I thought I wanted him to break up with me, and it happened, but i'm miserable..

[Sunny.]

Same thing happened/ is happening to me tbh.

Best thing imo is to simply email him with a long email which is from the heart explaining how you feel. What you want.

Tell him how much he means to you, not only as a boyfriend but as a friend too.
You should also tell him your sorry for contacting him again but you just needed someone to talk too about it as you can't concentrate on anything else.

I Hope you do get back together. Im sure you were a great couple. So try work at it and atleast your making an effort to put things right, make him aware of that.

GL x

[Memmish]

Really sorry to hear about this, relationships are really tough sometimes especially with the changes that occur when you go off to different unis etc.

It sounds like he was holding you back in your university experience, having fun making new friends etc. but because you have been together so long you miss his company which is fair enough. I think you should email/message him just to say you respect what he wants but that you miss him and his company so much and really want to be friends at least. However he needs a bit of time to calm down and think it all through and you also need to give yourself time as this shock and upset could just be your initial reaction to missing his company but you may come to terms with the idea that not being a couple is the right thing for now.

Good luck i hope you feel happier soon. Keep us informed with whats happening. x

[Cyndia]

Thanks for all the advice guys, I really appreciated it.

So I ended up going with the email idea and wrote him one explaining everything that was on my mind which made me feel a ton better. I sent it to him a week and a half ago not expecting to get a reply for at least a few days.. And unfortunately I got absolutely no response even after a week. He's still refusing to speak to me at all and I still have no explanation from him and absolutely zero contact since that last skype message I mentioned. I suppose it's okay though, since we aren't dating anymore he really doesn't owe me anything, it just hurts and it makes me think hes kind of being a little immature. Oh well. And I still feel empty and a million times a day I see or hear things that remind me of him or I'll catch myself starting to type out a text to him without meaning to, but oh well, that'll pass with time.. I'm over the crying 24-7 phase and now I'm just annoyed he hasn't explained himself.

But on the plus side, Ive been eating loads of nutella which I haven't eaten in years! Haha. And Ive patched things up with pretty much all of my friends which is also good. And for the record, I am staying away from relationships for a good long while!

[untrustus]

tl;dr.


Edited by ,Jess, (Forum Super Moderator): Please do not make pointless posts.

[FlyingJesus]

As long as you're eating nutella, that's what I was most worried about