The success of an adoption varies from case to case. Different children have differents wants and requirements- for some, a care home with other children who share their experiences and carers who do not call themselves 'mum and dad' is sufficient and even preferred, especially if the child in question has had a traumatic life before being taken into care. However, if a child was taken into care as a baby or young child, then growing up in a 'normal' family environment is probably best.

Overall, I think that the 'right way' of adopting varies. I also think that adoption, though sometimes unfair and often upsetting, is a necessity- there will always be unwanted babies in the world and there really is no other way of fixing this problem other than through adoption.