Concerned about my friends dad

[Mentor]

Weird - i've generally noted it to be the Mums who get more worried about it these days o.0

[ifuseekamy]

It's pretty stupid for parents to get annoyed because a lot of sexuality is down to upbringing and how you're made to perceive gender roles :S Anyway, there's not really much you can do unless he does do something, unless you plan on having a heart to heart of course. Personally I can't see it happening if his dad at least pretends he's okay with it, I'd imagine if he hated it so much he wouldn't bother pretending otherwise.

[Catchy]

Blah urm I don't know what advise to give really as both of my parents seemed to be fine with it and they're pretty chilled out about most things I get up to etc, it should be okay, the dad just needs to realise that he's still the same person and like he doesn't choose to be gay. If he's pretending to be okay with it then it'll probably be fine. When my cousin came out to his mum she needed counselling and everything lol! But she is fine with it now and I guess people just learn to accept it.

[Mickword]

EDIT: Not going to say that!, just go with it, really everything in life has a purpose.

[Mentor]

It's pretty stupid for parents to get annoyed because a lot of sexuality is down to upbringing and how you're made to perceive gender roles :S Anyway, there's not really much you can do unless he does do something, unless you plan on having a heart to heart of course. Personally I can't see it happening if his dad at least pretends he's okay with it, I'd imagine if he hated it so much he wouldn't bother pretending otherwise.

O.o Actually almost every bit of evidence scientific and anecdotal says sexuality is genetic and nothing to do with upbringing? Perception of gender rolls is totally irrelevant?

[-:Undertaker:-]

Your genetics affect your enviroment, hence why most gay guys dont like football and will generally be more camp. It is your personality, how your made etc.

[Mentor]

Your genetics affect your enviroment, hence why most gay guys dont like football and will generally be more camp. It is your personality, how your made etc.

Wouldn't say theres any direct effect, sexuality only effects personality in so far of which gender their attracted to. The other traits are purely a byproduct generated from the society their in's perception of gay people, reactions to the sexualty, and often gay culture itself o.0 (aka the personality trates are a social construction/environmentally based while the sexuality itself is genetic)*

*This may actually have been what you meant, i had trouble understanding exactly what you were saying.

[ifuseekamy]

Eh, they passed on the genetics. Either way it's their fault

[Mentor]

Eh, they passed on the genetics. Either way it's their fault

I doubt its an inheritable trait or it would show up in family lines and genetic histories. Its likely more related to a genetic mutation of some form or possibly conditions in the womb.

[GommeInc]

Weird - i've generally noted it to be the Mums who get more worried about it these days o.0

Me too, most of our gay friends have had mum problems - if not all (though I suspect you may know more ).

I wouldn't know what advice to give, other than to show the father that there is nothing wrong with having a gay son - he is his son, sexual preference has beggar all to do with it :/

And as for where homosexuality comes from, I find it a mix of genetic and social environment. I seem to hear of straight guys having one night stands and developing mutual feelings, which confuse the idea of homosexuality. But pure homosexuality is pretty much genetic - straights having night stands and vice versa is just pressure or confusion, which everyone suffers/can suffer from.