Slitting Wrists

[sarey]

Their myths. And also yeah some people do it for attetion or to be cool, but thats 1/3 selfharmer.
P.S No thanks, im fine with what i do atm.

[:dallsgreen]

Personally I think the whole self harm thing is dumb, I think there is many other ways to deal with stress and stuff. Theres always people to talk to, and hurting yourself really isnt helping anything.

[discoball.]

But 2/3 selfharmers have a real reason. Like, to feel pain, cope with a problem, punishment, too see blood, whatever, every 2/3 selfharmer has a real reason, mostly the other 1/3 is just cutting for attetion/to be cool.

You got these statistics where..?

[sarey]

From my experiences with selfharm. And they are probably true, 1/3 selfharmers do it to be cool/attetion seek, 2/3 have areal reason. Most of my friends have selfharm, and it took them around a year to tell me, and people in my school i used to go to cut themselfs, and showed them to everyone, and cut in public, but that was only like 4 - 6 people i saw. But yeah, most selfharmers have a real reason. Which is why i averaged it around 2/3 have a real reason and the other third atteton seek/want to be cool.

[sarey]

Im so sorry for double posting but i just found something, it was posted and stickied on a forum i go on ; habbo-positive.co.uk to be precise, posted by calisse:
Self harm is intentionally hurting yourself, this can include cutting burning punching walls pulling your hair out or violent sexual acts

Why do people do it?
80% of self harmers have been sexually abused, but there is no set reason, many people start to draw attention to the fact that they are desperate for some support or help. This is not to be mistaken for the common ''attention seeking'' Self harmers are NOT failed suicide attempts. Although prolonged self harming can lead to suicide attempts

What helps?
Listening to people and trying to find out WHY. You cant solve the problem by removing all the sharp objects in their whole world. Example, if someone robs a bank, giving the money back doesnt make the robber all good again, you have to find out why they were that desperate.

What doesnt?
Get over it
Removing all the sharp objects, it makes them feel like your judging them and theyre doing something wrong
Doing it too
Trying to do it better than them
Putting them down about it
Praising them over it


Attention seekers may self harm
But self harmers dont attention seek.

[FlyingJesus]

No hes made idiotic points about selfharm which he knows NOTHING AT ALL about.

Blimey, you're actually right for once. Sorry Rob, try again.

2/3 selfharmers have a real reason. Like, to feel pain, cope with a problem, punishment, too see blood, whatever, every 2/3 selfharmer has a real reason, mostly the other 1/3 is just cutting for attetion/to be cool.

You said you got that statistic from personal experience, as in the people around you. Seems you have a self harm epidemic going around in your little circle of knife-happy friends, and that's only going to fuel the idea that cutting helps solve problems. If your friends do it, you're more likely to. However much anyone says they're their own person or whatever, everyone is influenced by everything they see and hear in some way.

And i dont want any arguements with this post because im sick of arguing now/debating, whatever were doing here.

Then roll over, you've lost anyway.

Girls are emotionally stronger, boys are physically stronger, ie:
A male is upset, the male hides the upset feeling and replaces it with anger.
another ie:
A female is upset, the female lets the upset feeling out by crying. Which means females are stronger because they are expressing it more securely, and properley ie: crying. Which means females can handle emotions and control them, males just replace it with anger or whatever. They hide it.

Letting other people know how you're feeling doesn't make you emotionally stronger. In your example of being upset, I would say that the more emotionally strong you are, the less the emotion will affect you in any way. Crying about it means that the emotion has beaten your composure, and so you are at that moment in time being emotionally weak. From what you said, that would make women the weaker thus far. Men you say get angry or cover it up completely, that's two options, the latter of which is keeping composure and therefore beating the emotion - being emotionally stronger. Emotional strength is measured in how much you react to an emotion, not how you react to it.

80% of self harmers have been sexually abused, but there is no set reason, many people start to draw attention to the fact that they are desperate for some support or help. This is not to be mistaken for the common ''attention seeking'' Self harmers are NOT failed suicide attempts. Although prolonged self harming can lead to suicide attempts

This is what I meant when I said that any self harm is in some way "attention seeking", even if it's not the bad form where it's done just by spoilt kids. I didn't mean that depressed people think "Hmm, I wonder how I could get some friends" and start cutting, it's just that doing something like that to yourself is a cry for help, even if you think you don't really want help.

[sarey]

Half that post made sense.

[jojoandme]

Yes, her. As in you. Saying/writing your name brings a burning sensation to my ears, sorry.



Completely wrong. Selfharmers avoid going to hospital as they take care of their own cuts/burns/whatever they've done, and selfharmers have few friends because they probably foundout what they did to themselfs, furthermore, you really should read the whole thread, where it had a URL with myths about selfharm, and some reasons why people do it, if people do it for attetion, id say; its damn stupid because they could die, and all they ever wanted was attetion, inwhich id say find a safer way of doing so.

never oncce saidv they would go to the hosiptal for help

[sarey]

Whatever fgs, im not ****** arguin about this pathetic idiotic thread, if u wanna ****** slit ur wrists, use a razor/glass/pencil sharpener blade/knife, UP2U dnt give a dam, bye.

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[Eoin]

I mean how the hell do you slit wrists? Kitchen knifes? School scissors?

I've just been thinking about it alot recently.

Dont actually do it though.