This is deep..

[Zak]

I don't really respect my parents much if I'm honest, then again they don't really respect me. So the feeling's mutual

I'm 19 too.

[Jessicrawrr]

In fairness am I not even allowed down to the park without having someone following me? I'm not one to get into drugs or anything, she knows that, but she insists on having someone follow me wherever? I have been put off making friends because I know I won't see them out of school, so I only have a few friends, and I have been put off going out - hence why I am on the forum so much. She's pretty much ruined my social life single-handedly.

Having said that, i do respect she works hard to keep my life enjoyable.

She just cares about you!
seriously all mums should be protective over their children, and she is with you because of your condition or whatever.

I love my mum, i respect her, I do things around the house stuff like that

[FlyingJesus]

I pay the bills that are for me (my phone ect.), I often help around the else, and obviously I can't buy the food - I don't have a job.

My mum doesn't even let me go out on my own, is that so much to ask? Admittedly it's not just her fault - I'm not allowed to go to after school clubs without someone there because of my medical condition, but really, I don't see why I can't be independent. I'm 14, not 4. I know my limits. I'm not ungrateful, I realise what my mum does for me, but she doesn't give me 1/2 the independence I need at my age.

Fairly sure you use electricity, gas, and water as well as your phone, and then of course there's the monster that is council tax, mortgage and any other household bills. I understand that you're 14 and in school rather than working so I'm not suggesting that you SHOULD be paying these bills at all, just don't think that you're independant when there's no chance you'd be able to live if you actually were. Also you've said yourself why you can't be out alone, and as annoying as it must be it's a far better reason than because she just doesn't want you to have fun

tbh just little things can show them you're thankful. just spending time with them, being patient and talking through things are good enough.

This irl, I (obv) spend a lot of time in my room on the pc but more recently I've tried to spend more time with my mum or dad if I'm at his because you can actually see in their face how happy they are when I do

[Conservative,]

She just cares about you!
seriously all mums should be protective over their children, and she is with you because of your condition or whatever.

I love my mum, i respect her, I do things around the house stuff like that

There's being protective and being OVER protective. My mother is the later. I have nothing against her for it, I just feel I should be more independent than I'm allowed to be. In 4 years I'll be at Uni, I'll be on my own, I won't have anyone with me, surely it's time for me to be allowed to grow up?

Fairly sure you use electricity, gas, and water as well as your phone, and then of course there's the monster that is council tax, mortgage and any other household bills. I understand that you're 14 and in school rather than working so I'm not suggesting that you SHOULD be paying these bills at all, just don't think that you're independant when there's no chance you'd be able to live if you actually were. Also you've said yourself why you can't be out alone, and as annoying as it must be it's a far better reason than because she just doesn't want you to have fun



This irl, I (obv) spend a lot of time in my room on the pc but more recently I've tried to spend more time with my mum or dad if I'm at his because you can actually see in their face how happy they are when I do

Yeah, I can't live on my own without her, but I do often feel my respect for her is misplaced when she doesn't let me do simple things like after school clubs without someone with me.

[Richie]

Now days, I'm actually sick of the computer, I will go down and just sit and have a chat with my mam. In fairness I used to abuse what she does for me, I'd leave dishes lying about, the house dirty etc. But now I spend the odd few mins cleaning my plates or whatever I've used and try just ask her if she needs anything.

[Andeeh]

i used to be a right ungrateful idiot a few years ago, but since its been me, dad and sis. I have massive respect for my Dad as he does everything for me. To be honest I shouldn't be relying on him so much and sort my life out better.

[Sharon]

There's being protective and being OVER protective. My mother is the later. I have nothing against her for it, I just feel I should be more independent than I'm allowed to be. In 4 years I'll be at Uni, I'll be on my own, I won't have anyone with me, surely it's time for me to be allowed to grow up?



Yeah, I can't live on my own without her, but I do often feel my respect for her is misplaced when she doesn't let me do simple things like after school clubs without someone with me.

You sound really childish. At least your mum cares, instead of letting you fall into the wrong crowd. I see a lot of people on the streets - it's not nice. If you think she's being over protective maybe it's a time to talk to her.

[Conservative,]

You sound really childish. At least your mum cares, instead of letting you fall into the wrong crowd. I see a lot of people on the streets - it's not nice. If you think she's being over protective maybe it's a time to talk to her.

I have lol? How am I sounding childish jw.

[Sharon]

Because you are complaining about your mum for all the wrong reasons. At least she actually cares for you - which is more that can be said for many people.

[Inseriousity.]

Pfft. I've done everything for myself since I was 12. Cooking, ironing, washing. Not shopping and ****, but you get the idea ;P

I usually do the shopping now though, have done for a couple of years.

haha same as soon as I could be trusted not to burn the house down, I started doing my own cooking. my parents have given me a great childhood so I'll always be grateful for that. Wouldn't have it any other way