Heartbreaker

[Camy]

I had kinda the same problem irl with someone, not the internet.
Built up a friendship with her at school for like a year and a half, but didnt have the confidence to ask her out, then i got a new friend who gave me the confidence, asked her out, she said no. Didnt speak to her for weeks. then she asked to be ma friend again, and i jst said ok, but i still was madly in love with her, and hurting bad. When it got to the point I couldnt take it anymore, this was probably the week we broke up for xmas holz, i told her how i felt, half an hour l8er she was going out with one of my friends. I was crushed, and angry and so many emotions in one. Then she said they werent going to go out because: " They care about me too much"
At this point i told them to **** off.
The girl came on msn yesterday and told me she missed me soo much and thinks my other friend ( the girl who gave me the confidence to ask her in the first place ) has stolen me from her, and wants us to be friends again.
Tbh I dnt no what to do, I still love her alot, but im mostly over her, and kinda want to be friends cos shes great, but i think ill be hurt too bad when i hav to look at her.

Sorry bout that lol, but mines is kinda similar.

All i can suggest is, go out with friends/ talk to them alot, try and get your mind off of the girl. And eventually after some time, you'll get over her.

[:Delirium]

Mate i feel what u feel right here.. in my heart yeh. Ive had an incident last year with a girl in my school, i loved her to the point where if i asked her out, it last forever, my first experience in true love, i moved the month after i was gunna ask her, and i really didnt because, well, i guess im too timid yeh. Anyways, yesterday, one of her friends who is my friend on facebook posted an album of a sleepover she had, and well the girl i love was at the sleep over and i saw the pics and i flippin felt a stab right there in the heart, i friggin cried for an hour atleast.

I just hope you get through it, i dont recommend long distance relationships/internet relations, its just too tough to handle and stuff. Good luck in future mate!

All the best, Jack.

[Pyroka]

Cheers to all have replied, and I do feel your pain. It's great to have someone to relate to. A week on however, I've actually started building stepping stones towards the friendship we once had, it's progressing very nicely. She sadly (and I mean this in an honest way) split up with her ex boyfriend after 3-4 days due to some other issues, none inflicted by her. It's a shame it happened the cruel way it did for her really... That's why I'm there for her as a friend. Ironic much.

[manga21]

Hi,

I just wanted to share this in an effort to get it out of my system (weird mind ano), but I'm quite literally half the man I was thanks to a girl. I met this girl on the internet, and I swear that I had no idea it would turn from love to.. well I'm still uncertain on what. We talked more and more on MSN, and then eventually we met up in November this year. Probably the best weekend of my life to be truly honest with you all. It was hard though because she lives up north, i live down south (250 miles >_>!)

Thing is though, we always argued. I have a few reasons why we did, like how she was so stubborn and I was so stubborn, and how I wanted the best for her and she just wanted to be with me (at the time). I guess though, the main reason was me, and for a pathetic sad reason, it was me trying to keep her attention on me. It sounds sadder than the Titanic, srsly...

Anyway, time flied and we met up in December again, and I stayed at her house. I thought she was the one tbh, I had all money betting on it. Damnit, I was even planning to move colleges and rent a spare bedroom somewhere, maybe even her house because her sister had moved away recently. When we had to leave eachother, I felt like dying but I thought I'll only see her again. When I get home, I'm so distraught that I actually start shouting at her, I start saying things, because I'm so bloody upset about everything. On last Sunday night, I texted her the bane of all evil, and I told her we didn't have a future together despite I never meant it. I'm not kidding, when I say I started hyper-ventilating once I realised what I had done, which didn't take long really to realise. She still thinks I meant it.

On friday, she decides there's "no future for us" and it "doesn't feel right". I try and try and try to bring it back from the dead, upset as I was. Even my ex-girlfriend had to help me because I thought I lost the will to live... I gave up yesterday upon telling my parents what had happened. I actually thought I may be ok after yesterday was pretty good, and my friends comforted me when I was crying inside. However, I get home in the early morning on this Sunday, and I log onto MSN, and what do you think I find? The girl who I thought loved me, after 3 days of breaking up, is now, yet again, with her ex-boyfriend.

I shouted at her so much last night, nothing I'm proud of but something that had to be done. It's like she couldn't say no to him, however she can say no to me so much. I eventually decide to just get out of her life, to stop giving her grief as yknow, she don't need it and neither do I. I wake up this morning now, and I think to myself "No future for us" and "doesn't feel right" (the only things cycling through my head at the moment) and then I realise:

If there was no future for me and her, then why the hell is she with her ex-boyfriend who lives just as far away as me, and is only a month older than me? :S She's 14 by the way, which did make a considerable thought when she said "no future" but seriously, her and her newly ex boyfriend are in the exact situation me and her were for 6 months. :S I just don't see how she can say "We have no future" because if anything, I had it all planned out for sooner than she thought. -.- Confusion, innit.

Now I feel like I'm going to be sick, I feel so many emotions it's hard to tell whether I love her still, or hate her for breaking my heart and then grinding it up. I can't even decide whether I want to be friends with her, despite I thought she was such a nice person. >_<

I don't know why I'm posting all this on HxF, but I just am, maybe for advice on what I could do to somehow cope, or what people think of the situation... Ugh. I didn't wanna mention any names, but some will know her name. Just don't mention it, nor her boyfriend's name who nearly everyone will know if you say their Habbo Name. :rolleyes:

... I dunno

Hey , I read and had to reply , because I know how your feeling and its awful I know! She isn't worth it , you sound like a nice guy you know and she obviously dosnt really care if she went off with her ex so soon. I know its hard, it will take a while, couple of months , you know? Arnt gunna lie but just keep thinking it will be over soon and it will , my advice is not to be her friend.. its hard to be friends with ex's after you have split up with them because it makes it seem like nothings changed and you just want them back, but if you think you can take it well I mean to get over her you might have to find someone better Or it might take time everyone is different. I was in one for a year and she got with someone 2 weeks after.. that was hard but you get over it and find someone better I hope you will be ok soon