My Father Died...

lukeyo · 09-08-2011, 12:02 AM

Originally Posted by Marbian

It's amazing and helps a lot talking to someone anonymous in fact. And thanks... I hope people read this and do get a wake up call to be honest... If you would to see my dad before he started, and then after... You won't even smoke like me.

Anyway, today's been busy. I seen my nan and so on today... It's hard for them because we only lost my uncle last year, so there other son. He drank, and got alchole poision. But it was only last year, and my grandad and nan worked, ages 70 and 67 and were both hard working, and since his death they haven't been because of the stress. And now this...

But yeah, we've been doing a lot of talking. Me and my brother are next to king so we'll have to sort it out. I mean, there going to help us because their family, but because we didn't get left a will or anything, we have no money at all and need all the support we can get of the family. We know he wanted to be buried, but if he can't because of the money, then we can't. But we're seeing the under takers tomorrow and sorting it out. Can't believe how much it costs to die!

Wow, i guess not having time for him to write his will definitely made things harder. I'm so sorry about your Nan and such, they deserve to be living a happy life at that age. Main thing to do man, is make sure your okay. Even if you have to get out and not worry about your family for a while.
It really is a wake up call, i'll let you know that. I smoke daily and to be honest i abuse recreational drugs for my own pleasure, and if anything you opened my eyes to the danger of me one day maybe loosing myself to my habits.

It cost's a bloody ****load to die these days, i know. It's ridiculous, I really recommend setting up life insurance when you turn 18. Don't want to leave it all for loved ones to pay for you when you die, plus it's a guaranteed funeral.
You and your brother are next of Kin? That's gotta be a bucketload. Keep your head up dude, at least untill the funerals over. Do your family proud.

Marbian · 12-08-2011, 10:53 PM

This week's been a bit eptic now. Having to see undertakers, preist, pay up to like 3k for the funeral... I've never been through anything like this and I can't beleive how much you have to pay to die. I think anyone that want's to kill themselves are just people who don't know what your family would have to go through.

Anyway, his body is released now, and his funeral is in 2 weeks. Being cremated. And then we're berrying his ashes next to my uncle that died last year from alcolic poison.

The one on the left is my dad. He changed a bit after that, got a bit scruffy... Remeember this was only like 5 years ago! And the one on the left is my uncle. The middle, my arntie, got married.

Really hard looking at it knowing they both gone within 18 months!

and dont worry, i dont take after my dad at all!

---------- Post added 12-08-2011 at 11:57 PM ----------

Originally Posted by lukeyo

Wow, i guess not having time for him to write his will definitely made things harder. I'm so sorry about your Nan and such, they deserve to be living a happy life at that age. Main thing to do man, is make sure your okay. Even if you have to get out and not worry about your family for a while.
It really is a wake up call, i'll let you know that. I smoke daily and to be honest i abuse recreational drugs for my own pleasure, and if anything you opened my eyes to the danger of me one day maybe loosing myself to my habits.

It cost's a bloody ****load to die these days, i know. It's ridiculous, I really recommend setting up life insurance when you turn 18. Don't want to leave it all for loved ones to pay for you when you die, plus it's a guaranteed funeral.
You and your brother are next of Kin? That's gotta be a bucketload. Keep your head up dude, at least untill the funerals over. Do your family proud.

bucketload indeed!

Marbian · 15-08-2011, 06:44 PM

I went to see my dad today at the Chapel Of Rest. I weren't too sure because it was a, regret seeing him, or regret not seeing him. I'm glad I seen him! He looked really peaceful, libs were purplish but the rest just looked like he was sleeping really. At first when they opened the doors I seen him then turned off and started crying my eyes out. it started everyone else of seein me, and got load of hugs. went to sit down with my grandad for a couple of minutes, went back in, was okay, stroked his head... didn't really say anythin i was thinking too much. then cried again when we were going.

Has to be the hardest thing I ever done. My brother wasn't going to come, but he did... and was braver than me.

bkps · 16-08-2011, 01:32 AM

Oh wow, I am so sorry for your loss. I actually cried reading that o-o
I really am sorry for your loss, and may he rest in peace

girardi1013 · 16-08-2011, 02:46 AM

I'm sorry for your loss

Marbian · 20-08-2011, 12:43 AM

I tried putting a speach together. I have to get it sorted before Monday... Not to sure what to put... i just started writting it and stuff. have no clue its hard

So here we are again, saying good bye to another loving family member, but this time... It's you dad. We both know you

didn't want to leave us, and if anything... We're proud to see how much you tried for both of us. We're lost for words,

it's only the other day we both spoken to you, and it was only the other week we were pickering at each other... Good times

though, where you would just laugh at us when we're angry. But you were there, and you still are.

Life did catch on, and stuff isn't fair. But no matter what will happen, You will always be there, and so will the memories

forever stick with us both. We'll never forget the mornings where we wake up with the music on and you singing with the

dogs. Never forget the moment when you put gone of cheese in a paster bake, but still thought it tasted nice... Things like

that, we'll never forget.

You were loving, caring.. Well when you wanted to be. We just wished that you done more for your self instead for others.

You were a great father, friend. and I wish we could of spent more time together, but now, your here in our hearts forever.

You look after Darren now, and we'll look after each other down here like you would of wanted.

ach other down here like you would of wanted. [/QUOTE]

Catzsy · 20-08-2011, 09:37 AM

I really feel for you. I lost my Dad when I was young and know just how sad and confused you are right now. Nothing will help you feel better at the moment but all I can say is that with time you will remember him for the good times you had. The speech is fine. It comes from the heart and that is all that matters. xx