore though. It was good with the person I was with, but I'm really just trying to focus on my career right now.

did you ever meet?

[RyRy]

at your tldr bit, would you say that things could be the same though? like do you believe that some online relationships actually work?

Some do sure, but I think those come down to circumstance for them to be long lasting and something which turns from an online relationship into moving in with each other.

All online relationships work up to a point though, some more than others. It's how far you'll go to pursue somebody you love, and it's the amount you love them which determines that. I was prepared to move to be with the last girl I dated online, and a part of me regrets that I didn't.

But that's another thing that comes with online relationships at some point, the regret of what could have been.

Tara is 100% right on rushing into things, lust is easy to mistake for love when you're young and I'd be lying if I said that never happened to me once.

[Leinaa]

this is a bril reply r u drunk tara
yeah i think it's stupid when people rush straight into it like ye i love u xxxxxxx
no you don't you hardly know each other but if you get to know someone a lot and it's clear they arent a catfish then i believe you should go for it, as long as you are both mature enough in the end to accept whether you are both going to put effort in



did you ever meet?

Yes we did @Becca;