Your views on a **** buddy

[BlueEyedSarah]

I see nothing wrong with having an *REMOVED* buddy, its just a bit of no strings attached fun. The *REMOVED* buddies I have had are still my friends today, they have lasted longer than the regular friends I have had. Its best to only tell a few selected people though because not everyone would handle that idea very well.

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[Alkaz]

Well personally, I don't like the feeling of being used and especially not for sexual purposes. I'm not going to say I think all sex should be meaningful but I wouldn't want to be having occasional sexual contact with someone just for experimenting. If it was to be constant contact then I'd have to have be emotionally connected to them at some level otherwise I just see no point than having *one* person to mess around with, I find that pretty immature. You might think it's safe but would you really like to get someone pregnant that you're just sleeping with and don't want to be with? If you're not talking about actual sex then how are you gonna feel when one of you gets an STD which you probably will, I don't think "**** buddies" stick with one person all the time. It's not for me, one night stands on the other hand ..... :eusa_whis

I kind of agree with you Jen. Should be some feelings there.

[GommeInc]

What ever happened to mighty hand and experimentation? It's OK to have one, but I'd imagine other people hearing about it would be a bit disturbed about it (and of course gossip). Provided you practice safe sex like with any sort of sex, it's fine. There's nothing wrong with growing feelings for each other through it though.

[luce]

I'm 15, I am really close to all my mates, especially close to Michelle, we have tried almost everything, i dont see anything wrong with it - its all safe and there are no strings attached, we're young and experemental but some people seem to have a problem with it. Dont really know how they found out but they just talk about it behind our backs, we arent bothered, could just because they arent getting any. I think its good to have one, no strings attached, improvements, give each other tips. Obvs we stop when either of us get a partner though

I was like that with someone for at least 2 years and now we are together and have been for 3 months so yeah it's not bad and there is nothing wrong with it i think if it's just like one person and you know them not just like oh i'll get with you because i can more often then not you end up with them i know my friends have done it aswell

Oh and @Jen i agree with you that there should be feelings between you first not just like random experimenting, you shoudld be sure you're the only one and not being used becuase if you did like her and then find that that was the case you would probs be hurt

[JACKTARD]

thanks for all ur input, +rep to whoever i can

[Barkseh]

Nuffin wrong with it what so ever!!

From personal experience though, the start getting jelous when you go with someone else which pisses me off.

[leah]

I couldn't do it, I would become attached almost instantly and if they were ever with another girl i'd be devastated. I also don't like the idea of being used for sex, like Jen said - one night stands are different though kk
I'd also get very jealous which I can't actually help, it just happens and I know guys hate it when that happens.

[LuketheDuke]

Tbh people label this sorta thing as not a relationship but in a way it is.

When you have this sort of communication with another person and they do something with someone else unless your completely detatched (the other person is a complete stranger to you except for the sex) some sort of feelings will bubble up.

Therefore these "buddies" are involved in a relationship, albeit a very up front one.

[luce]

I couldn't do it, I would become attached almost instantly and if they were ever with another girl i'd be devastated. I also don't like the idea of being used for sex, like Jen said - one night stands are different though kk
I'd also get very jealous which I can't actually help, it just happens and I know guys hate it when that happens.

You're telling me!!1!

Yeah i did become attached instantly but it all worked out because he did aswell and now we're together and it's all fiine but i can understand how i would have been gutted if he had said nah im bored now and went off with someone else. So it depends really if you are set on being friends from te start.

On the subjects of one night stands im really not into them but im only 15 :eusa_whis:rolleyes:

[Melsia]

I couldn't do it, I would become attached almost instantly and if they were ever with another girl i'd be devastated. I also don't like the idea of being used for sex, like Jen said - one night stands are different though kk
I'd also get very jealous which I can't actually help, it just happens and I know guys hate it when that happens.

I agree with this.
I also get very jealous and I don't like the idea of being used for sex either.