Advice Needed

[Eamonn]

Women normally cave in with guilt make her feel so guilty its unbelievable , then say your going to your Dad's and say like i hope you enjoy your christmas without me and stuff like that

[$@m]

I know how you must feel, but don't let that ruin your Christmas.

If I was you, I would spend Christmas dinner with one parent, and then on Boxing Day or something spend it with the oppisite parent.

Hope this helps,

$@m

[Xela]

I would go with your dad as im guessing he is not seeing anyone and would be more upset then your mum.

[BLuweesH]

It sounds like your mum is afraid. I mean, people move on with relationships, correct? So why's your mum so afraid to allow him see that she has a new partner in her life? Unless of course she hates your father, but like, is there some rule that she's not meant to move on and is breaking it? Your mother's afraid...

[Stacey.]

Well my mum and dad have recently divorced. In the car about a month ago she goes do you mind if i see someone else and i go no, no problem. It didnt bother me cos i knew that it would make her happier than she is.

Now Today, she then says at christmas im not going to invite your dad for Christmas dinner and I go no hes coming, she goes no theres no point and I go no i want him to come hes my dad, if he isnt related to you any more he is still my dad, and i want him there for the meal. she then goes but it isnt fair if im seeing someine else and i say they cant come down for Christmas dinner but then invite your Dad which i have no relationship with anymore. I then get really uptight and started saying, no I want him there he is my dad, the person who helped make me and so on. Now she is saying if you want to goto your dad's pub for Christmas dinner with everyone else its ok..

This is where the problem begins...

I want to have a meal with my mum and dad. I cant decide which one to go to. Could anyone please help me decide.

Thanks

My mum and dad split up ages ago, but they sorted it out between them. I go to my nans with my dad for christmas one year, then stay at my mum for another year. Just give them time, they should sort it out.

[Embean]

Ouch, I really know how annoying this is. I once went to my friends to stay over last christmas and she has EXACTLY the same problem. So don't worry. Lots of people have been where you have been before! How about you spend some of the day with your dad and the rest with your mum? Like you could maybe have lunch with your dad. And dinner with your mum. Or if you don't like that idea. You could spend christmas with one person. And then spent New years day or Christmas eve with the other one. I really hope everything goes well and that you have a fun time Emmy x