have u ever cut?

[geo]

I would consider self approval to be the biggest part of happiness ( maybe even happiness itself?) . The times I feel happy are when I approve of how I am when I'm doing something.

i thought it would be like that too (i honestly thought getting good gcse's would boost my confidence, mood etc for a long time) but the feeling of happiness went so fast and i was back to how i normally was. i totally understand why though, but we're all different and telling someone how to think / what to do / what to strive for is just stupid because everyone's different and will want different things in life bc of the way they've been brought up or just their behaviour in general (ik there's sooooo many more things that contribute to why we feel how we do, but i'm just kinda saying that there's so many things that will make us think how we do tht it'd be silly to think that ur opinion is the only one out there and just bc u think something is ridiculous doesn't mean others will). we're all individual so we can't expect to want the same things and think the same way!! and i understand that i was quite aggressive with oli but i do honestly think he voiced his opinions in a bad way and he should have been more considerate to the other individuals in the thread, especially with a topic like this lol

[oli]

I would consider self approval to be the biggest part of happiness ( maybe even happiness itself?) . The times I feel happy are when I approve of how I am when I'm doing something.

Yeah I would agree, but if you approve of yourself, you may not be happy you may just be satisfied? Not yet on the bar of happy but you're satisfactorily approving of yourself.

[-:Undertaker:-]

No I have not.

[Jazz]

Gave this a read through, and oh my goodness the ignorance. I'm going from right at the beginning, and by popular demand here's another long paragraph. Sorry if this double posts, iPads playing up


It's obvious @oli; has no knowledge of mental health, hence why his claims are so false to people with the experiences. It's kind of like a 5 year old trying to explain where babies are from, they don't know until they are told.


From my past of cutting and self harm it was mainly surrounded by my anger more than my depression. I am an angry person, and I will say what I think but after I always feel bad. Before I was able to control this I used to cut to vent the anger. I honestly don't care what people think about this, it was a coping technique at the time. I would rather have scars on myself than lay a scar on another person.


What has living in a first world country got to do with anything? It's great that you have the ability to swan off to another life, with new friends (and new family? Good luck with that), but most people think of other people as well as themselves. I would rather stay in my broken life, and rebuild it into something better because I can bet it would be 99% better than making a new life and messing that one up as well.


Nice, I'm happy. YES IM CURED. If that was how it worked, depressive based illnesses would not exist.


That's all I can be bothered to comment on, at the end of the day everyone's brain is different. You may have a nice clear brain with the ability to screw your life into a ball and start a fresh, but not everyone's brains are the same. Maybe you should do some reading before replying with such outlandish claims.


Off the oli topic, this is a hard thread to open up on and the people that have I have huge respect for.

[Chug!]

Nope,

I do understand how people feel so low, and do cut though.

[Matt]

Never self harmed, never will, don't see the point in it. But when people go against them because they are supposedly doing it for 'attention', you need to have a reality check. Some people do it for attention yes, but so many people do it because they have genuine problems and need help not abuse. When people are given crap about doing it, how do you then expect them to stop doing it when you've probably made them feel worse. I know a good few people who cut and they need help. My one friend started cutting as an alternative to suicidal thoughts and even though I think it's stupid, I give them encouragement and not hate. Love how some people joke about it though, calling them idiots just makes you one, not the other way round.

[Aiden]

Nope. I understand why people might result to this. The other day a girl told me she used to because of bullying, when I asked her if it helped she said no, as I thought. It just makes me angry someone can make another person feel that way.