CUT OFF

[GirlNextDoor15]

I am the one who has worked all though high-school and I work all summer. The rest of the family doesn't.

So, you worked for yourself and for ur family too?

[FlyingJesus]

Its not just alcohol. We get nothing. We used to get like random money dumped in our accounts, not now. Our needs are paid for, our wants aren't. I am fairing perfectly fine.

That's still not cut off Being cut off is being left entirely to fend for yourself - something you may be able to do as you keep saying, but not something you're actually being made to do lol

You have to understand how hard it is to earn money. Live by what you have and don't ask for more.

Why? If everything's given to you on a plate what necessity is there to learn what hard living is about? And what does anyone ever achieve by not wanting more?

[GirlNextDoor15]

Why? If everything's given to you on a plate what necessity is there to learn what hard living is about? And what does anyone ever achieve by not wanting more?

You know I always hear people talking about the East-West dichotomy but I barely pay attention to it until you indirectly mentioned it. And the fact that we should live by what we have is already proven when you compare east and west. Not gonna talk much about this. However, we are still young and should learn to work for what we want instead of keep asking for it without realizing how immature that will be. I'm not referring to you, Ash. No worries.

[dirrty]

my mum would never cut me off. she's always asking me if i need/want things and most definitely spoils me (even though i'm 20). but generally, i would never ask my mum for something unless she offered as i'm still quite rational. i've only had 1 job and that was only for 1 month, and the only times i go to bank of mum is when i need to borrow 'x' amount for 2 weeks or so to cover my rent (have to pay before i get my student loan) or delaying paying my car insurance to her for a while (once again, until my loan comes through).even though i am spoilt, that doesn't mean i don't understand what it's like to go through hardship anyway. everything is easier said than done when it comes to money.

and lol, being cut off is receiving nothingfrom whomever you were originally dependent upon. if you receive something, then you haven't been cut off as you're still financially dependent upon them.

[Vause]

my mum would never cut me off. she's always asking me if i need/want things and most definitely spoils me (even though i'm 20). but generally, i would never ask my mum for something unless she offered as i'm still quite rational. i've only had 1 job and that was only for 1 month, and the only times i go to bank of mum is when i need to borrow 'x' amount for 2 weeks or so to cover my rent (have to pay before i get my student loan) or delaying paying my car insurance to her for a while (once again, until my loan comes through).even though i am spoilt, that doesn't mean i don't understand what it's like to go through hardship anyway. everything is easier said than done when it comes to money.

and lol, being cut off is receiving nothingfrom whomever you were originally dependent upon. if you receive something, then you haven't been cut off as you're still financially dependent upon them.

yeah you're mum sounds like mine, she spoils me more than she realizes. she went out yesterday and got me loads of new clothes, and i keep saying to her, it's her money, she needs to to buy herself things.. lol.

[dirrty]

yeah you're mum sounds like mine, she spoils me more than she realizes. she went out yesterday and got me loads of new clothes, and i keep saying to her, it's her money, she needs to to buy herself things.. lol.

she still spoils me mainly because 1. she can, 2. she can, 3. she can lol.

that's what i find annoying about some posts up in this thread which essentially say stop taking money of your parents and sort yourself out. if my parents can financially help/treat me, then why should i turn it down? it ain't hurting my pride accepting stuff from my mum and it sure as hell ain't hurting my wallet, wardrobe etc. i 100% understand about being financially independent, how to look after yourself on a budget, and all that crap. but sometimes i just want to be treated and care more about immediate gratification.

[Vause]

My mum spoils me because she can aswell, but it gets annoying because she never does anything for herself, i have everything i need lol.

I don't expect anything from my mum because as i've said earlier in the post, she works to pay off this house by herself.

[FlyingJesus]

the fact that we should live by what we have is already proven when you compare east and west.

You saying "proven" suggests that you believe only one way of living is correct, which in no way takes the individual into account and condemns all of humanity to uniformity and strict dogmatic process of thought and execution. Regardless of that it's a somewhat invalid point since in both instances people wish to better themselves, which is a natural animal condition and (in most cases) not a harmful one that needs any kind of suppression

we are still young and should learn to work for what we want instead of keep asking for it without realizing how immature that will be.

If you want the Nobel Peace Prize, perhaps, but if there's an easier way to get what you want (being given it, for example) why should anyone deny themselves such bounty? Being servile to society is all good and well if there's no other option or if you prefer to live that way, but there's no innate debt that anyone owes to it so it's hardly fair to say that everyone ought to live for the same ideals

[GirlNextDoor15]

You saying "proven" suggests that you believe only one way of living is correct, which in no way takes the individual into account and condemns all of humanity to uniformity and strict dogmatic process of thought and execution. Regardless of that it's a somewhat invalid point since in both instances people wish to better themselves, which is a natural animal condition and (in most cases) not a harmful one that needs any kind of suppression

With the Eurozone crisis and high unemployment rate at Western countries, you still want to deny that ASIA is stronger than the Western countries? We don't have to take the whole ASIA as an example. Countries like Vietnam and China will make a good example already. It's not just what I think or how I want things to be.

If you want the Nobel Peace Prize, perhaps, but if there's an easier way to get what you want (being given it, for example) why should anyone deny themselves such bounty? Being servile to society is all good and well if there's no other option or if you prefer to live that way, but there's no innate debt that anyone owes to it so it's hardly fair to say that everyone ought to live for the same ideals

I can understand what you're trying to convey here but it's unrealistic. You and I both know there is no easy way to get what you want unless you work for it. We are not living in a fantasy world where everything is given to us on a plate. How ever absurd and heart breaking you might think the truth is, we just have to accept it and live with it until better days which are suitable for changes come.

[dirrty]

I can understand what you're trying to convey here but it's unrealistic. You and I both know there is no easy way to get what you want unless you work for it. We are not living in a fantasy world where everything is given to us on a plate. How ever absurd and heart breaking you might think the truth is, we just have to accept it and live with it until better days which are suitable for changes come.

...speak for yourself. there are probably millions of people in this world who receive everything from their parents/whomever. to them it's not a fantasy world, but rather their own reality which evidently is different to others who don't have access to such luxuries. and nevertheless, everyone doesn't have to work for everything. hell, i've only worked a month in my life, incredibly materialistic and haven't done any deviant acts to acquire things, so evidently there is a easy way to get what you want...