Closeness to people of the opposite sex/same sex during a relationship.

[Kardan]

It's pretty clear cut.

No flirting, cuddling, kissing... Why would you feel the need to do that with someone else?

I think people on here are very lenient

[FlyingJesus]

There is no hard and fast rule, it depends entirely on the people present in a relationship. I'm polyamorous - I don't believe that strict monogamy makes sense and find it weird that people feel like they only have enough love to give to one person at a time - but even in poly relationships there are rules on cheating, and everyone involved has to be comfortable with everyone else's behaviour or it can't work out. It's not the same as swinging which is a purely sexual thing (although a lot of poly people do seem to be swingers too) and when it comes to relationships it's the same intensity and trust that makes it special, so there obviously still has to be the exact same respect and love given and shown as there would be in a monogamous relationship

[Meanies]

I think that if you're with someone then all the cuddling/kissing/whatever else should only be done with that person. Surely if you really cared about that person then there wouldn't be any need to be doing that stuff with someone else. I know I wouldn't do anything like that with someone else and I'd hope for the same in return!

[Cerys]

Never really been in this situation, but I'd say you're allowed to hug someone of the same sex but not the opposite.

Idk though tbh. Depends on the type of person you're with and whether they're bothered about that stuff

[e5]

Hugging is as far as I'd expect to see a girlfriend of mine go with another lad, and only a friendly hug to say hi or bye. Kissing them (on the lips) is cheating in my opinion. When I was with my ex, I wouldn't want her kissing another lad our age on the cheek even as I know so many lads fancied her so I was probably quite paranoid. I wouldn't mind an older family member or friend or whatever that wouldn't get feelings for her if they/her kissed on the cheek as thats just polite and friendly if they were saying hi or bye.

I had bad experience with my ex so I guess i was right to be paranoid, but it's the reason why today we're not together, although I probably wouldn't say no to getting back with her now as I think shes grown up and learnt a lesson. Although shes with someone else now, so I don't wait around Not fair on me! But I don't think it will last too long

[Inseriousity.]

It's pretty clear cut.

No flirting, cuddling, kissing... Why would you feel the need to do that with someone else?

I think people on here are very lenient

I think people on here are very strict
I'm not really one of those overly affectionate types so don't feel the need to kiss or hug people hello or goodbye but I am a big flirt. It's just banter and nothing serious. I'm not going to sacrifice who I am because of a relationship. I therefore can't be a hypocrite and expect my partner to not flirt with anyone (and I think that's the main issue for me really, it's almost always one-sided. "No you can't have that friend because she's a girl but I'm allowed to have these friends who are boys because I obviously wouldn't do anything, I love you duh!")

[Kardan]

I think people on here are very strict
I'm not really one of those overly affectionate types so don't feel the need to kiss or hug people hello or goodbye but I am a big flirt. It's just banter and nothing serious. I'm not going to sacrifice who I am because of a relationship. I therefore can't be a hypocrite and expect my partner to not flirt with anyone (and I think that's the main issue for me really, it's almost always one-sided. "No you can't have that friend because she's a girl but I'm allowed to have these friends who are boys because I obviously wouldn't do anything, I love you duh!")

I guess I'm not a flirty person, but even if I was, why would I need to flirt with someone else, when I have my girlfriend for that?

Personal preference I guess

[JACKTARD]

It completely depends on how trusting and secure your partner feels. Some things like a kiss and a spoon are going to be a no no for 99% of people though.

[Phil]

The furthest I'd feel comfortable with is my girlfriend hugging another guy and then as far as playful flirting with other girls. All the guys she knows are also like my best friends. I dunno how I'd feel about her hugging a guy I didn't know; to an extent anyway.

[Daltron]

For me flirting is flirting and I don't like it if I am in a relationship with someone. My view is pretty much the same as @Kardan;