Do you think online relationships can work? [Ends 17/01/2010]

[Glitter]

NO. FULLSTOP.

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I second this notion -gigggggggglle-
I think the whole e-love thing is silly, cause even with bare technology, if you're in need of a hug or whatever, you can't just get one.
and like, they never seem to work.

[Jay.]

I second this notion -gigggggggglle-
I think the whole e-love thing is silly, cause even with bare technology, if you're in need of a hug or whatever, you can't just get one.
and like, they never seem to work.

Relationships aren't all about physical contact. If you still have contact with someone, surely you can still love them, for their personality and support rather than physical comforting.

Relationships do tend to need physical contact, but if a relationship can last without it for a while, surely their relationship is a lot stronger than other 'normal' relationships?

[-Heart]

No, they can't.

Why, they just can't .

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[Sammeth.]

Relationships aren't all about physical contact. If you still have contact with someone, surely you can still love them, for their personality and support rather than physical comforting.

Relationships do tend to need physical contact, but if a relationship can last without it for a while, surely their relationship is a lot stronger than other 'normal' relationships?

I would probably hate a relationship without physical contact. Sure I can love anyone for their personality and what they bring to the table with their sense of humour and all that malarky, but I literally wouldn't be able to survive without human contact. Hugs, cuddles, kisses thats the type of intimacy we instictively crave. Its what I truly miss about being in a relationship, just knowing you can be close to someone physically as well as emotionally.

[Pyroka]

Relationships aren't all about physical contact. If you still have contact with someone, surely you can still love them, for their personality and support rather than physical comforting.

Relationships do tend to need physical contact, but if a relationship can last without it for a while, surely their relationship is a lot stronger than other 'normal' relationships?

Relationships without physical contact is like food without flavour. It's tasteless, it's same old, nothing exciting. And no the relationship would not be stronger lasting without physical contact, it would be DISFUNCTIONAL.

I even find the concept of love skeptical now, on the Internet of course. I think that isn't love, that's infatuation with another person just because they talk dirty to you and cam on msn. Kinky. *roll eyez*

I've been in 2 erelationships, 1 which was fully online (bar 2 meetings) & partianally online (occasional meetups). The difference was... There isn't one, it's all same old in the end, you miss the key starting point, the foundation to build upon a proper relationship. Otherwise, theoretically speaking, you walk into the house and the building will eventually collapse due to the foundations not being secure.

Lol I'm comparing relationships to buildings.

[Jay.]

It depends on how much you truly care for your partner. In the relationship that I'm in now, I agree it's hard to move the relationship on without contact, but it's better than nothing.

I don't know about you, but I don't just love my partner, I'm in love. And yes, that's on the internet. The internet allows people to converse from all different parts of the world, to communicate with loved ones from afar. Creating a relationship solely on the internet and to stay on the internet is pointless, but with occasional meet-ups, they can work.

When you were comparing a relationship to a building, you said the building will "finally collapse as the foundations aren't there." - I agree. Finally, it will. If the relationship isn't based online forever, and within 1/2 years you finally begin your life with the other one, these foundations can be re-built. Online relationships can work, if you put the effort in to make it work.

It's like a race. You need to keep up your speed all the way, you need to work hard, you don't like running forever, but you keep at it all the time. Finally, you get to the finish point, you've worked all that way and suceeded. You've now won the race and can relax. Relationships need effort put into them to work. When relationships are based totally in real life, effort isn't put into them as much as you have got all you need. Online, effort is essential to keep the relationship alive. You need to make a relationship work, it's hard but not impossible. They CAN work, with the right people.

[FlyingJesus]

I believe in your attempt to show that online relationships can work you've actually done the opposite - you yourself said that it'll only work if it "isn't based online forever". This suggests that online relationships in themselves cannot work, but only serve as a platform for a later real relationship. I by no means am attempting to belittle your opinion of e-relationships because if you're happy now then go for it, but they are not permanent situations and cannot healthily be called such, so by your own admission online relationships do not "work" in a real sense.

[ihatehash]

In all relationships I believe that there must be physical contact beginning from just holding hands or hugging and then once you get to know each other maybe kissing or even eventually sex. You can be anyone you want to be online. You can just act like an entirely different person. I'll admit I'm alot more confident online and sometimes I'll make things up to make myself seem 'cool'. The truth is you can't trust nobody online unless you live really close and have actually met this person. I will never have a online relationship as I hardly ever meet anyone online near where I live. The only way an Internet relationship can work is by meeting each other in real life before letting your relantionship florish otherwise when you do meet the person in real life you may be disapointed by their true personality.

[J0SH]

No, they can't.

Why, they just can't .

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You do realise people meet on Facebook & stuff then later on get married and stuff? :S

[Jay.]

FlyingJesus, in my later post I also stated that relationships that are purely based online wont work, but using online as a gateway to relationships will.

It's really a matter of age. If you're under 20 then online dating isn't bad, as you don't really need to be engaged into a proper relationship just yet. Therefore, if you do fall for someone when you're still young, and you decide to be with them for the rest of your life then you'll need to meet afterwards.

I'm just purely debating my opinion here, but if you plan on staying online for your whole life with someone, it's blates not going to work. As humans, we need love and affection, and I agree online you won't get that but meeting people online is just a gateway until you're older and then can spent your life with eachother.