Online Dating

[Rachel]

I personally wouldn't. I rather know the person face to face.

[Drunq]

I used to alot, then met alot of people irl and dated. Thats so much better!

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[Grig]

Nah, but the boundaries between the virtual world and online one are increasingly getting blurred, and I see increasingly people getting into real life relationships by starting out on on of those dating apps.

[Kyle]

'Online Dating' conjures up all sorts of images, from spinsters or divorcees trying to find love "before it's too late", to morbidly obese transgendered folk catfishing on vampirefreaks.com, to 12 year old habbos getting hot and heavy in a lodge bed while their pet cat looks on. There's so much stigma and so many horror stories that come with the term that people don't seem to be willing to give it a chance. What even IS online dating? Dating IRL I would consider a process of getting to know somebody, of going on dates -- of growing close to them. That can happen online too, can't it? It's basically the same. Why do we even use the term IN REAL LIFE? Surely if something is happening and it feels real then it is? I don't know why the online world seems to be so deliberately separate from the offline.

A lot of people say that you can't tell if another person is being genuine if it's online which is true to an extent because the guise allows for a bit of boundary testing that wouldn't be possible (or thought to be possible at least) in the offline world. You can say and do things without having to immediately consider what might happen as a result and sometimes that might mean making a bad impression. The online sphere allows people to hold things back, sure, but it doesn't remove all humanity and genuine feelings. It doesn't mean that if somebody falls for you online that it's because you're not giving them the entire picture. Sometimes that's just not needed. Sometimes all that is needed is somebody to talk to, to share time with and to care about.

There does come a point though, I think, where being solely an online thing can put strain on a relationship. From paranoia like 'I wonder who she's with' or 'why hasn't s/he messaged me for 12 minutes s/he must be talking to someone else!' to just basic things like wanting to touch (yes and TOUCH) them or be there to comfort them when they're upset. We're in a global society though lads, megabuses are a quid and flights aren't that much more. If you really love eachother then you can get to eachother relatively cheaply and regularly.

Would I date solely online? No. Would I have a relationship with somebody as a consequence of meeting online? Yes. So long as each party is honest about how they actually feel rather than as simply mirroring to keep the other happy then yeah, I don't see why it can't work. Just don't let people at habbox know or they'll think that it's their relationship too.

[Becca]

Some do sure, but I think those come down to circumstance for them to be long lasting and something which turns from an online relationship into moving in with each other.

All online relationships work up to a point though, some more than others. It's how far you'll go to pursue somebody you love, and it's the amount you love them which determines that. I was prepared to move to be with the last girl I dated online, and a part of me regrets that I didn't.

But that's another thing that comes with online relationships at some point, the regret of what could have been.

Tara is 100% right on rushing into things, lust is easy to mistake for love when you're young and I'd be lying if I said that never happened to me once.

Personally I find it quite easy to tell the difference between love and lust, unless the guy is extremely good at faking it. I had an ex who moved 140 miles away from me during the relationship, and we kept the relationship going for another year, but it ended up rubbish. He always cheated and broke up with me, I was just stupid enough to always take him back.

I paid for him to come see me, which was about 20 quid, then I paid 50 for a hotel for us to sleep in for the weekend, and he stood me up haha. Which really puts me off about online relationships. But not everyone is a loser like my ex boyfriend, so it doesn't seem that bad.

tldr - i got stood up and it cost me 70 quid so if someone does that again i will top myself

[RyRy]

Personally I find it quite easy to tell the difference between love and lust, unless the guy is extremely good at faking it. I had an ex who moved 140 miles away from me during the relationship, and we kept the relationship going for another year, but it ended up rubbish. He always cheated and broke up with me, I was just stupid enough to always take him back.

I paid for him to come see me, which was about 20 quid, then I paid 50 for a hotel for us to sleep in for the weekend, and he stood me up haha. Which really puts me off about online relationships. But not everyone is a loser like my ex boyfriend, so it doesn't seem that bad.

tldr - i got stood up and it cost me 70 quid so if someone does that again i will top myself

Oh my god that is terrible, it's unlikely you'd ever meet a guy like that again, what an utter turd burglar. There are good online relationships but again it comes down to trust.

Plebs like that ain't worth effort

[FlyingJesus]

I paid for him to come see me, which was about 20 quid, then I paid 50 for a hotel for us to sleep in for the weekend, and he stood me up haha

omf pissing you have the worst boyfriends ever

[Becca]

Oh my god that is terrible, it's unlikely you'd ever meet a guy like that again, what an utter turd burglar. There are good online relationships but again it comes down to trust.

