Earning more than your partner

[Empired]

Well I can't say that I definitely won't care but I'd like to think that it wouldn't bother me too much. I think a huge gap might be problematic as Cerys said - a lot of money always comes between people I think

[scottish]

WHAT could be both, who knows oo

no i mean thats how my parents were and it ended awfully due to the money issues like cos my dad leached
E.G the xbox broke so we sent it off for repair and my dad used my mums money to buy another xbox specifically to use for the week we didnt have our old one . .

if they're married would they not have a joint account with all money going into it

especially at the point where you have kids, i'd have a joint account with all money going into it and it being 'ours' even if I were on 100k and @buttons; on 20k..

[lawrawrrr]

Not everyone has/wants joint accounts!! I wouldn't.

I don't have a problem with a wage gap, people earn what they deserve for their work! I wouldn't be bothered if I earned more than my partner but if they were going to use my (hopefully high!!) salary as an excuse to slob around, do nothing or stick in an 'easy' and awfully-paying job then I think I'd really struggle to stay with them.

However... I'm so hard-working and career-driven it could be more down to that! I just struggle to understand people who choose to stay in those easy, dead-end jobs with rubbish salaries and barely paying the bills each month, is there no desire to try and get something better?

I think it would get hard long-term though as if you, say, bought a house and one person earned a LOT more, they'd want a nice place to live, but most couples would want to go half-and-half as they're equally owners if they're on the deed! And furniture, presents, all things like that. So yeah it is easier to have similar-ish ones in my opinion but a bit of a gap is OK for me.

[scottish]

Not everyone has/wants joint accounts!! I wouldn't.

I don't have a problem with a wage gap, people earn what they deserve for their work! I wouldn't be bothered if I earned more than my partner but if they were going to use my (hopefully high!!) salary as an excuse to slob around, do nothing or stick in an 'easy' and awfully-paying job then I think I'd really struggle to stay with them.

However... I'm so hard-working and career-driven it could be more down to that! I just struggle to understand people who choose to stay in those easy, dead-end jobs with rubbish salaries and barely paying the bills each month, is there no desire to try and get something better?

I think it would get hard long-term though as if you, say, bought a house and one person earned a LOT more, they'd want a nice place to live, but most couples would want to go half-and-half as they're equally owners if they're on the deed! And furniture, presents, all things like that. So yeah it is easier to have similar-ish ones in my opinion but a bit of a gap is OK for me.

why not

My parents were typically dad earner mum earned a bit but not near my dad and done all house stuff, all my family similar (uncles, aunties, grandparents, etc).. they all have joint accounts and share their money.

When I get married and go for kids I'd want joint account, all money going into that and it being our money not mine.

When we buy a house, I wouldn't be asking her to put in 50% and me the other 50%, if I earned 100k and she earned 20k, I'd expect to put a much larger portion towards the house..

Maybe I'm old fashioned and since I am in a family that consists of mainly successful marriages then I don't know the stories of breakups over cash etc.

But I couldn't imagine people breaking up over money, but that's just me.

[buttons]

why not

My parents were typically dad earner mum earned a bit but not near my dad and done all house stuff, all my family similar (uncles, aunties, grandparents, etc).. they all have joint accounts and share their money.

When I get married and go for kids I'd want joint account, all money going into that and it being our money not mine.

When we buy a house, I wouldn't be asking her to put in 50% and me the other 50%, if I earned 100k and she earned 20k, I'd expect to put a much larger portion towards the house..

Maybe I'm old fashioned and since I am in a family that consists of mainly successful marriages then I don't know the stories of breakups over cash etc.

But I couldn't imagine people breaking up over money, but that's just me.

what, you don't want ur own account and savings? like fair enough if you wanted a 200k house that you could afford and i couldn't, then yeah you should pay more money, but i prefer what we do now; one account for our bills where we pay half each then our own accounts for savings etc? entirely depends on the lifestyles each can afford, so i can see how a huge wage gap can make a difference.

n i like how you assume it'd be you earning more ;ll maybe it'll be me earning more!!

[lawrawrrr]

why not

My parents were typically dad earner mum earned a bit but not near my dad and done all house stuff, all my family similar (uncles, aunties, grandparents, etc).. they all have joint accounts and share their money.

When I get married and go for kids I'd want joint account, all money going into that and it being our money not mine.

When we buy a house, I wouldn't be asking her to put in 50% and me the other 50%, if I earned 100k and she earned 20k, I'd expect to put a much larger portion towards the house..

Maybe I'm old fashioned and since I am in a family that consists of mainly successful marriages then I don't know the stories of breakups over cash etc.

But I couldn't imagine people breaking up over money, but that's just me.

Well, I don't really believe in marriage or even long-term relationships so it's probably mainly due to that. I think everything should be split evenly if it's equal, joint ownership - and even further, I don't even believe in blokes paying on dates etc. I have my things, my partner has their things... if a relationship dissolves then it's so much easier.

If I was putting in a lot more for a house than my partner (cos a long-term relationship might happen, I am open to it) then I don't think I'd feel comfortable us having joint ownership when I "own" more of it, technically.

But yeah, I think I have enough drive and talent to have a fairly high-paying job in the future, and I think that money that I earn should be spent how I decide and not how my partner wants to.

[buttons]

he changed his mind after i said that would mean him paying half towards me going out n getting drunk

i agree w/ you Laura, equal bills - the other person pays more if they wanna buy expensive shit, and separate accounts. i would begrudge having to pay half on his £100 computer stuff and his petrol when he spends more than me and earns more. doesn't seem fair!

[x-s-x]

Personally I would't mind, as long as we both have enough money to live on/are comfortable and go out now and again x

[Zak]

My Mrs can earn more money than me any day. The higher the income, the better!

[despect]

I dont think id care if my partner earned more than me. As long as we're both working and happy at the job then Its fine. I dont believe in the stereotype that men should be earning more or should be the one who provides the money.