Males and Females in relationships.

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cause guys are generally brought up to be tough and not talk about their feelings even if they're heartbroken, they're not ~supposed~ to show it as they'll look weak while girls are expected talk to each other about it and so get over it easier. when my best friend split up with her boyfriend of 3 years, he was the one that took it really bad. she'd go out, have fun and get with other guys while he was crying for her to come back doing everything for her even though they weren't together. he said he had sex with a few girls but there was no feelings at all and that's when he realized he wanted to be with her only. i've also known of a guy who was beat up by his girlfriend and he stayed with her and he continues to go back to her every time because he loves her.

yes, at school generally the popular people date each other. my first ever boyfriend was the typical class clown who everyone loved and he would pick on me quite often, one time he defended me when some girl picked me as her new victim. he would usually join in with the bullying with her but he stood up for me (we used to talk on AOL messenger, i guess i was someone who listened to him and took him seriously despite his class clown act). anyway, so everyone found out we liked each other but one of his popular female mates told him for a long time to not date me because i was weird. & he listened to that before he finally decided to live his own life. to me it made me really happy because this was a guy who was generally not interested in girls - to the point where he'd bully them - but for some reason i was different, special even? i've loved that ever since, i can only speak for myself when i talk about girls going for bad guys but it's a sense of 'taming' them and being special enough for them to change their ways for you. he was always really nice to me and not to others (which i didn't care about at that time) but turns out he beat up his now ex-wife so i'll know not to make that mistake again lol. in school it's always those who keep quiet about their relationship who last, not people who want to show off about it.

i still go for guys who don't seem interested in any girls at all as #1 i don't want a guy who is already out looking and thus could just settle for me and #2 it does feel nice to know you're special enough for them to want to give up their freedom for you lol. i know not to go for the type like my first boyfriend who was a bully but once you respect yourself as a person, you will only go for others who respect you too. i don't like 'bad' guys anymore but i do like them to be strong, just for security whereas my friend always goes for the possessive, jealous type because she finally feels worthy :/ been guilty of that myself when i had lower confidence.

BUT YEAH WOMEN CAN HURT MEN, MEN CAN HURT WOMEN BUT BEING IN LOOOOVE IS ALL ABOUT TRUSTING THEM NOT TO, ISN'T IT? knowing that they have that power to hurt you and still putting all your trust into them. maybe the problem is with 'love' itself, it can just change (the love chemicals dying down after a few years) but that doesn't mean the person has changed. we just feel victimized and betrayed because we give a person everything and one day they don't want it anymore and we feel worthless n poo.

[AlexJRiley]

In my opinion whenever theres a break up both sides get hurt, but the side breaking up is more prepared for it because its them whos breaking up so they're more prepared for it because it would have been on their mind for a while. Guys and be ***** but so can girls so in the end everybodies a ****.

[Johnathan]

In my opinion whenever theres a break up both sides get hurt, but the side breaking up is more prepared for it because its them whos breaking up so they're more prepared for it because it would have been on their mind for a while. Guys and be ***** but so can girls so in the end everybodies a ****.

I agree with this. In a certain stance, people always end up regretting something and wishing it would go back to a previous state. If anyone ever breaks up with a person I think they should not live to regret it. Could of been one of the best things that would of happened to you.