Online Relationships

[T@R]

When you're about 12 and its all a bit of fun, I don't see the harm, but I think relationships should be kept between two people who have met eachother face to face.
Meeting people online isn't too bad, as long as you plan to actually meet them soon, or it could just get awkward.

[Neversoft]

if its just kept to online, then no.

but if there's physical contact too, yes. i'm in one atm and it's great. we talked for over a year before we actually met and then did last month and everything was fine, was odd for like the first 10 minutes but after that it seemed like we'd known eachother forever. plus i got to stay an extra week because the snow got me stuck. the whole not having eachother whenever you want isn't exactly the best but i'd rather that than be with someone i didn't really want to be with just because they're easier to access. but that's probably a good thing because a lot of relationships go down the drain because they're around eachother too much, get annoyed and bored with eachother and break up.

Sounds nice. Do you mind me asking how far away you live from each other and which of you it was that first spoke about meeting up? I am kind of in the same situation, except I have known the person approaching six years as opposed to just the one and don't really know how I should ask her about meeting up or whether she even feels the same way. I don't want a relationship from it however, just to become actual friends which makes it kinda weird.

[Samantha]

I've edated before, most people know that anyway, I got teased when I did by a person on this forum, and he really wouldn't let it go.

Here is a story that is quite long and odd but I still think it classes as e-dating and such.

In December 2008 I got my 2nd boyfriend, we dated for 5 weeks and we only met up once, I soon realised that I wasn't ready for a boyfriend and I broke up with him but gladly we are still the close friends we were beforehand. During the 5 weeks he asked me if he could give his friend my MSN address and I said yes and we got speaking. I did develop feelings for his friends way down the line, and eventually his friend introduced me to his cousin, we got on like a house on fire. But things happened and we never met up or began a relationship.
Back end of November 2009 I met this boy on habbo, and he was saying via mass invite "You wouldn't want to know Tonzz. irl" I was thinking, I do know her in real life, so I began talking to him. Turns out he lived in a town near me and was actually my ex, friends brother.

he had a girlfriend and we were just talking friendly, and I admitted to him on New Years Day that I liked him, he still had his girlfriend so I never persued my feelings. Then about 4/5 month later we were talking and he asked me to do him a favour, I must have said no because he replied with, "What if I told you I love you?" and he admitted his feelings, we dated online but never made it official, and we broke up a few days later.
Then another month later on the 11th May, we began dating again, made it official and everything, we managed a while together but we broke up yet again!

A few more month later he told me that he was moving to my town, and I was like where abouts? In my head I was thinking "Not (my street name) Not (my street name) Not (my street name)" Sods law, it was the street what my back garden was on. And he moved, and we never met or rekindled our relationship, but we did meet, he got on the same bus as me and although we didn't speak we knew it was each other.

He just wants to be friends now, and although he does like me he just wants to be friends because he can't risk losing me. So in a way the online relationship brought us closer. .

[Conservative,]

I'm never going there again. Let's just say that.

I did when I was like 12/13 for a few weeks and my friend (somehow) found out and decided to tell everyone at school. I got bullied for it so I broke up with the girl and I'm never e-dating again. I don't think they can work. I mean for a while they can but they'll never last. But that's just from my personal experience.

[Stephen]

I've edated before, most people know that anyway, I got teased when I did by a person on this forum, and he really wouldn't let it go.

Here is a story that is quite long and odd but I still think it classes as e-dating and such.

In December 2008 I got my 2nd boyfriend, we dated for 5 weeks and we only met up once, I soon realised that I wasn't ready for a boyfriend and I broke up with him but gladly we are still the close friends we were beforehand. During the 5 weeks he asked me if he could give his friend my MSN address and I said yes and we got speaking. I did develop feelings for his friends way down the line, and eventually his friend introduced me to his cousin, we got on like a house on fire. But things happened and we never met up or began a relationship.
Back end of November 2009 I met this boy on habbo, and he was saying via mass invite "You wouldn't want to know Tonzz. irl" I was thinking, I do know her in real life, so I began talking to him. Turns out he lived in a town near me and was actually my ex, friends brother.

he had a girlfriend and we were just talking friendly, and I admitted to him on New Years Day that I liked him, he still had his girlfriend so I never persued my feelings. Then about 4/5 month later we were talking and he asked me to do him a favour, I must have said no because he replied with, "What if I told you I love you?" and he admitted his feelings, we dated online but never made it official, and we broke up a few days later.
Then another month later on the 11th May, we began dating again, made it official and everything, we managed a while together but we broke up yet again!

A few more month later he told me that he was moving to my town, and I was like where abouts? In my head I was thinking "Not (my street name) Not (my street name) Not (my street name)" Sods law, it was the street what my back garden was on. And he moved, and we never met or rekindled our relationship, but we did meet, he got on the same bus as me and although we didn't speak we knew it was each other.

He just wants to be friends now, and although he does like me he just wants to be friends because he can't risk losing me. So in a way the online relationship brought us closer. .

that brought tears to my eyes

and robbie, I thought you were 13 now

[Conservative,]

that brought tears to my eyes

and robbie, I thought you were 13 now

I'm 14 nearly 15 fyi.

[e5]

Unfortunately, online relationships are a bad idea - In my opinion of course.

I see online relationships as setting yourself for a fall. You never actually know how the person on the other end feels, and if you genuienly feel for somebody that you speak to online, you will begin to start thinking differently. Now this is where alot of bad things can happen. The person you are talking to may seem like the 'perfect guy' and usually when they seem too good to be true, they usually are. They would start to want to meet up with you in real life - very dangerous. Habbo like to emphasise that giving out personal detailsa and meeting up with people from online is a very bad idea. So many times i've read about people going to meet so one so, and getting raped, or stood up. It definately is setting yourself up for a fall.

Even if you don't plan on meeting that person, again you still may never know how they actually feel and one day they could just bugger off and leave you, you never see the person, you never get to touch them and cuddle them - the usually loving things. Everything is just words, and in my opinion, words are just words, they need alot more of on top of that for the feelings to be really felt.

[dbgtz]

It's possible with a healthy mix of irl and online. It can't work purely over the net but I think that it is there to be used to meet people from a further distance who you can then get to know and possibly get in a relationship with. However it does need commitment and isn't really suitable for casual relationships which is purely for fun.

[Callum.]

I never have, although friendships started from online have turned to relationships but that's only with girls who are friends of friends etc. There are a few people online I really click with and if we met could potentially turn to something but some things ate best left unturned.

[Zak]

Tbh I never really tried it so I can't really give you an answer. From experience, i've not known many relationship that work online. Physical contact is a big thing, which you can't get much of if you live far apart. Although if you're a bit older both can travel, I don't see why you can't live in say london and date someone from .. sheffield? Anymore than that is a little bit much imo.