Do you think you choose your sexual orientation?

[MKR&*42]

I believe there are several influences and that people choose what to label themselves, but their sexuality it is not a choice.

Fluid, but not a choice.

[karter]

I think there's a deeper meaning to why someone chooses to be gay. Whether it be from past experience, or from personal desire. All cases that I've heard (and yes this does change from person to person) all had traumatic experiences as a child/young teenager that was resulted in the decision to do so.
Personally, no matter what a person's sexual orientation may be - they are just humans. Just like everyone else.

Traumas that may include sexual or physical abuse. It could possibly stem from parental neglect as well. Those types of traumas.

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it's actually the other way round, traumatic experiences like abuse come from not having heterosexual behaviour. also the other ******** theories like "you're gay if u dont have a strong male figure in your life!!!!" have been proved wrong long ago although they never carried a scientific base anyway, just assumptions. also your original post seems condescending and negative because you implied (whether intentionally or not) that not being hetero is a result of some kind of mental trauma.

OT: I agree with what Undertaker and buttons said

[FlyingJesus]

I think there's a deeper meaning to why someone chooses to be gay. Whether it be from past experience, or from personal desire. All cases that I've heard (and yes this does change from person to person) all had traumatic experiences as a child/young teenager that was resulted in the decision to do so.
Personally, no matter what a person's sexual orientation may be - they are just humans. Just like everyone else.

Are you really suggesting that homosexuality is a conditioned response to trauma and everyone who's ever been interested in the same sex is a victim like really

[jake87385]

No, I wouldn't of chosen to be gay but my god I wouldn't change for anybody

[Brad]

I enjoy how as soon as I have said what I believe people jump down my throat. @buttons; I have had people say that to me.
Situations that I have heard (from a lesbian) is that they had been treated wrongly by men and that they chose to be a lesbian. Which has brought trauma to them... Which answers @FlyingJesus; @karter;
I never even said I hate GLBTs. I treat them as humans. As we should all do so. What is so wrong with that. I don't segregate anyone for what their sexuality is.
I don't mean to speak or make it assume I am speaking condescending because I have no intentions.


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[benzoberzerk]

Oh yeah, we choose our sexuality just like we choose how tall we're gonna be, how deep our voices will become and what diseases we're genetically prone to get later in life. As an infant i was indecisive about what color i wanted my eyes to be, and they eventually ended up being a mixture of gray and blue. All bisexuals probably faced this same problem. Luckily for some, they get to grow up in a society where other people can re-decide this for them! Like, really, all they need is to be told what's accepted and what isn't, and with some beatings, a few threats and some good old ostracism the wrong sexuality will be driven out of them in no time.

I think there's a deeper meaning to why someone chooses to be gay. Whether it be from past experience, or from personal desire. All cases that I've heard (and yes this does change from person to person) all had traumatic experiences as a child/young teenager that was resulted in the decision to do so.
Personally, no matter what a person's sexual orientation may be - they are just humans. Just like everyone else.

Lol.... can you please elaborate on this? I have a hard time understanding how people can actually buy this crap. Would you, if something traumatic happened to you, suddenly decide to become gay? Would another traumatic experience reverse the effect? Maybe it would make you transsexual?

And even if we pretend you're right and say that every single person that isn't straight has this sexuality because of something traumatic that happened to them; wouldn't that be the exact opposite of a "choice"? "I was sexually and physically abused my whole childhood, my life will probably become so much easier if i become gay! Who wants to be normal amirite?!"

[Brad]

@bensoberserk; please read what I had posted before you posted.



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[FlyingJesus]

No-one said that you hate anyone just that your views are provably wrong and paint all homosexuals as victims of abuse suffering from a trauma that makes them that way - essentially stating your belief that homosexuality is a disorder

[buttons]

choosing to date women does not make you a lesbian. being attracted to women solely does. so you can't choose your orientation but you can choose how to act upon it as already said.

[Brad]

@FlyingJesus; I never ever said my views were right.
And to @buttons; then how can you explain those who go from a married man/woman who goes like many years in a marriage and then one day end the marriage and turn gay/lesbian? Does that mean he had been lying the whole marriage to their spouse?

Or what about the person who thinks he/she is gay but then lives his whole life dating the opposite sex.

I am sorry if I sound like completely rude or misunderstanding, I don't intend on doing so.

And also if we go back to the title of this post its, "do you 'think' you choose your sexual orientation." Which I was stating.


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