Plebs like that ain't worth effort

I'm one of those people where I will trust everyone at the beginning though, I hate it when girls are like 'YOU CAN'T TRUST GUYS' because of one stupid relationship, but it's harder due to waiting for them to ruin it. I never have a problem proving that I am a trusting girlfriend, yeah I am a flirtatious person, but I make the guy understand that they're the only person I actually want though.

omf pissing you have the worst boyfriends ever

It's ok I know his bank details so I did a transaction from his account to mine xxxxxxxxxxxx

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Nah, but the boundaries between the virtual world and online one are increasingly getting blurred, and I see increasingly people getting into real life relationships by starting out on on of those dating apps.

Yeah it's ridiculous how much you can actually do online now.
I'm just waiting for teleports to be invented

'Online Dating' conjures up all sorts of images, from spinsters or divorcees trying to find love "before it's too late", to morbidly obese transgendered folk catfishing on vampirefreaks.com, to 12 year old habbos getting hot and heavy in a lodge bed while their pet cat looks on. There's so much stigma and so many horror stories that come with the term that people don't seem to be willing to give it a chance. What even IS online dating? Dating IRL I would consider a process of getting to know somebody, of going on dates -- of growing close to them. That can happen online too, can't it? It's basically the same. Why do we even use the term IN REAL LIFE? Surely if something is happening and it feels real then it is? I don't know why the online world seems to be so deliberately separate from the offline.

A lot of people say that you can't tell if another person is being genuine if it's online which is true to an extent because the guise allows for a bit of boundary testing that wouldn't be possible (or thought to be possible at least) in the offline world. You can say and do things without having to immediately consider what might happen as a result and sometimes that might mean making a bad impression. The online sphere allows people to hold things back, sure, but it doesn't remove all humanity and genuine feelings. It doesn't mean that if somebody falls for you online that it's because you're not giving them the entire picture. Sometimes that's just not needed. Sometimes all that is needed is somebody to talk to, to share time with and to care about.

There does come a point though, I think, where being solely an online thing can put strain on a relationship. From paranoia like 'I wonder who she's with' or 'why hasn't s/he messaged me for 12 minutes s/he must be talking to someone else!' to just basic things like wanting to touch (yes and TOUCH) them or be there to comfort them when they're upset. We're in a global society though lads, megabuses are a quid and flights aren't that much more. If you really love eachother then you can get to eachother relatively cheaply and regularly.

Would I date solely online? No. Would I have a relationship with somebody as a consequence of meeting online? Yes. So long as each party is honest about how they actually feel rather than as simply mirroring to keep the other happy then yeah, I don't see why it can't work. Just don't let people at habbox know or they'll think that it's their relationship too.

That was a beautiful reply thanks Kyle.
And oh god yes, it's ridiculous when something comes out to Habbox people. I think it's such a shame that I feel like I am surrounded by the stupidest males due to where I am from (as you know due to my ex's) but sometimes you just start to like someone's personality, I think meeting someone online is much better for a relationship (if you live near) because you can be yourself due to sitting behind a computer screen, but that can also be the opposite with some people as they could literally say what they want, then have their way with you, then leave.

+rep bbe for that last comment

[HiPeepzTheHabbo]

i dated CecilTheRapper and he cheat on me with a hc girl when i was a norm girl and i dumped him
hes got a new name know and i have got new freinds and furnie
i dont wont a boy freind no more its allot more fun becouse he allways use to make me loose the games for him like in cozzy change 1 time i was haveing allot of fun then he lost and he was like hipeepz can you go and i will stay
so be care full and dont have no boy freinds or girl freinds if there not nice have a fun time and put them of ignore if there bad

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i dated CecilTheRapper and he cheat on me with a hc girl when i was a norm girl and i dumped him
hes got a new name know and i have got new freinds and furnie
i dont wont a boy freind no more its allot more fun becouse he allways use to make me loose the games for him like in cozzy change 1 time i was haveing allot of fun then he lost and he was like hipeepz can you go and i will stay
so be care full and dont have no boy freinds or girl freinds if there not nice have a fun time and put them of ignore if there bad

[shiver]

finding a partner online is fine. we live in a fast paced society and everyone is connected all the time so i don't see why there should be any stigma attached. look at the rise of tinder just as an example of how it is becoming the social norm.

as far as E-DATING goes (solely dating online and never meeting) i'm not sure. it is not a viable relationship in my opinion. you need the attraction IRL. but whatever floats your boat. different strokes for different folks. just do whatever makes u happy. XOXO