Age Gap

[Shockwave.2CC]

A 3 year age difference ok. That is if they are both over 18. So a 18yo and a 21yois ok

[RealClifford]

So, I'm currently 21.

I went out with a 15 year old when I was 18, do not recommend. It ended badly, the age gap at a younger age just adds too many complications. Maturity levels are different, life experience is much different and many other things.
Not saying it can't work, but it generally doesn't.

My advice if you're under the age of 18 and the person you're thinking or wanting to go out with is younger, wait the few years. If you can wait the few years, then there's probably a high chance of it actually genuinely working out.

But I'm unsure you can put a blanket "This is the maximum age gap" number out there.
When I see old men with younger women. E.G 50 year old bloke with some 25 year old woman. I'm not gonna lie, I question the motives behind the relationship. Is it impossible to love someone that much older than you? I'm not sure, I'm not a woman, I can't say that for sure, but generally there's going to be some ulterior motive behind it. Not always, but that's my assumption, and assumptions are dangerous things, I recognize that.

Personally, being 21 I don't think I'd go below 17.5 to 25. It's a decent range, and is generally within my life experience and maturity range as well.
But the number is going to change per person, and I don't really think it is for anyone to judge, but that's why we have these choices. If it's legal, what ya gonna do?

[Zak]

Depends how old you are.

Fully agree.

Personally I apply a three year age gap at the moment.

[Hannah]

I believe it's dependent on a lot of things, but obviously if one of the pair are pretty young then it's a little weird.

I've found that I can get along a lot better with people closing in to their 30s, some older.
I'm recently finding myself getting on extremely well with a guy who is 37 - that's 16 years of a difference. People would probably see it as weird but at the end of the day, if anything were to happen that would be between ourselves and no one else - just as it should be with anyone old enough and mature enough to make a decision like that on their own.

[Leinaa]

I'm 19, 20 in December. I'm currently dating a 25 year old but since I have a kid and he has a kid, too, we are still at the same level despite the gap.

Once you're 18, it's your life. Who am I to judge a person on the age of the person they're dating if they are happy?


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[Alphaet]

its really dependent on the actual couple, my biggest age gap was my ex being 5 years older but he was a childish fool so it evened itself out nicely

[Glen Coco]

I'm 19 and dating a guy who will be 25 in September. It took us a long time to get together because of the him not wanting to date someone with the age gap - he used to criticise his brother for the 3 year age gap all the time when he was with his ex.
Since we've actually been together it's worked fine! I think maybe because in a way we are in the same stages in our life. He went to Uni so he's only just starting up a career whereas I didn't go to Uni so am jumping straight into a career.
Neither of us are ready for kids or marriage.
But whereas he's older and maybe got more 'life experience' his longest relationship (before me) was like 3 months whereas I was with my ex for 3 and a half years so I've got more 'relationship experience' which means we're both sorta teaching each other different things and it works really well.

I feel weird about relationships where one is under 18 and one over 30 for example. Ever a 16 yr old and a 20 yr old seems a bit weird but its the same age gap as us? Maybe because 16 year olds seems a lot more vulnerable than someone that's reached the age of 18

[kfc]

if hes younger than ur dad its ok xxx

no but seriously i don't think it matters too much as long as it works and no one is being taken advantage of

[Jssy]

When I was 17 I was with a 26 year old for 8 months and needless to say it didn't work out. Whilst I don't think age gaps matter when you're of legal age, you're in different stages of your life with different maturity levels.

[auffant1]

I thought the rule for this was like: half your age plus 7 years? So I'm 16 so half is 8 + 7 would be 15. Or something like that