if your bf/gf was unable to have children, is it ok to end the relationship?

[Rachel]

If you truly love the person you won't leave for this reason. Just accept the way he/she is and go to next step towards adoption like some few people mentioned. You don't know if the person cannot have kids you have to go through the moment where nothing happens and then you ask questions but no need to leave the person for this then you didn't love or care for the one you were in a relationship with.

[scottish]

If you truly love the person you won't leave for this reason. Just accept the way he/she is and go to next step towards adoption like some few people mentioned. You don't know if the person cannot have kids you have to go through the moment where nothing happens and then you ask questions but no need to leave the person for this then you didn't love or care for the one you were in a relationship with.

erm what...

just because you end a relationship doesn't mean you didn't care or love the person you were with..

it's pretty obvious that she was checked out and wasn't a case of a little while where nothing happened, he does know she can't have kids and if one of the things he wants out of a relationship is to start a family then he can end the relationship, that says nothing about past feelings towards them.

[Sian]

after 4 months, then no. But if it's been quite a long relationship it's wrong. If you loved them you'd find a way around it, like adoption or surrogacy... no need to be so harsh when it's no-ones fault. Unless it genuinely starts to break the relationship apart i guess.

[wixard]

if the person really wanted children though, and children of their own at that (not to mention adoption is an extremely lengthy and difficult process) and stayed with their partner, would the fundamentals of it all not slowly ruin the relationship anyway?

[GoldenMerc]

No theres always other options you can take etc, So i'd say no.

[scottish]

if the person really wanted children though, and children of their own at that (not to mention adoption is an extremely lengthy and difficult process) and stayed with their partner, would the fundamentals of it all not slowly ruin the relationship anyway?

Yeah and if they did stay together for say 10 years then he's slowly going to resent her more and more every day cause shes unable to give him what he wants when he could have been with someone else and have a kid etc

[Cerys]

I guess not.

But I'd be pretty angry with him. I'd think that he was only with me for kids or something. Cos I mean, there is otherways of having kids.

[Luke367]

Their are other ways around to have kids, But if you love someone you stay with them.

[Empired]

Obviously love isn't the only factor. There are things like how long you've been together, how old both of you are, how desperate you are to have children, etc.

People can say that love should get you through it together now, but I can't say whether I'd stay or go until I'm in that situation (hopefully not). Your expectation of something is always totally different from reality.

[Yawn]

harsh but not wrong.

having said that he obviously wasnt 'the one' (thats rly gay cant believe i said that lol) if he left her though. the right person for her would accept her the way she is