Polygamy - thoughts?

[MKR&*42]

A fantastically insightful post thank you for joining us

He answered the question about whether he would ever engage in a polygamous relationship, there's no need to be that sarcastic and rude to him? :S

[Judas]

He answered the question about whether he would ever engage in a polygamous relationship, there's no need to be that sarcastic and rude to him? :S

I just don't see the point in replying to a thread with a simple yes or no answer? If you aren't going to contribute to discussions then why are you on a forum? It happens all the time here and it's pointless, boring and annoying. Now do you have anything else to say about the actual topic? If not, please leave.

[MKR&*42]

I just don't see the point in replying to a thread with a simple yes or no answer? If you aren't going to contribute to discussions then why are you on a forum? It happens all the time here and it's pointless, boring and annoying. Now do you have anything else to say about the actual topic? If not, please leave.

You're going to get a lot of people respond like that to a lot of threads, although I'll know better to reply to a thread started by you in the future considering how abrupt and rude you are lol @subo; was right about you (what she said in another thread).

[lemons]

Would you ever engage in a relationship where polygamy is involved? no
Do you think it's normal? no
Do you think it's acceptable? no

polygamy sounds ridiculous

[FlyingJesus]

I think you can love more than one person but not romantically

Then I'm afraid you're quite provably wrong Perhaps you couldn't, but it's certainly not a universal truth that people somehow only have enough love for one person.

To me it's impossible to imagine closing myself off like that; not because I'm greedy or can't commit but because the way my brain works always allows for more love. Also believing in pure monogamy seems self-defeating in that quite clearly there is not just one person for everyone forever as people do tend to have multiple partners (albeit not usually at the same time) and so if you're able to be into more than one person across a span of time then it makes no logical sense to assume that you couldn't love them both together unless you accept the notion that love is finite - and if that's the case then it's a far sadder world than I want to be in.

[Inseriousity.]

Polygamy has always seemed one-sided to me. It's always a man with multiple wives (don't think I've ever come across a story bout a woman with multiple husbands but I'm sure there are somewhere). Polygamy in the way that Tom suggests would mean that it'd be a bit more open. There seems to be some power imbalance and I wouldn't personally want to get in the middle of that from either side. Despite that, it's a choice and if people are happy with that and it is their choice then they aren't doing anyone any harm really.

[Judas]

You're going to get a lot of people respond like that to a lot of threads, although I'll know better to reply to a thread started by you in the future considering how abrupt and rude you are lol @subo; was right about you (what she said in another thread).

Good to know, I hope you never do. And how playground of you. I don't care what some randomer said about me in any thread. You don't know me and I don't know any of you so I literally couldn't care less. Please stop trying to derail a civil conversation, thank you.

Would you ever engage in a relationship where polygamy is involved? no
Do you think it's normal? no
Do you think it's acceptable? no

polygamy sounds ridiculous

Why is it not acceptable?

Then I'm afraid you're quite provably wrong Perhaps you couldn't, but it's certainly not a universal truth that people somehow only have enough love for one person.

To me it's impossible to imagine closing myself off like that; not because I'm greedy or can't commit but because the way my brain works always allows for more love. Also believing in pure monogamy seems self-defeating in that quite clearly there is not just one person for everyone forever as people do tend to have multiple partners (albeit not usually at the same time) and so if you're able to be into more than one person across a span of time then it makes no logical sense to assume that you couldn't love them both together unless you accept the notion that love is finite - and if that's the case then it's a far sadder world than I want to be in.

Interesting idea. So is being in a relationship with multiple people at one time something you have experienced? Or something you would like to do? And would that be considered polygamy in your eyes, or an 'open relationship'? I'm not entirely sure of the differences, to be honest.

Polygamy has always seemed one-sided to me. It's always a man with multiple wives (don't think I've ever come across a story bout a woman with multiple husbands but I'm sure there are somewhere). Polygamy in the way that Tom suggests would mean that it'd be a bit more open. There seems to be some power imbalance and I wouldn't personally want to get in the middle of that from either side. Despite that, it's a choice and if people are happy with that and it is their choice then they aren't doing anyone any harm really.

Yes that is true. Most of what you hear about polygamy seems to be about male possession. Seems unfair but like you say some people are fine with it so who is anyone to question their right to do that if they're happy?

[FlyingJesus]

Polygamy has always seemed one-sided to me. It's always a man with multiple wives (don't think I've ever come across a story bout a woman with multiple husbands but I'm sure there are somewhere). Polygamy in the way that Tom suggests would mean that it'd be a bit more open. There seems to be some power imbalance and I wouldn't personally want to get in the middle of that from either side. Despite that, it's a choice and if people are happy with that and it is their choice then they aren't doing anyone any harm really.

The way it's been legally/sociologically implemented in the past has been as you say just about possession, and I yeah if we're going to be technical then polygamy in the real world has almost always represented as just polyGYNY (many wives, as opposed to polyANDRY many husbands), whereas the idea of multiple relationships is better termed as polyAMORY and due to the suffix is more about love that marriage Greek is fun *+*+*

Interesting idea. So is being in a relationship with multiple people at one time something you have experienced? Or something you would like to do? And would that be considered polygamy in your eyes, or an 'open relationship'? I'm not entirely sure of the differences, to be honest.

Not something I've personally been a part of since I don't tend to have one person after me let alone any more lol although certainly had extremely strong feelings for more than one person so the emotional side of it makes sense to me in a way that monogamy never really has. Open relationships are a bit different since that tends to still be based on a couple and then a few satellite lovers who are "allowed" (and frankly it tends to happen because they're not really that happy with each other) whereas polyamory/gamy is genuine relationships between various people, although as far as I know not usually in the sense that absolutely everyone involved is in love with everyone. You'd need an insane amount of luck and trust for that to happen

[Judas]

Not something I've personally been a part of since I don't tend to have one person after me let alone any more lol although certainly had extremely strong feelings for more than one person so the emotional side of it makes sense to me in a way that monogamy never really has. Open relationships are a bit different since that tends to still be based on a couple and then a few satellite lovers who are "allowed" (and frankly it tends to happen because they're not really that happy with each other) whereas polyamory/gamy is genuine relationships between various people, although as far as I know not usually in the sense that absolutely everyone involved is in love with everyone. You'd need an insane amount of luck and trust for that to happen

I was doing some reading about it earlier and the way I understood it was this:

Polygamy - one person in the relationship also being involved in a relationship with others (usually talking about marriage?)
Polyamory - both people in the relationship being involved with others
Open relationship - both people basically allowed to be sexual with others on the side

Yes, I'm pretty sure they don't mean everyone involved loves everyone. That's probably a different thing altogether and I'd imagine, like you say, that it's very rare lol. It's just accepting that the one you love is in love with someone else and is also in a relationship with them, and you might be too (only in polyamory?)

[God]

If everyone is happy, and noone is being used, then I say let them ******* love each other.