public speaking

[Kellie]

Oh god no I really can't. They used to make us do it at college and I was a mess. I did it but I was shaking all through like I was so out my comfort zone. I'm shy enough as it is in person, doing that is NO

[dbgtz]

I used to absolutely despise it and would avoid it at any cost. Not even quite sure when this changed, but I'm pretty comfortable doing it now. Had to do one on Monday, actually I will say though, if I have to speak for a length time and I'm not completely familiar with what I'm suppose to be saying/presenting, then I will probably slip up on my words on occasion which really just means I need to follow what I've been told my whole life and practice presentations lmao.

On a related note, it's interesting to see how different people move when they're presenting and their "tells" (not sure how else to word it). Like some people will put their hands in the pockets or constantly move their sleeves down over their hands, perhaps even just pace around a little bit.

[buttons]

But yeah. Really really shy people over the age of like 12 annoy me now. I can understand not liking public speaking as it's really not everyones cup of tea but the girl I used to sit next to in English would shake like a leaf and you could see her mouth going dry and she'd stutter and stutter if the teacher asked her a simple question (and it wasn't that she didn't know the answers, she was smart and she always had something to say) and it would just frustrate me because like ???? get a grip? Speaking is part of life.

I don't know, looking back over how debilitating my shyness/social anxiety was embarrasses me because I think it's just an extension of vanity now. I know it's not the same exactly but "oh no everyone's looking at me WHAT HORRORS MUST THEY BE THINKING" is just an absurd, self-centered notion to me these days.

but u know it's not just shyness lol and that u can't just 'get a grip'. shyness/anxiety also tend to start AFTER the age of 12 anyway cause that's when u start to care about what ur peers think of u and want to impress people?? even the most confident of people can get nervous at public speaking. yes speaking is a part of life but public speaking isn't? public speaking can be a bit of a skill and it's quite unnatural if u think about it because you're being judged on your abilities sometimes (2 of my speaking presentations in 4th yr uni were graded) and u have to cover points whereas speaking to someone in a normal convo is more natural. I know what ur saying tho bc I agree, people aren't thinking about u as much as u think, so yes it's vain, but u know urself that it's a MENTAL HEALTH disorder therefore u can't just 'get a grip'. not a dig at u btw cause it annoys me how i let social anxiety affect my life for so long but i still feel sorry for people going through it


ANYWAY yeh used to bother me, would get nervous n not be able to eat before it, would get rly red n shaky n want to run out of the room but now it wouldn't bother me that much if it was in a relaxed setting and with other people rather than me presenting myself.

[Inseriousity.]

I actually prefer public speaking to small talk one-on-one (I'm just too blunt and to the point with my answers, I can't sustain a conversation that I'm not interested in very long). Like Tom, I do need to practice beforehand. I've had a few 'blank moments' where my mind has just gone blank so I don't know what I was going to say. Feels like it lasts a lifetime but it's probably not even a minute. Obviously I don't exactly volunteer for public speaking if I can avoid it but I also don't dread it too much.

[Empired]

but u know it's not just shyness lol and that u can't just 'get a grip'. shyness/anxiety also tend to start AFTER the age of 12 anyway cause that's when u start to care about what ur peers think of u and want to impress people?? even the most confident of people can get nervous at public speaking. yes speaking is a part of life but public speaking isn't? public speaking can be a bit of a skill and it's quite unnatural if u think about it because you're being judged on your abilities sometimes (2 of my speaking presentations in 4th yr uni were graded) and u have to cover points whereas speaking to someone in a normal convo is more natural. I know what ur saying tho bc I agree, people aren't thinking about u as much as u think, so yes it's vain, but u know urself that it's a MENTAL HEALTH disorder therefore u can't just 'get a grip'. not a dig at u btw cause it annoys me how i let social anxiety affect my life for so long but i still feel sorry for people going through it

I did say at the beginning that I can understand hating public speaking I was trying to say that extreme reactions in low key situations like that girl in my English are what grated on my nerves.
Or when I overhear people in public (overheard it more at secondary school) saying they can't do X and they can't do Y because of their social anxiety, and it's really extreme on tumblr. I get mental health is different for everyone but like rule 1 of my social anxiety was never talk about social anxiety.

[Cerys]

I did say at the beginning that I can understand hating public speaking I was trying to say that extreme reactions in low key situations like that girl in my English are what grated on my nerves.
Or when I overhear people in public (overheard it more at secondary school) saying they can't do X and they can't do Y because of their social anxiety, and it's really extreme on tumblr. I get mental health is different for everyone but like rule 1 of my social anxiety was never talk about social anxiety.

I shake and stutter etc when someone I don't know well talks to me (e.g. someone from uni) and I wouldn't exactly call that an extreme reaction, it's just who I am. Thinking for that girl to get a grip is so unfair because you don't know what's going through her head. Her shaking/stuttering could even be a reaction to her knowing she shakes and stutters, if you see what I mean
Basically just because it's a low key scenario in your head doesn't mean it is in hers :p

[Empired]

I shake and stutter etc when someone I don't know well talks to me (e.g. someone from uni) and I wouldn't exactly call that an extreme reaction, it's just who I am. Thinking for that girl to get a grip is so unfair because you don't know what's going through her head. Her shaking/stuttering could even be a reaction to her knowing she shakes and stutters, if you see what I mean

I guess so, I already know I'm pretty biased against her as she's the same girl as this one http://www.habboxforum.com/showthrea...852&highlight=

[Matt]

I hate it, I get so worked up over it and hate the thought that people are judging me for how I look/sound/speak/present myself. In saying that, I do better in oral presentations than in essays.

[Julielol]

I die inside ever since I was young