my friend's dad died? how do i help?

[Black_Apalachi]

You are all really helpful :] we stopped texting about 12 AM and ive texted her twice today, once to give her sympathy from our english teacher (she asked if id text her) and i sent her a poem which was sent to my dad when my nana died. I might phone her sometime on sunday to see how shes doing

Glad I could help, was afraid I'd rambled on a bit too much! You seem to be doing well, just don't go over the top on calling/texting. If you're doing it much more than you normally would, I think it could have an adverse effect on things.

Well my grandad died when i was quite young and i saw him everyday and i lived next door to him but i got over it after a few days or weeks. Just give her some space, plus make sure you don't say anything about her dad unless she starts the conversation and she will recover soon.

This is partly what I was getting at. I hate it when people blatantly side-step the subject - like you can tell they would normally ask a question relevant to whatever the current situation is but you know that in their head they've gone; 'oh crap, better not mention that'. As I say, everyone's different but personally I'd prefer people to just be normal and not change their conversations or whatever.