Should you know your partners salary?

[Hannah]

I've only been with my boyfriend for 2 months and we both know each others salary.

I don't think it's important to know really, unless you're looking at moving in together or anything which requires financial input. Even then you could get away with agreeing to a certain amount paid by each part and not have to know the salary. It's helpful to know what you can spend and stuff.

It's quite annoying that he earns more than double the amount I do and is quite sociable, so I'm spending a lot more money than usual. I haven't got to the stage of saying - well I can't really afford to do this - I really don't want him to feel pity and like he should pay for the majority - I like it to be even. So I've now volunteered to do six days a week at work at a job I hate just to get an extra £55 a week

Though when we go through stages of going out to eat I try to make sure we take it in turns to pay, he tends to suggest to go to cheaper places when it's my turn - so I'm partly glad he knows my salary for that.

[buttons]

It's quite annoying that he earns more than double the amount I do and is quite sociable, so I'm spending a lot more money than usual. I haven't got to the stage of saying - well I can't really afford to do this - I really don't want him to feel pity and like he should pay for the majority - I like it to be even. So I've now volunteered to do six days a week at work at a job I hate just to get an extra £55 a week

same here, he earns about double the amount I do but we both put the same amount of money into our joint account for bills. at the end of the day, he works more than me so he has earnt it and there might be a time in the future where he will be paying for our bills by himself (e.g when we have kids). only thing that bothers me is when he goes spends a lot of the food bill on nice stuff and i go buy cheaper versions cause i feel bad for spending money ;ll

[Hannah]

same here, he earns about double the amount I do but we both put the same amount of money into our joint account for bills. at the end of the day, he works more than me so he has earnt it and there might be a time in the future where he will be paying for our bills by himself (e.g when we have kids). only thing that bothers me is when he goes spends a lot of the food bill on nice stuff and i go buy cheaper versions cause i feel bad for spending money ;ll

The worst is when we go shopping together, he has expensive taste and we go look in expensive shops and I'm just picking faults with really nice clothes 'cause I look at the price tag and he's like oh that's not bad.

He easily and happily spends like 30-70 on shirts and more so on jeans and stuff.

Then he's like 'if you can't afford a nice pair of jeans or something I'll get 'em for you' and I'm just like

[scottish]

same here, he earns about double the amount I do but we both put the same amount of money into our joint account for bills. at the end of the day, he works more than me so he has earnt it and there might be a time in the future where he will be paying for our bills by himself (e.g when we have kids). only thing that bothers me is when he goes spends a lot of the food bill on nice stuff and i go buy cheaper versions cause i feel bad for spending money ;ll

its only money init

[Matt]

I personally wouldn't see a reason not share what your salary is with your partner. As already mentioned by others, how would you plan a future if you kept you salaries a secret from each other?

[A]

I think yes once you get engaged etc? Before that and your just dating and stuff, I don't think it really matters? If you love someone what should their salary matter? So until engaged/married I don't think it's really a biggie to know it.

[Jazz]

when you start planning towards the future, probably would be useful but in newer relationships, na its not info i would need

[Matthew]

yeah i think so as you need to know what lifestyle etc is affordable. maybe its not something which you need to tell straight away but when it gets more serious then definitely

[Hartzz]

IMO, I wouldn't want my partner knowing my balance deets, for the fact that I sometimes waste my money on things I shouldn't.....