Internet dating/Having a crush on people you talk to online

[lawrawrrr]

I'd say a little bit more than one in a hundred, and why would it be holding yourself back? At the worst, it delays moving forwards, and is that such a bad thing?

Internet dating sites are never going to interest me, people should be able to meet someone on their own, but if I meet someone through a website elsewhere, without having the intention of getting an internet boyfriend, why can that not work? It's just talking - and it's the talking which brings the feelings, I feel.

[PaulMacC]

I'd say a little bit more than one in a hundred, and why would it be holding yourself back? At the worst, it delays moving forwards, and is that such a bad thing?

Internet dating sites are never going to interest me, people should be able to meet someone on their own, but if I meet someone through a website elsewhere, without having the intention of getting an internet boyfriend, why can that not work? It's just talking - and it's the talking which brings the feelings, I feel.

You're young. Go out, meet people, have sex with as many people as possible before you get a permanent partner!. Live life. Holding yourself back in a relationship that elsewhere you could get so much better isnt good.

[Pyroka]

Been there done that, I mean it's totally possible to manage having a crush on someone off the internet & to be attracted to them, but that doesn't necessarily mean it'll work outside of the internet. I've done it twice, and yeah once I made a great friend that I still talk to now (and actually now goes out with one of my mates from my first Secondary school, odds of it are 1 in a million)... and the other one, well everyone knows that story.

I won't judge people who do it unless it's like intercontinental, I mean that really confuses the hell out of me especially when ya so young and tied down to someone else who's not even on the same side of the world as you. I hate internet dating sites though... They seem so seedy & desperate, I mean both times I didn't go out my way to get into a net relationship whereas that is o.o

Hey Paul speaking of having sex and living life, hows your girlfriend, have you rescued her from the clutches of her parents yet LMAO.

[buttons]

It works for like 1 in 100 people lol.

To be honest people need to snap out of the mindset that when they meet someone with similar hobbies, interests and that they can talk to a lot that they'd are soul mates or something. No, they're not. If that was the case it would be statistically impossible for couples to be together. I look at internet dating as kind of sad, I know some people enjoy it but I honestly couldnt go in a relationship without seeing someone 1-2 days a week at the least. I know some people who have long-distance relationships and see each other every 2-3 months but I wouldnt put myself through that, it's holding yourself back really.

well i certainly don't have that mindset at all, being with someone who you have stuff in common with is great. i'd rather be with someone similar to me than different, i don't know what's so impossible about being together that way? confusedd.

You're young. Go out, meet people, have sex with as many people as possible before you get a permanent partner!. Live life. Holding yourself back in a relationship that elsewhere you could get so much better isnt good.

hey, take your own advice you're 17 and you have a girlfriend, why aren't you out having sex with loads of people instead? lol. & i'm pretty sure you're holding yourself back in your relationship but let's not get personal. just don't get your views at all.

[FlyingJesus]

Don't be silly Jen it's already been stated on the forum that once you're 17 you magically mature and become an older person duh

[buttons]

oh i see so we should be out having sex from 13 but as soon as we turn 17 we need to be in a relationship, I GET IT (joke i don't get it i'm 18 and don't have sex with loads of people cause i'm mature)



LIVE LIFE LOL k i want to live my life by not having sex with everyone i meet, am i normal

[lawrawrrr]

I'd prefer to have one permanent partner than a string of meaningless relationships or 'just sex'. I have nothing against going through a string of guys in succession, been there, done that, made me feel empty inside, and not happy.

[FlyingJesus]

Would have thought it'd make you full up inside lololol but yeah sex is disgusting don't do it kids maybe I should e-date then I don't have to touch anyone

[lawrawrrr]

Ahahahahha yeahhh! Right now I'm in a sort of place where I want a meaningful relationship without the physical side - I'm not the sort of person who would just **** any stranger, give me a cuddle over a grope any day!

[Meanies]

if its purely online then no it cant work and is stupid but if theres physical interactions between the two then it can work. i'm in one now and yeah sure we had feelings for eachother while we talked online but wouldnt have said we were anything other than friends, but then after meeting its different because theres that physical side which a relationship needs. cant remember who was saying about people being different online and irl but thats not the case, for us anyway as we were ourselves online and now irl too. plus her mums a personal waiter for us so i could have a fry up and cup of tea waiting for me when i wake up if i wanted it every day, great bonus.