Depression

[UnholyJess]

Well if the girl wont leave you alone just tell her to stop bothering you

[Nightrose]

k
well ill try and help.

Your Gf is online correct? and so is the other girl, what i can see is that your gf doesnt trust you and that is a serious issue because in a internet realationship there needs to be more trust than in real life as you cant physically be around the person bur if u can over come that it will work. internet relationships normally fade out after a year or you begin not to talk as much but with yours it seems like your going strong.

explain to the other girl that likes you that if she carries on like that, you will have to chose your relationship over her and i know this sounds harsh but cut her out, ie block her to either she understands that you cant be her friend because of the feelings and complications between you both and that she could end up recking your relationship. which if she likes you she will understand it.

Your Gf- seems worried that your cheat on her and she will end up with a broken heart, you should talk over that you both talk to other girls and no matter if one of them likes you, you would never leave her for them. teling her this and making her part of your regulay life routine might help like ring her at a certian time of every week say a friday evening, or plan to talk at a certain time everyday and tell her you love her a lot in the convos at random times, she wont think your werid but sweet, Trust me. Tell her that nothing wil lbecome between you two not even the distance or your friends, tell her shes the most important thing in your life.

Meering her- You both wnat to meet up but her mums not having it, it may be because she doenst wnat her "baby" going to meet someone as she may think something "sexual" will happen between you to but shes covering it up by saying that its something you did. A lot of parents dont want their children to meet their online lovers as they think either something "sexual will happen" because no one will travel that far for anything.

anyway maybe you should have your mum meet her mum for a coffee at the same time as you meet her, this will be able for both mothers to meet and discuss any issues that arrive and then you either stay at hers or she goes back to yours but do not meet up secretly as if yours and hers parents find out they may stop cotact between you both all together. you wouldnt want that.

About going out-i used to be like you, used to always stay in on the computer chatting to people that i met online and friends, but recently i got the corage to go out with my friends because its the end of school neraly and everyones relaxed and dont comment about what i wear etc. maybe to start off you re- socilaizing have a sleepover with a few mates. you could go shopping with each other. Tell them about your online gf so they can support you through it.
if not go out for a excersize and think of yourself as beauitful and confindece remember your what you think you are, no matter what anyone say so stand up tall and get out there girl.

sorry for the long post
all the best sweetheart
x

[:Hazel]

i probably cant reallt post anything that hasnt already been said but...

1. you need to meet this online g/f to strike up a proper relationship. you say you have no one to talk to but she may be the one you can confide in, meet in a neutral place in between where you both live.

2. talk to your dad if you can & ask him whats wrong and explain that he is creating an atmosphere when he goes off in these moods. he might open up...

3. i know it sounds cheesy but try & get a hobby of somesort, something that you feel good and confident with. it will get you out of the house & you may meet new friends and open up a wider social circle because of it.

all the best, i hope things get better.

[Blue]

i suppose most of this has been answered in the post, but about the train thing, i was like that, i get anxious really easily. If you do decide to get the train to see her, then perhaps ask someone at the train station when the next train is etc etc. Also look on the internet for the train times and know what stop to get off at and stuff, it would end up being fine

[DiscoPat]

I think everyone would agree that if her mum likes it or not, you two need to meet in real life to just boost it up as Hazel said above. About the social life thing, I'm not sure how old you are so I'll try to be specific; try going into a club for example, if you like cooking, then join a cooking club or chess club etc, this way you will be around people who you have somthing similar about and talk/discuss things, also you would make some new friends who you can go out and have fun with.

Try to avoid things which make you stressfull or depressed, and try to be with people who you can talk and have a laugh with. There is more to life if you actually do somthing, by siting at home, nothing will suddenly change, honestly.

Just arange to meet with this girl your in love with and see how things go, I hope everything turns out well mate

Disco

[sarey]

you on medication for depression? if not, go to your doctor and ask if you can. it might help?

[Nightrose]

you on medication for depression? if not, go to your doctor and ask if you can. it might help?

psh pill arnt the answer they just make things worse
sorry sarah#

[sarey]

it's ok, but they have helped my mom, she has had depression since i was four and she started medication a few years ago, she's got alot better. i guess it effects people it different ways...

[Antallica]

see a doctor?

[Charlie]

Sorry for bumping this thread or whatever, but just thanks to everyone who posted, i've repped you besides Hazel because i have to spread, so i'll rep you when i can.

I'll try all of what you have said, and see how it goes, and so on. Also, i daren't go the doctors because i've have to have my mom arrange it because i'm just way to shy to do it, so she'd ask what was up and say i didn't need that anyway. I also had some conselloring, well, it was one session which was bad enough and i'm scared the doctors will be the same, which is way i never went back to conselloring.