Engagement is not just a Facebook status!

[Samantha]

I'm not really fussed, what made me wonder is why people care so much about 'Facebook official' I got told that me and my current boyfriend should wait a couple of months but I see no point? If I'm in a relationship with someone I'm not exactly going to leave it as single, I've had 'Facebook marriages' but that was to say we were dating that no one knew and it only occurred for about a couple of days. Doesn't affect me what people do, two of my friends recently got engaged apparently and I found out through Facebook, they're properly engaged though. If it comes to it and I was engaged I'd probably put it on Facebook, same as I would do if I was married, I see no reason to lie but some may just want to do that; it's up to them at the end of the day though.

[Kardan]

If people want to have fake relationship statuses, let them be

As for people who do get engaged very quickly, I'm not keen on the idea, but it's their life. I feel like I could easily get engaged any time now really, I'm in the right place in my life for that really. I think that a relationship for 3 years, 7 months isn't too soon. But the only reason that probably puts me of getting engaged is the fact that people would judge me for being too young.

[Inseriousity.]

All it is really is an inside joke so finding it weird or odd is simply because you're not aware of the joke. Don't see it as anymore than that. As for assuming it's a new thing of the younger generation, older people do it all the time when they socialise. I've seen it all the time, things like "we're like an old married couple haha" etc.

As for the time of engagement, I think there is no golden time where everything becomes clear. My parents had a long engagement, there seems to be this idea that once you're engaged, you need to rush into the marriage but engagement can be as long as you both want it to be so it doesn't matter too much if it's rushed engagement or takes forever!

[dirrty]

lol why do u think ur opinion even matters. you ain't involved so let ppl do whatever THEY desire. it nah effect u

[lawrawrrr]

I know someone who recently just got engaged on facebook, she's 19 and been dating her boyfriend for 2 and a half months. I do think that facebook 'engagements' are being misused considering the seriousness of it. If you take away the whole facebook situation (which influences relationships full stop), then I do think engagements are becoming less important; I'm obsessed with Jane Austen and the whole idea of courtship and engagements is lovely to me. There's no difference these days between marriage, engagement or dating, it's so superfluous these days. It's just a status, not necessarily a Facebook status, but a LIFE status.

I don't believe in marriage (for myself) but it's something I do respect for other people, it just annoys me when people throw the word around; like on Jeremy Kyle when they're perfectly happy to leave their fiancees for the tiniest things, surely they can't be serious about the other person and marriage if they'll easily be able to leave them.

To be fair though, it's up to the individual, and whatever they choose they can. What I posted before is obviously my personal views but they can do whatever they want; most of the time I won't judge those people because it is their life, but it's not something I'd want for myself.

[karter]

there is a guy in my school who started dating a girl WHO IS 13 YEARS OLD. I am not even kidding, she is actually 13. So one day I open up facebook and I see that they are apparently engaged..

[Teabags]

i want to be engaged.
after reading this I feel alone.

[Zak]

Alot of young people are getting engaged now and it has no meaning. Some people do it just for bragging rights on Facebook which really does piss me off

I wish they'd remove relationship status from Facebook tbh.

[Glen Coco]

so you're saying that she was engaged after 3 days?

at the end of the day, most people have 'married' someone on facebook once. probably when they were younger but nonetheless. the only irritating thing is when couples who clearly don't get on are constantly changing their relationship status to 'engaged' - 'single' - it's complicated, every few hours / days but even then, you simply put them on the setting where you don't see their changes. there's no reason that you need to get annoyed, if someone wants to get engaged after a short time then it's up to them. whether it'll last or not is something that only they need to worry about.
at the end of the day, they probably aren't engaged, they just want to see people's reactions by changing it, and by getting annoyed you're giving a reaction.

[Special]

you need to take it with a pinch of salt, if they're under the age of 18 chances are they are trying to be funny