Do Internet Relationships Work? (ENDS 31/07/2011)

[lawrawrrr]

Agreeing with marvin - if you make it a more real relationship - seeing each other regularly, sometimes you'll end up seeing them more than people you ACTUALLY know (I know that's the case with me lol).

Also, I personally am not allowed out much, so I don't have much opportunity to meet guys irl, and they're always the kind that I'm not interested in a relationship with - usually so physical (another thing - you can move the relationship more slowly if you're not seeing each other constantly). On the internet, it's possible to meet a whole new range of people!

[-:Undertaker:-]

No they can't, often people on the internet tend to be more shy/less brash also in real life as opposed to online.

[lawrawrrr]

No they can't, often people on the internet tend to be more shy/less brash also in real life as opposed to online.

You can't say that's true for everyone - how can you know. Sometimes being able to come out of your shell more online is a good thing - lets people see th real you instead of the shy exterior most people have.

[Inseriousity.]

Yes they can work. Like all relationships, they need love, honesty and a trust between each other. All 3 of which are ten times harder to find online because it's easier to lie. People can choose what they want to divulge whether it's true, a version of the truth or complete ********. Despite that, don't think it's impossible to find someone online. The world's a big place, bound to be someone out there who's genuine and right for you.

[lukeyo]

First, good topic! Second, in proportion.
What do i mean by this? Whilst being in an online relationship that remains online, it should not affect or be brought into your life in the real world. Whilst online it's good to create an avatar - like another version of you. Say for instance if you were to get into a fight or dispute with the other person in the relationship and it started taking a toll on you in the real world, that's when you realize its an online relationship, and it only ever will be. Where as if in the relationship everything is going well, and your happy as hell (lol), Then go with it, have a positive energy and enjoy the ride.

It's good to have someone to talk to. But keep it in moderation and don't become to dependant on the relationship. Theres only so much comfort someone can give online.
BOOM

[J0SH]

Internet relationships = long distance = stupid = pointless..

However, if you're social networking and you find someone on the internet, and you meet up and take things from there, then it's okay.

[Liam]

Long story short; No.

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[beth]

i had a 3 year relationship with someone i met on here and it was awesome, i saw him every 4 weeks and then i moved to kent to go to university to be with him. sadly we both changed and ultimately it didn't work out BUT the initial part and the long distance part was so so good. we were so in love, and the distance kept the love strong because every moment i spent with him was special. i'm sure he can add more to this if he wants (hi sam!) but i have nothing but good memories for the internet relationship part.

i think if you want it to work, and yr mature enough and have the capacity (you need to be of a certain age to be travelling the country by yrself, i was 18 and sam was 17. we both had money from college coming in and we had supportive parents) to make it work: then it will. i don't believe in like transatlantic online relationships though because i believe yr kidding yrself. i know it sounds quite hypocritical, but it's a long way to come if it's not going to work and it's not worth the heartache i feel. and i think people who rely on the internet to find love should probably/won't find love either. i've only ever had one partner i met online, and i think that one is enough. people i saw prior and people i've met since have all been friends i know from work/uni/via friends. it is dangerous.

you have to be strong though, it hurts saying goodbye to someone for a month or so and it doesn't really ever get easier.

edit: i also don't get this different person offline/online thing. i'm exactly the same person i am online and offline, and if yr not i find that really odd. don't be scared to be yrself just because yr face to face with people ;l but i think that's probably a whole different story.

[Jordan:A]

I don't think that they work unless they regularly meet up and live in the same country, if its just 100% online then that's pointless.

[Stephen]

i had a 3 year relationship with someone i met on here and it was awesome, i saw him every 4 weeks and then i moved to kent to go to university to be with him. sadly we both changed and ultimately it didn't work out BUT the initial part and the long distance part was so so good. we were so in love, and the distance kept the love strong because every moment i spent with him was special. i'm sure he can add more to this if he wants (hi sam!) but i have nothing but good memories for the internet relationship part.

i think if you want it to work, and yr mature enough and have the capacity (you need to be of a certain age to be travelling the country by yrself, i was 18 and sam was 17. we both had money from college coming in and we had supportive parents) to make it work: then it will. i don't believe in like transatlantic online relationships though because i believe yr kidding yrself. i know it sounds quite hypocritical, but it's a long way to come if it's not going to work and it's not worth the heartache i feel. and i think people who rely on the internet to find love should probably/won't find love either. i've only ever had one partner i met online, and i think that one is enough. people i saw prior and people i've met since have all been friends i know from work/uni/via friends. it is dangerous.

you have to be strong though, it hurts saying goodbye to someone for a month or so and it doesn't really ever get easier.

edit: i also don't get this different person offline/online thing. i'm exactly the same person i am online and offline, and if yr not i find that really odd. don't be scared to be yrself just because yr face to face with people ;l but i think that's probably a whole different story.

The thing is shyness I think. Like if someone spoke to me, I talk loads and loads and loads online but if they met me irl they'd probably hate me because I'm pretty shy. But some people who aren't shy irl could come online and talk how they normally do and be the same irl. You just don't know do ya